How can couples who recognize different things communicate?

That's why everyone thinks that marriage must be a matter of the people, and the right person is not only about wealth, but also about the three views of two families and two people, and even whether two people can have the same hobbies.

But in today's society, there seem to be many special cases of people who are not in the right household, whether it is those money worshippers.

Marrying a rich man, or those phoenix men.

Inverted doors. Of course, the perception is not the same as the above, but there are indeed many such couples now, such as those in their thirties who feel that it is time to get married, and they find a similar marriage.

As a husband and wife, I must know very well, that is, the way of thinking.

I think there are many things that can be done to change this situation, the first is to communicate more, this communication can be to ask, ask each other's opinions more, these exchanges by a person's initiative and a person's passivity will become two people's communication, and after a long time, two people will often communicate together.

And it is also recommended to cultivate the same hobbies, even if the cognition is different, but you can still cultivate some of the same hobbies, such as reading, watching movies, etc., even if you can't see a piece of it, you can also cooperate with each other, such as the other party likes **, you like professional knowledge, you can go to watch some of the other party's like**, or the other party likes to watch comedy, you like to watch science fiction, you can also cater to the other party to watch movies together, and there is no conflict.

Continue to run in the relationship, adjust your state to the stage of falling in love, don't think that you don't need to be romantic when you are married, buy some gifts occasionally, you will definitely find unexpected results, and you still need to continue to cultivate emotionally, because there is a relationship with marriage, which will make the speed of such emotional cultivation very fast.

Husband and wife should have nothing to talk about, nothing to hide, nothing to look down on each other, and what should be said, but because of their respective working relationships, their respective social status, and the daily working environment, the company's degree of power, is the idea that the company instills every day, and the economic gap may make the two people who are so close to the husband and wife estranged, and there is a difference in cognition.

In fact, there are still certain difficulties in communication, and there is actually a little gap between the two people at this time, from very small at the beginning to very large, and slowly becoming more and more out of control. <>

First of all, no matter what kind of position you have when you are at work, what kind of position you have in your company, how many employees you have, how many people you can command, and how big your temper is raised in the company, but as long as you come home, please put away your work ability, don't bring the emotions at work, whether it is bad temper, and strong to life, your husband, your wife is not your employee, not your subordinate, he does not need to be suppressed by you, the two people are equal at home. There is no rank, no matter how much or how little you earn, it is not your temperamental capital. Your wife didn't marry you because you had money or no money, and now there is no reason to give her face everywhere because of money.

It's a matter of your personality.

Secondly, I think that husband and wife must first learn to tolerate and learn to be patient, sometimes the other party is indeed excessive, but if you lose your temper more, is it louder than anyone's voice, and whoever has a big temper can win or whatever. The real life of two people is inevitably firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, there are not so many ways, it is all trivial things in life, if you have to take care of everything, are you not tired, are the two people not tired, you still have children, and parents, the old and the young. If it's just for their own momentary victory, isn't it too selfish, people who know how to tolerate can generally last.

It is actually quite distressing for two people with different outlooks on life to get married. So choosing the right partner is a very important thing. And if you are unfortunate enough to form a family with a person who knows differently, you need to run in a little more.

It must be very tiring for two people with different outlooks on life to live together. There will also be a lot of troubles in life. So it's important to learn how to communicate with each other.

In fact, it takes a process for two people to go from not knowing each other to acquaintance, and then to forming a family. Two people who have been exposed to different environments for more than 20 years. Living together, there will be some friction to a greater or lesser extent.

This is what the fathers often say, how can the lid of the pot not touch the pot table.

I think the most important thing for couples to be together is to learn to tolerate and understand each other. Don't say two people who don't know each other together. Even if two people with the same outlook on life live together, there will be some differences to a greater or lesser extent.

Because after all, those are two different people. There will be a difference in how many of them.

So how to communicate effectively, the first thing you should learn is empathy. When something comes out, you think it's how it should be handled. But that's what she wanted to do.

You think, is it supposed to be like this, why do you think like that? The first thing you have to think about is not to change the other person's mind. It's about thinking objectively about why he thinks the way he does.

And then work together to find a better solution, of course, all this is premised on two people being able to tolerate and understand each other. 、

Therefore, if you want to communicate correctly with people with different cognitions, the first thing is to learn to treat things politely, and then come up with an understanding attitude to negotiate with her. Slowly run into each other, and gradually you will become more and more united.

After different cognitions, it is good to empathize, think from the other person's point of view, and then tolerate different points of view, and take a step back when there is a dispute.

You should try to talk more and then try to understand the other person's mind and then make a unified decision.

It is still better to communicate more calmly and then come to a common conclusion on some things.

It's not easy to say.,Rely on your own understanding of your other half.,My husband and I just know differently.,The two of us only communicate when we have something to do.,There's nothing to do and rarely chat.,It's very boring!

1.Coffee or tea: Chat in a café or teahouse, try different drinks, and get to know each other.

2.Stroll through the park: Take a walk in the park and enjoy the natural scenery while chatting and relaxing.

