How to communicate better with stubborn children?

The division of labor between parents should be clear!

One sings with a white face, and the other has a black face!

First black face and then white face, think more from the child's point of view, gradually guide the approach, and establish the child's values!

Put yourself in his shoes and try to understand why he thinks the way he does.

Children don't care, it's all about virtue.

In fact, you can reason with the baby in reverse, what the baby doesn't like, you deliberately let him not do anything, and the pro should be more careful in life to find the baby's advantages, more praise the baby happy will be easier to communicate.

If you see that the baby has unreasonable requirements, parents should refuse to see him crying, the heart will be soft, and he will give in to accommodate the baby will make the baby develop a willful habit The more accommodating the baby will be more willful When he grows up, it will be difficult to correct No matter how he cries, don't ignore him Wait for him to make trouble, and then reason with him If the parents compromise because of crying, if they do not meet his requirements in the future, he will cry more desperately to achieve the goal, so the result of laissez-faire is to harm the child.

Little by little persuasion education, if the matter is not big, you can let the child hit the south wall, if the matter is not important, you can let the child suffer a few more losses, the result is different from what you imagined, the parents are right, and slowly they will listen to their parents' opinions.

When the child is stubborn, you must not discipline him, praise the child, and when the child is in a good mood, you tell the child what is wrong with what you are doing, and slowly educate the child.

Get along with your child more, feel your child's needs with your heart, and then give your child what she needs, and you can also guide your child slowly and correctly.

Persistently identify one's own affairs, there will always be times when he thinks the result will not work, and it will not be too stubborn to give an example.

Let's take a look at children's pictorials, books, play with building blocks, puzzles, doodles, and take your time.

You can only keep repeating and repeating and saying to your baby in a way that encourages you.

Play with him a lot, and then communicate with him.

A little more patience, a little more perseverance.

It can be changed according to his interests.

In fact, the baby can still listen to the truth, as long as it is guided correctly.

Know what he's thinking.

In fact, I think that this explanatory letter has its own ideas, whether it is wrong or right, so parents should support him, if you only follow the parents' ideas, then you think about it, if your child is only to love your way to do it, Zen stupid, then he is not the same as a robot, first of all, you have to think that this child is right is right, that is, it may be in a certain thing, like doing the right thing, But if he says that he is doing this as a measure, but he still thinks that self-integration is correct, then it belongs, it is not right, but how should he be guided as a parent. First of all, you have to let him understand that you can have your own opinions, but you can't think that your own opinions are all correct, you have to have the concept of judging right and wrong, although you have this opinion, but you have to know whether my opinion is right or not, if you have the child understands this truth, then you also have to give him, give some examples, because the child still meets, examples, will back down, so you can also do some unique things, that is, himself, what he does wrong is what he wants to do but finally get some. Some things that didn't turn out very well.

I think in this case, for the child may change the distance is relatively large, if this is not successful, that is, the address is not successful, then you can tell him that you say that you think all your suggestions are right, you can have your own ideas but you don't think any idea is right, if I want you to do something, you can also say, I think, let you do what, that is, as a parent, you want him to do how to do, you tell your thoughts, I have such thoughts, do you think all my thoughts are right, you have to make him understand that it is right to have your own ideas, but not your ideas are acceptable to others and your ideas are all right.

As a parent, you should guide your child correctly, tell your child what things can be done and what things can not be done, when there is a quarrel with a child, first keep calm, so that the child can slowly calm down, some children's personality is more stubborn, can not be hard-hitting.

Children are always opinionated. How did it form such a habit? Environment.

A lot of this is the influence of parents. Because now families pay more attention to the child's personality, persistence is also a manifestation of strong will. So, what is the difference between persistence and stubbornness?

When you praise your child for his strong will, because his choices are in line with the parents' wishes, when criticizing the child for always being stubborn, the child's opinion is contrary to your wishes, or there are differences. So, how should parents communicate when parents and children have different opinions?

The status of parents and children is not the same. However, when communicating, parents must put down their shelves, lower their posture, and communicate with their children on an equal footing.

The difference of opinion between the two sides is often due to the fact that the starting point of the two sides is different, that is, the perspective of looking at things is ominous. Children lack experience and tend to see things one-sidedly. It is precisely because of the lack of experience that there are no more rules and regulations.

On the contrary, Yu Yanla has more imagination. Therefore, at the beginning of communication, the child should finish the sentence and express his meaning completely. Never simply use two or three words to evaluate.

Then, you tell your child your opinion and the basis on which it was generated. Qinghua can also make an objective analysis of your description of the child. Never use your parental identity to oppress others.

Children who know how to listen to advice have their own decision-making skills.

As the child grows up, so does his sense of autonomy. Children begin to realize that they are an independent individual, and have their own opinions and ideas about some things, and when the children's ideas are different from the adults' ideas, the children tend to stick to their own ideas.

If children develop the habit of making their own decisions, they will not be willing to listen to the opinions of others, and such children will prefer to go their own way, which will often put parents in an embarrassing situation.

