My boyfriend is always very perfunctory in giving gifts, doesn t he love me?

Let's sort out the problem first: "My boyfriend is always perfunctory when he gives gifts, doesn't he love me?" ”。As an emotional counselor who has been in contact with many cases of marriage and love, I am no stranger to this question.

Today I will answer this question from a psychological perspective and my personal experience in counseling.

First of all, it is always perfunctory to give gifts to your boyfriend, and it is very unscrupulous to conclude that you don't love you. I'll talk about that in more detail below.

The matter of "giving gifts" is essentially a difference in thinking between men and women.

Recently, it seems to be Christmas Eve again, Christmas is about to New Year's Eve, and this is still more than a month away from the Spring Festival, and this Spring Festival is immediately followed by another annual Valentine's Day. Strictly speaking, it is a simple matter to give gifts, but what kind of gift to give, whether this gift is heartfelt, whether it can be sent to the girl's heart, this is another matter. Let's take a look at the boys' perspectives on this matter.

Boys may think that when giving gifts, we may have been together for a long time, and the old husband and wife don't need to care too much, try to give or not send, or just have a simple meal for two people. In addition, the boy may be at the end of the year, and he is busy in all aspects of work, which is a lot of things, if two people have reached the point where they are about to get married, the boy may have the pressure of a car and house loan, and it will cost a lot of money to get married. At this time, boys don't have much motivation to pick gifts for girls.

Then change to the girl's point of view, the girl gets the information from, for example, the social circle, the circle of friends, what the girlfriend's boyfriend gave or something, how much money, the girlfriend not only posted her affection in the circle of friends, she told the girl alone. There is also a colleague Xiao A who is not very good-looking, and his work ability is average, and her boyfriend also arranged a big surprise for him on this holiday, and also gave him a gift or something.

This kind of comparison and show-off of the circle of friends is unbearable for ordinary people, and there must be psychological fluctuations, and they will wonder why I don't have it, why didn't my boyfriend give it to me? I want a sense of ritual too? At this moment, there will be a contrast, and if there is a contrast, it is easy to have negative emotions, so I began to say or hint directly to my boyfriend, why did you not give gifts during the holidays, just perfunctory to me, boys may have boys' hardships, and the two will quarrel when they come and go, and the conflict will easily rise to the topic of love and non-love.

In fact, in this matter, it is just that boys and girls have different views and ways of thinking.

Boys may think more long-term, while girls just want a little sense of ceremony, I believe that most girls don't have that strong vanity, and they don't have to be that expensive gift. In fact, what he wants more is to be paid attention to by his boyfriend, treated with his heart, and have a sense of ritual with those two people.

My boyfriend is always very perfunctory in giving gifts, doesn't he love me?

A: When your boyfriend gives a gift, it makes you feel perfunctory, which means that you are not completely sure of the relationship in his mind. There is also the possibility that in his world, there is also his girl, who is in the observation period.

There is also a kind of person, no matter what he does, in the eyes of others, there is always a perfunctory and dealing feeling, alas, the world is so big, there are no surprises.

When you meet such a person, you are still serious and careful, and making friends is a major event in life, so don't do it hastily.

First of all, you have to ask the other way around, whether you give your boyfriend gifts "with heart" or not, whether you do what you like, and whether there is often a sense of reward - if you don't pay much attention to the gifts you give to the other party, or give them gifts in a lofty posture, don't expect the other party not to make you feel perfunctory.

Secondly, if your boyfriend doesn't care about you, why should he give you a gift, even if it's a gift that makes you feel perfunctory, or if you ask for it? At this time, this kind of "perfunctory gift" is the best mutual temptation between the two parties, if the three views do not agree, even if he loves you again, you don't have to maintain such a relationship.

Finally, using the gift itself to test the other person's dedication to themselves and the degree of willingness to give up their interests for themselves is a shallow and meaningless way. One of the key points is not to think of yourself as special as having to ask for only two kinds of people in the other world's (you and everyone else) once you've decided on a relationship – even if you can think of it as one direction.

If your boyfriend is very perfunctory in giving gifts, it is likely that he is not very attentive to you, if he really likes you, then he will do his best to give you the best even if the financial ability does not allow, but it is also possible that he is more straight and does not know your preferences, you can try to communicate with him and maybe you can get the answer.

The word perfunctory depends on how the subject defines it, 1If the boyfriend is a gift that he has given as much as he wishes, but the subject is not satisfied, this is not called perfunctory, this is a situation where communication and understanding are not in place, the subject only needs to communicate with the boyfriend more; 2.The gift given by the boyfriend is casual and perfunctory that most people recognize, that is, the other party is not attentive enough to you, if the subject is willing to continue to interact with the other party, then it is best to communicate with the boyfriend as soon as possible, if the dissatisfaction has accumulated too much and does not want to continue, then it is best to cut off as soon as possible and let each other go.

There are boys who will mistakenly give Mac lipstick to Apple computers.,There are also six-year-old raffia male protagonists.,It's up to the subject to judge for himself.。

Love is mutual, and only if you love Him can you feel from the bottom of your heart that He loves you and vice versa!

In addition, there is a possibility that he is already very serious and wholeheartedly, maybe he can't give you the best, but he has already given you what he has, in your opinion, this is far from enough, if so, then, he is not your dish, your requirements, for him not to reach!

