What kind of person is he who longs for attention in life and likes to be lonely?

In fact, there are many such people, low self-esteem and self-confidence, but a little more inferiority, and at the same time not very good at socializing, like to live alone, but because they are too lonely to hope that others can pay attention to themselves, and because they are relatively inferior, they are not very good at using some methods to make others pay attention to themselves, so they just want someone to pay attention to themselves.

In fact, most of them have such a tendency, except for those who can easily navigate the crowd and completely like someone, most of them are people who crave attention in life, and at the same time they don't know how to use some methods, but they are used to being lonely.

They are all normal people, but because of their personality or other reasons, they are not comfortable in social interactions, so that they can't ignore themselves, and at the same time they like a person and can't be alone all the time, they still have to be with the crowd, but such people balance the crowd and loneliness, but they are not particularly perfect.

But this kind of life is only known to oneself, whether a person wants to be noticed is also only known by oneself, some people will work hard for the attention of others, and some people do everything possible not to want others to pay attention to themselves and enjoy a person's life, most of these people are not much in the crowd, like to sit in the corner, hoping that others can notice themselves, and at the same time enjoy sitting alone there.

But such people will definitely change, because such a state is actually an immature idea, and it will slowly become a comfortable idea of enjoying loneliness or being comfortable with socializing, and few people have been in this state, as far as I know, such a state also mostly appears in young people, because as they get older, there will be little time to pay attention to such problems, and at the same time, there are many people who will continue to like loneliness, and some people will continue to like socializing, as for the balance between loneliness and socialization, then it is really a master.

Actually, I think I'm this kind of person, and I'm hungry for attention, because then I feel like I'm still important, and others remember me, but at the same time I like to be alone, and I really like it. I like it because it's my own space and I don't like to share everything with others, so I feel safe and no one else knows my little secrets.

I don't like people to bother me, doesn't that just like being lonely? Actually, I don't think this kind of person is strange, it's not because I'm this kind of person. This kind of person is actually inferior and insecure.

In fact, this kind of person knows, for example, I also know the same. We have low self-esteem, maybe many of these people have a good family environment, and they have not encountered any difficulties in life, but it is really difficult to control whether they have inferiority. In fact, people will have a little inferiority complex, because no matter how good you are, there are still people who are better than you.

Therefore, this inferiority complex will make people like loneliness, and their inferiority complex will naturally have a particularly strong self-esteem, so they like loneliness because no one else will know that you are actually inferior, and at the same time, he will want others to pay attention to him because of this inferiority, so that his inferiority complex will not be so serious. I think a lot of people have that. There are also reasons for the need for a sense of security.

However, I'm a little better now than before, because I know it's not good, so I try to enlighten myself so that I don't want to go on like this, and the effect is quite good. So, I also hope that people with this mentality should try to change it as much as possible.

In fact, I think I'm such a person, eager to get attention and be valued, but I also like the feeling of being a person very much, very leisurely, very comfortable, not so many constraints, do whatever you want!

Contradiction, to be honest, it sounds quite contradictory, but I want to say that in fact, most people are like this, people are a combination of contradictions, and there is no progress without contradictions.

of satisfaction and feelings. Because many people can't really feel the value of their existence, too low cognition tells everyone that being paid attention to by more people means their own value. Some of the unsung heroes may not be known until they die, or they may be hundreds or thousands of years later.

We crave recognition, but also an explanation of ourselves and motivate ourselves to move forward.

Liking solitude doesn't mean that we don't accept others, maybe we're more used to being free and preferring a relaxed, carefree life. Loneliness does not mean loneliness, we can fit in with many people, but there must be something unique in our hearts, so that we can feel our own worth.

We have to admit that this feeling of loneliness is longed for by most people, because there is a word called Shendu.

Even when you are alone, you also restrain your words and deeds. Then it is not difficult to conclude that a person is the time when we are most free of ourselves, and the liberation of nature is always at this moment.

In fact, no matter what, everyone wants to prove their worth, whether it is to prove it to others or to themselves, they are competing with themselves, because in this way they can feel that they are "living", meaningful and arrogant "living".

There is never a moment more gratifying than the one that allows us to shuttle freely between recognition and self, just as the sun and the moon are alternating, and every pursuit will change.

If I said I was such a person, you wouldn't hit me, would you? I just like to be alone, in the summer vacation of the second year of junior high school, I went out of the house once, and that time because the instant noodles were gone, so strictly speaking, I am not only a person who likes to be alone, but also an otaku. That's who I am, an ordinary person, and I really like to be noticed, and I think that gives me a sense of accomplishment, I don't know if it's good or bad, but the feeling in my heart tells me that I should be noticed.

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When I talk to a group of people, I usually talk about something new or tell a few jokes to keep other people's eyes on me, and I feel like a clown, trying to express myself in order to please others. I think the desire to be noticed is a normal phenomenon, and this desire will gradually disappear as you get older, so it is clear that the younger you are, the more you want to be noticed. There is also loneliness, loneliness is a psychological feeling, it has nothing to do with whether there are friends or colleagues around, you can feel lonely when you are happy, and you can also feel lonely when you are sad.

Longing for attention and liking loneliness can't be a contradiction, I like loneliness, but sometimes I want to be noticed, I'm the type in the question, what kind of person am I, I feel like I'm just an ordinary person who wants to get people's attention, no one says that they like to be alone, people like me in China, I don't dare to say that there are tens of millions of people, hundreds of thousands of people still have, because I think it's just a normal phenomenon. Loneliness has always been in my heart and has never left, but while enjoying solitude, I want to be noticed, just like being in the dark and longing for light, but the two are not opposites. If you meet someone like me in the future, please don't look at him with strange eyes, an encouragement and a smile may change his all.

It is a kind of person who has an inferiority complex in his heart. They have a deep opinion about something in their hearts and want to tell the world loudly, but something in their hearts makes him not confident enough, so he can only keep silent again and again, and declare that loneliness is precious.

I have always been unconfident in my voice, because the fire caused irreparable damage to my vocal cords, so I was destined to be more afraid of facing my own voice. I tried my best to get out of the shadows, now you can't see what is wrong with me, I buried the inferiority complex deep in my heart, but from time to time it will still come up, I am more interested in speeches, and I prefer those who can speak boldly in public and ask questions, but every time I type the manuscript many times is the lack of that courage, I am very eager for others to pay attention to my shining point, but I am afraid that others will only stare at my voice, so I like to be lonely. Because when you are lonely, you can think about a lot of things, immerse yourself in your own world, where there is no ridicule and sarcasm, there is only your own soul in the depths of your heart.

So I know this kind of people very well, they crave attention on the one hand, and loneliness on the other, they are a combination of contradictions, they hide an inferiority complex deep inside, if you want to make friends with them, then don't just be in their minefield. In addition, this kind of person tends to have strong self-esteem, is also very sensitive, and is more suspicious by nature. Sometimes it gives people a feeling that they are not approachable, they are not trying to show off on purpose, but they are not good at communicating with others, and they are often at a loss to do it.

Understand them better.