Children who know how to be flexible generally have their own decision-making ability, have their own decision-making ability, have their own opinions, can listen to the opinions of others, and make adjustments to their own inappropriate behavior, and will not stick to their own opinions.

For example, when you can do something and when you can't do something.

What happens if you don't cooperate with your parents.

Is it something that you are willing to accept or not?

When you encounter a conflict, how do you solve it?

All of these allow children to unconsciously learn to respect or resist their parents' authority, cooperate with their parents' suggestions or expand their authority, until finally form a behavioral habit.

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Children who do not listen to their parents' advice are not doing a good job in this area.

When children do not listen to suggestions, we are accustomed to reasoning with children, although reasoning is an educational method worth advocating, but we only talk about the big truth, but do not let the children reflect in specific behaviors, then the result is that although the children listen to what we say, but do not put into action.

I remember reading such a story:

The child watched cartoons, the time was too long, the mother reasoned with him, and after watching the truth that the time is harmful to the eyes, the child nodded after understanding it, and then said to the mother: "I'll watch it for a while." Mom told him to watch it for a little longer.

However, after a short while, the child still said, after watching it for a while, the mother continued to reason, and the child still did not carry it out, and such behavior will make the child understand that the parents' advice can be used as a "deaf ear".

Parents need to understand the behavior of children who do not resist their parents' advice verbally but do not implement them in action, and adopt corresponding strategies to promote their children's execution.

We can teach children to learn to read the time, the hands on the clock are "a little while", parents should also urge their children to implement while reasoning with their children.

If your child is obstinate, does not listen to the advice of others, and gradually forms a habit of thinking and way of doing things, he may be unpopular with his peers. Therefore, the good habit of listening to other people's suggestions actually exercises children's ability to communicate and cooperate and share.

A great way to train hungry children to be good at listening to advice.

The child is young and inexperienced, and many problems do not know how to deal with them. As parents, we must give our children some pertinent advice to guide them to make the right choice.

So, how to give advice to the child, the child will.

First of all, I think you have to learn to listen, because listening is actually a process. Let the child express his bad emotions, including bad thoughts, or some grievances he has received, or judge and approve the expression, and then give a certain understanding, and then give a certain guidance, and then give a hungry and hungry help, maybe the child will think that this is a very good way to communicate. It shouldn't mean that the child has not listened to it, and after the ins and outs of this matter, you immediately give him an instruction, or immediately give him a help that you think is beneficial to him.

In fact, the child doesn't know what you do, but what he may need more is to let him freely express his emotions, freely express his views on the good and bad, there is such a person who understands him very well and agrees with him very much. And then you have the right influence, or you can say that, what will happen to me when I touch this matter, he will think that it is like this, and you will have this emotion, and you will be like this. Then you give him a relatively reasonable suggestion, and then he will express himself freely, and he will choose, in his own opinion, a way that should be done, in this communication, we say that it is more effective.

Children are always stubborn, how can parents communicate correctly. Each child's growth period will have more or less their own ideas and suggestions, as a parent, should be correctly guided to wear children, tell children what things can be done, what things can not be done, when there is a quarrel with the child, first keep calm, so that the child can slowly calm down, some children's personality is more stubborn and stubborn, can not be hard.

1.Open the "Psychological Lockin". When parents and children disagree, many children's first reaction is that "parents don't understand themselves and don't consider their feelings", especially when children's opinions are often ignored.

Therefore, to a certain extent, parents still have to respect their children's opinions and not let their children feel that they are "unimportant"...

2.Build a chain or count the "bridge of the heart". In psychology and negotiation, there is a method called "building a bridge of the heart".

If you want to convince someone, you score two steps, first to A and then to B, as if building a bridge between agreement and disapproval. What does the group code mean? You have to fully accept his opinions and feelings.

If the child is particularly rebellious, then it may be because his parents will stifle any ideas he has, and the parents' opinions are contrary to his opinions, so this kind of rebellious psychology will arise in his heart. At this time, the parents can no longer come to the tough measures, because if the argument is like this, the children can only become more and more disgusted.

When watching TV dramas, we can always see such clips, obviously the child wants to go outside to play football, but the parents let him study at home, the parents have been forcing the child to study, forcing the child to study for how many hours a day, so that the child has no freedom at all, and the child's pressure is particularly high, so all the emotions that he has accumulated completely burst out: Mom, have you ever thought about what I want?

Yes, there are many parents who have never considered what their children want, but just imposed their personal wishes on their children, they have not completed the goal, and want their children to complete, in fact, the child is just an ordinary person, if they are not healthy in their hearts, then how can they have a good academic performance? Therefore, at this time, parents should relax the management appropriately, and communicate with the child as much as possible, try to understand what the child wants, and then meet the child's wishes as much as possible. If your child wants to play, let him play and see when he can play enough.

Parents must no longer take tough measures to promote the group, must pay attention to communication, think from the child's point of view, if necessary, you can also play with them, enter their world, enter their minds, and then you can ask your child, what do you want to do in the future? What is the dream? If you don't study, what will you do in the future?

Children should understand the importance of learning, but also let them combine work and rest, learn when they should study, and play when they should play. In this way, you can have a relatively healthy body and mind.