In addition, he is indeed perfunctory, maybe, you are just an object of his thinking, or a spare tire, no matter what, he is not worth your expectations, this kind of pay is so unserious, don't expect him to give you a good future.

It doesn't really matter whether you love you or not, girls don't think that boys love you because of boy gifts, people with a strong desire to control are more likely to hurt girls, he is used to controlling everything, controlling your life, making you accustomed to his arrangement, and becoming only him in life, at this time you have to be vigilant, without your own life circle, you will inevitably become more dependent on this boy, but there must be friction between two people together, after your life circle becomes small, Your friction will be difficult to solve, because you are relying on him wholeheartedly, and you have no friends around you, and at this time, you are dependent on him, and there are problems in the relationship, which is not conducive to the harmonious development of the relationship between the sexes in the long run.

Your boyfriend is always very perfunctory, which means that he doesn't love you so much, especially when you give some gifts, you can usually observe your boyfriend's words and deeds to see if he has real feelings for you.

Yes, giving gifts is always very perfunctory, which can show that you are sure that your boyfriend does not love you at all, does not love you at all, does not love you at all, he just uses you as a tool for falling in love, and when he finishes using you, he throws you away like garbage, and breaks up as soon as possible, otherwise it will be more perfunctory to you after marriage, and then you will be hurt more and you will be more painful.

You don't have any description, and it's hard to tell if it's perfunctory what you say.

If you're just measuring it by value, then I don't think you love each other very much.

If your boyfriend has a very perfunctory attitude and picks some random things as gifts, it may mean that you are really not that important in his heart, or it may be that your boyfriend is lazy, giving gifts is a process of giving, and it also requires mental effort, maybe he thinks it doesn't matter.

The most important thing is that you communicate, you have to make it clear that you value the gift very much, and you hope that he will take it seriously. If he still does the same thing as before after communication, either your boyfriend's emotional intelligence is not good, or your communication fails.

The boyfriend gives gifts, which is very perfunctory, this is not a lack of love, it is a thrifty life. There is no need to grit your teeth and send too valuable in order to show love.

It's possible that I don't love you anymore, because if the person who loves you cares about everything, let alone giving gifts, so he doesn't love you if he is so perfunctory.

Maybe I love you but don't understand you, maybe I understand you and don't love you. You have to ask, if you don't understand, just ask, just ask to understand, love doesn't depend on guessing, how tiring it is, guess every day, that's ambiguous, you don't need to be boyfriend and girlfriend, just ask.

It's very perfunctory to give gifts, at least he still gives!

It's much better than those who forget or don't even care about their wedding anniversary!

Secondly, the perfunctory gift is only perfunctory for you, after all, in the case of a dog, it thinks the bones are delicious, so what it is willing to share with you is the bones!

Sometimes boyfriends are like this, after all, some scientists name viruses after their girlfriends!

If you want to find out if he is perfunctory to you, you need to see how well he usually treats other affairs!

Not necessarily. Gift-giving does not necessarily reflect one's love for another, and some people may be more focused on other aspects of care and expression. Additionally, people may sometimes give gifts that aren't quite appropriate or don't live up to their expectations, which doesn't necessarily mean they don't care about each other or don't love each other.

Therefore, one should not be judged solely on the choice of gift for loving another. If you're feeling uneasy or unsure, it's best to communicate directly with your boyfriend to understand his thoughts and motivations.

If your boyfriend picks a gift for you, he doesn't care. Always perfunctory to you. Then it means that he doesn't care about you in his heart. Because the people who love you will understand your preferences and will definitely choose the gifts that make you happy when buying gifts.

One, you don't like the type of gift, this is often encountered, some boys are not born to please women's brain cells.

If that's the case, you can either direct or indirectly guide her to hint at what kind of gift you need. You can't expect every man to understand women very well, and many men have little experience in falling in love for the first time. I believe that if you say it directly, he will change, so that you can also test whether your position in his heart is important or not, and how much he loves you.

Second, the gift is too cheap and I don't like it, if so, it depends on your boyfriend's financial strength. Then you can judge if he is a stingy person, and if your boyfriend does this to everyone around him, that's fine. You can grasp the financial power like many women, and when the power is in hand, it doesn't matter whether the gift is given or not, and you give him so much pocket money every month.

Giving you a gift will also feel like your own money.

I think you really shouldn't accept expensive gifts when you fall in love, and it's also a burden if your boyfriend wants to worry about it when you break up, it's best to fall in love AA, and gifts should be given to each other, showing that you care about each other and remember those important days.

I don't know if the situation I analyzed is the same as yours, if so, I hope it will be useful to you. I wish you can deal with this problem well, if two people love each other, there is no need to twist and pinch it, just say it directly. After not liking the first few happy acceptances, your boyfriend may always feel that you like the gift he gave, so it's an endless loop, this is not a big problem, just deal with it early, and finally wish your love a long time.

I think you can accept this gift, because after all, that is also the other person's heart, and if you don't accept it, the other person will be disappointed.

You should happily accept this gift, because by doing so, you can gain the favor of your boyfriend.

Of course, I directly told my boyfriend what I felt, so there was no need to hide it.