Parents manage what their children need to do

Hello, your question is a very common one. Let's talk about my own and others' practices for your reference.

One is to manage children well, first of all, to manage yourself! The aim is to set a good example for the child and manage the child better. As parents, we should regulate our words and deeds, say positive things, do not use swearing, respect teachers, respect elders, and respect others.

Do your job conscientiously and tell your partner and children about how you do your job or career well. Do everything carefully at home, adults should live in harmony with each other, and try not to meet children if there are any disputes, especially for children's education. Parents should also have the habit of reading and learning at home.

Don't gamble, don't drink too much, don't read unhealthy books and audio-visuals, don't say unhealthy things, don't say boring things, and give your child an impression of quality. Don't be discouraged when you encounter difficulties and give your child a strong impression! When there is a conflict between education and teaching with the teacher or the school, don't say this is not good or that it is not good in front of the child.

You can communicate with the teacher and the school privately.

The second is for children. First of all, we must give love to our children, and this love is not coddling. Be concerned in the body and care in life.

In life, learning, moral requirements must be strict. Always teach your child not to love other people's things, even if you like things very much, and tell your child what you like, and you can tell your parents about it at home. Always teach your children not to hit or scold.

I had a conflict with other students at school and told the teacher. According to the age and characteristics of the child, put forward scientific and reasonable requirements to the child, and do not put forward excessive requirements. There must be a requirement for everything you do.

For example, listen to lectures in class, speak actively, do homework seriously and independently, and ask teachers or classmates if you don't understand. You can ask your child what he or she has learned every day, but create a harmonious environment for communication and don't break up. Be good at encouraging and praising children, and praise them in time when they have achievements, but remind them when they praise them, and continue to work hard to achieve greater results.

Criticize your child when he or she encounters a mistake, but encourage him or her in his criticism, not sarcasm. The family is the place where children live and learn, so it is necessary to scientifically arrange children's life, education and learning at home. You can't always learn to learn, (of course, not without learning) to disgust your child.

You can't use the excuse of caring about your child to secretly supervise your child, such as pouring a glass of water or peeling an apple and sending it to your child's room to see what your child is doing, which will cause rebellion over time. Make friends with your child, communicate more, and talk more. Do love but not spoil, strict but not tired.

The third is to communicate with school teachers to understand the child's learning and behavior in school. It's also a good idea to work with teachers to educate you. Listen to the teacher's advice and discuss with the teacher how to manage the child.

Okay, that's all for now, and we'll talk about what we have! I wish your child a healthy, happy and happy growth!

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1. First of all, whether at home or in **, parents must learn and be able to respect their children. No matter how old a child is, they are an independent individual, and respecting them will make them more able to accept the education of their parents.

2. Teach by example. Parents are the best teachers for children, and the best education for children is to teach by word and deed, so that the combination of Li Xiang Zheng imitation theory and reality can make it easier for children to learn more quickly, and the influence of parents' behavior on children is also very great, this is the so-called effect of the red and the black of the near Zhu.

3. When children make achievements, such as learning to clean up their own things, knowing how to do housework, etc., parents must praise their children in time, even if he is not doing well, but the parents' affirmation can motivate children to move forward better.

4. Guide children in a timely manner. When Cong Feng's children have any bad behaviors or habits in daily life, parents must guide their children in time to let him know what are better behaviors and habits.

5. As a parent, you know your child better than the teacher, and you will be more able to cultivate your child's interests and hobbies, which is not only conducive to developing your child's IQ, but also allows you to give better play to your talents, which is very beneficial to your child's future growth.

6. Communicate and interact with children more. Many parents due to life and work reasons, many times will ignore the existence of the child, feel that the child is still young, as long as he is fed and clothed, this understanding is not right, want to create a good family atmosphere, you must interact with the child, will let the child feel your love, will also make the child become sensible.

Don't take an over-the-top approach.

Some parents believe that "jade is not cut and the key is not cultivated", and "it is not easy for children to become talents without beating and scolding". Therefore, whenever a child makes a mistake, he does not reason calmly, but indiscriminately scolds and beats him first. Such rough treatment of children not only does not make children truly realize their mistakes, but also is likely to leave a shadow in their hearts, and their personalities are easy to become extreme.

Lead by example.

The words and deeds of parents are seen by children in their eyes, their ability to imitate is very strong, and empty preaching is far less influential than actual actions. Isn't there such a public service advertisement, the mother washes the feet of the grandmother, and the youngest son sees it in his eyes, so he learns to wash the feet of the mother bridge grinding relatives.

In the same way, "the upper beam is not correct and the lower beam is crooked", if the parents have bad conduct, then it is difficult to say that the educated child is not a failed copy. It can be seen that the words and deeds of adults are really important.

Emphasis on the role of emotions.