3.Go to a museum or art gallery: visit exhibitions, admire artworks, exchange understanding and appreciation of art.

4.Play board games or board games: Enhance interaction and communication in the game, and at the same time increase the fun of interaction and competition.

5.Fitness or sports: Going to the gym or sports venue together to exercise is also a process of encouraging and supporting each other.

6.Participate in cultural activities: such as ** meetings, drama performances, film festivals, etc., to enjoy cultural activities together and enhance common interests.

7.Learn new skills: Learning cooking, painting, calligraphy, etc. together can not only increase skills, but also enhance communication and interaction.

8.Travel or outing: Go on a trip or outing together, experience different cultures and landscapes, and increase each other's experiences and common topics.

Dear, usually communicate more, interact more, and be more sincere between two people.

1. Learn to listen properly.

To understand and comprehend the other person's meaning correctly, feel the emotions first and then think about what the other person needs, and do not rush to express your thoughts or suggestions first.

Learning to listen is the first element of effective communication, because if you don't even know what the other person means, what feelings and needs you want to express, how can you make the communication between the couple go smoothly? If you don't learn to listen properly, both parties will only vent their emotions and dissatisfactions, regardless of the other person's opinions and ideas, which will only make the bad intimacy worse. 2. Give feedback or response appropriately.

Give feedback based on the other person's feelings and needs, and avoid responding only based on your own thoughts or after being tested.

Many times husband and wife are accustomed to loving each other for reasons such as "I am for your good", but they don't know that the other party does not appreciate such a "in the name of love", because you don't know what the other party really wants and what the needs are, but to carry out it in their own habits and ways of dealing with it, so it is easy for both parties to fall into an embarrassing situation, and they will feel that the other party does not understand themselves, does not love themselves, and does not know what they want, and the conflict and contradictions will only escalate.

A Guide to Ritualistic Marriage, Life, and Family.

1. Daily work planning and living budget: Every day the husband and wife have a plan for the day's work and talk to each other about the pressure, in addition, make a relevant budget for the day and the next few days. 2. Research on Educational Regulation:

Summarize and study the child's physical condition and academic performance, such as calcium deficiency cramps and ADHD, as well as the child's academic performance decline countermeasures, personality and precocious puberty prevention, etc. For example, file 3 of the couple's surrounding relationship and sexual affairs confided: the husband and wife make a relevant assessment of the surrounding relationship and the budget for the recent "share money", and the second answer is about the planning of the sexual affairs and the countermeasures to existing problems.

Husbands and wives should live in harmony with each other, support each other, be considerate and helpful!

Husbands and wives should live in harmony, respect each other, and communicate with each other sincerely.

If you feel that these disagreements have had an impact on your relationship, then we can consider the following:

1.Honesty refers to treating each other: express your own views, opinions, and ideas truthfully, so that each other can understand each other's ideas, and then deepen mutual understanding and communication.

2.Mutual respect: Even if two people have different views, you need to respect each other's views and try to understand each other's positions in order to communicate and communicate better.

3.Look for commonalities: Look for the commonalities between the two as much as possible, and engage in more exchanges similar to interests, hobbies, etc., to increase each other's attractiveness. At the same time, consensus can also be reached by looking for commonalities in issues where there are differences.

4.Accept it calmly: If the disagreement is too big and you can't reach a consensus, you don't have to twist it together, you can accept the other party's opinion, and find a person and relationship that is more suitable for you.

It should be noted that there is no standard for these four points, and they need to be flexibly applied according to the specific situation. At the same time, we must also know that in interpersonal relationships, respecting, understanding and trusting each other is an important foundation for maintaining relationships.

1. Share life materials.

We can start with life, for example, if you watched a movie today, summarize a few good points and share them with each other. Or if you encounter a few challenges in your work today, you can also talk about them as a topic. At the end of the day, it's about absorbing new things and sharing them when communicating.

Keep injecting new material into the relationship, and the new books, movies, or insights you have at work can be converted into new content to communicate with the partner. The key is to have the awareness of continuous accumulation and sharing, and bring new things to the relationship.

2. The ** of a certain thing itself.

The first type is news events, such as the two sides, both the confrontation of values, and the process of achieving harmony and unity. The second type is the envy of things between friends, such as so-and-so divorced, you can talk about opinions. The third category is the perception of movies and books.

3. Look forward to the future together.

Let's talk about future plans together, understand each other's needs, see if there are more things we want to do together, learn to paint together, go shopping together, climb mountains together, etc., and enhance each other's sense of participation.

1. Be considerate of each other and care more about each other.

2. Understand each other and think from each other's point of view.

3. Caring for each other, husband and wife as a family, not only love, but also family affection.

4. Take your children out often, children are the crystallization of your love, and they are also the bond of your relationship.

5. Communicate more and try to change some concepts.

You must first confess your state and thoughts before it is possible to get the other party's confession Heart to heart The two parties who are not frank enough to hide as many concerns as there are in their hearts, and they can confess to each other to have enough trust, then the next communication is from the heart, natural and effective.

Confess your thoughts, understand his thoughts, and understand clearly that you are communicating. Think more from the other person's point of view.