Different nature of emotions have different effects on the human psyche. Positive emotions make people live happily, full of confidence, and feel comfortable; Negative emotions make people depressed, lack of confidence, and depressed. Similarly, different types of emotions have different effects on parents' psychology and behavior.

Positive emotions can inspire parents to take the initiative to understand their children in a loving way, care about their children's growth, and educate and nurture their children in a democratic and scientific way, so that the parent-child relationship is closely coordinated and the family atmosphere is harmonious and warm. Parents should pay attention to the role of their own emotions in family education, strive to cultivate and maintain positive emotions, and overcome and eliminate negative emotions.

The opinions of adults should be unified.

Sometimes parents should communicate with each other, strive for the same view on the same thing, and have a unified attitude, so as not to say that you are east and I am west, you pretend to be white and I am red, and you can't count each other in front of your children. Otherwise, the child will often be confused and will not know who to listen to. After a long time, the status and prestige of adults in the hearts of children will also disappear, and it will be more difficult to discipline children.

Don't stifle your child's interest.

Academics are important, but interest is the source of creativity. What is needed in today's society is not a reading machine, but a well-rounded all-rounder. Therefore, if your child shows a hobby, do not interfere, but encourage him, and maybe it can become a skill for his child.

It's better to let the child come than to nag.

For a thing, sometimes parents will tell their children several times, especially mothers, lest the children do not understand and do not do what they want, which is what people often call nagging. For most children, what they don't want to listen to and resent is their parents' nagging. The more reluctant they are to listen, the more uneasy the parents become, and they will redouble their nagging, and this becomes a vicious circle.

Parents often feel sad and worried: "Nagging is not for the good of the children? "If you don't tell them, how can you be sensible! "It's as if there is only one thing to say to the children endlessly.

Communicate with your child more, understand your child's thoughts, and guide your child in the right direction.

When the child has emotions, help the child to express his feelings, express his feelings, teach the child to recognize his feelings, and the child will slowly learn to express his emotions. For example: Mom, my little goldfish, I am very sad, the child knows that it is because his little goldfish died, he will be sad, and helping children learn to express emotions is also an important way for children to learn to regulate their emotions.

When bad moods come, children become insensitive. Therefore, the key to identifying "bad feelings" is to let children perceive bad emotions, and when children's "bad emotions" appear, children can resonate with "bad emotions" in a "concrete" way. Compare "Moody" to "Caterpillar", "Big Dumb Bear", or other animations that kids want to overcome.

Consciousness is divided into two aspects, one is oneself and the other is the child. Through self-awareness, you cannot feel your current emotions and cannot accept and allow yourself to have negative emotions because both positive and negative emotions are part of your emotions. It is only when you accept your own negative emotions and face them in your child that you can understand and guide it.

If you get out of control because of your negative emotions, get angry, or even slap and scold your child, make sure to reconcile with your son and repair the relationship promptly within 24 hours of your low mood. Tell your son about your emotions and feelings at the time and now. This way, while repairing the relationship, you can also give your child an example of dealing with negative emotions.

Empathy means that you can understand your son's inner world and emotions. When your child has negative emotions, it is important to seize the opportunity to empathize with them and encourage them to express their feelings and emotions, which will not only help your child channel negative emotions, but it will also teach them how to deal with them. The need to listen is to empathize, listen to, and accept a child's ideas.

Acceptance here does not mean that the child's behavior and emotions are recognized, but that the child may have his own emotional expressions and behaviors, not criticizing or denying the child.

First of all, parents should lead by example, they must have a very good wild mood, so that they can drive their children's emotions, and will also let their children have a very good emotional management. And when the child is in a bad mood, parents should praise the troublesome birds to comfort them immediately, and they should also tell the child what to do is the right one. Or in life the child should be observed.

Slowly the child will get a very good education and will be able to manage his emotions well.

Parents should guide their children from a positive perspective, so that children can understand what harm emotions will bring to themselves and what impact they will cause to others, so that they can better control their emotions and better vent their emotions.

The first thing is to tell the child to be broad-minded, and if the child has some emotions, he can say it in the way of staring and slandering.

No matter when, the child should also maintain a more positive, optimistic and cheerful attitude, when the child loses his temper, the mother should calmly communicate with the child.

After the child has lost his temper, the mother should tell the child what to do.

In such a situation, parents should teach their children well, and they should also keep an eye on and take care of their children's emotions, and at the same time, they should let their children know that if their emotions are not well controlled, it will cause a certain amount of influence on his future.

It is also important to lead by example, that is, whether the words and deeds of parents can play an exemplary role. Therefore, it is also necessary to tell Luqing what things should be done by the child, and what things should be carefully thought out and then done.

If you want to help your child manage his or her emotions, parents should lead by example. Manage your emotions well and don't always get angry or blame your child, otherwise it will be difficult for your child to manage his emotions.