Someone is saying bad things about you behind your back, what to do

First of all, I think you should learn to be tolerant, after all, you can't keep the other person's mouth shut. Multiple enemies are not as good as multiple friends. The method is that you are behind the people, it is best to say good things about him in front of the leader, so that you can get the leader's favor in front of the leader, so that his rumors will not work, but you have to do it a little more skillfully, to let him know that.

After all, people's hearts are made of flesh, and he will definitely be moved. This is to convince people with virtue!

Hehe. Well, it's a very simple question.

1.came to a break and rushed to him: I used to think that you were garbage subjectively and said bad things about me behind my back, it seems that this is already an objective problem.

2.Polite confrontation: Why are you saying bad things about me behind your back, I ** provoked you, there is a kind of dignified coming.

3.A tooth for a tooth: Whew, speak ill of him. also deliberately let him know, or yin him, and his heart will be balanced.

I once had a friend who spoke ill of me in front of my friends all day long, but pretended to be pitiful in front of me, and I didn't care about her later. For this kind of person, it's better to leave nothing at all! ~~

You still don't want to get along with such a classmate

But you'll assume you didn't hear it

Relax your heart! If you want to gain a foothold in this society, you should know that there can be no one who does not speak and who does not be spoken!

Go your own way and let others do the talking.

Personally, I don't think there's anything, who knows if it's true or false that reaches your ears, and I'm saying that I've said it myself because there will be friction between people, hehe, look at the point I like a sentence, if you are bitten by a dog, will you bite it back? Hehe.

Cold. Just treat him as a dish! Ignore him.

Hehe, since she is such a person, why bother with her.

Don't be like those who don't have the qualifications.

Since it's all garbage.

Of course I don't care.

So what's he up with.

What can he do?

Won't it be more serious in the future?

You should reason with him.

Kill it with one kick.

Dare to speak of me. Haven't died.

You're talking about people's garbage behind your back.

Who doesn't talk about people behind their backs, and who doesn't talk about people behind their backs! Just look at it with a normal mind, no matter who says it. Rationalize it, and keep it all in the back of your mind.

Those who are clear are self-purifying. Let them say yes. Don't bother. Rumors will be self-defeating.

If it's garbage, why bother with him.

I think. 1. Stay calm first, don't lose your mind because of other people's words In real life, in the company, many people will choose to say bad things behind their backs for their own interests, or even make some small reports to the leader. It's a common workplace behavior, and there's no need to make a fuss when a colleague says something bad about you.

When we encounter this problem, the first thing is to calm ourselves down, so that we can think calmly and face the problem, and then we can find a solution to the problem. Even if you are a decent gentleman, sometimes, you will be interested in talking about things behind others, say a few words, and when you meet others, you will also say your own opinions, if it is not the kind of topic that denigrates you, you can ignore it; You can also pretend not to know about complaints at work. Because in some cases, there will inevitably be some disagreements in the work.

But if you encounter a lot of excessive discussion, you must collect evidence and find an appropriate opportunity to fight back later. 2. Find an opportunity to fight back directly and make him regret that if someone publicly slanders you or insults you, you have to tell him clearly that I am not easy to provoke! The next time you encounter this situation, tell him directly, don't give you the meaning of the leader when you approve, if you have an opinion about me, you can say it directly, if you have an opinion on this decision, you can also say it to me, I can help you react with the leader, there is no need to say these words behind your back.

Some people will choreograph you at will, and the more you show the state of "soft persimmon", the more they will become more aggressive, so at critical times, we must be stiff and don't be afraid. The only fear is the fear of being chewed on the root of the tongue behind the back by the villain, and then reaching the ears of the leader, which will leave a bad impression on the leader. So we must also have faith in our leaders.

It is only when a person lacks insight and is dull in mind that he can easily be influenced by the "bad words" of others. 3. For behaviors that seriously affect your reputation, you can ask the leader not to simply believe in the words of the pure self-purification, sometimes the spitting stars can drown people, and the wise die from rumors. If you don't make the right sound, it's suppressed by the wrong sound.

It is the law of the workplace. If you know that someone is saying bad things about you and hurting your interests, personality and relationships, you have to fight back, otherwise, you won't know how long you will suffer in vain. You can tell your leader that the leader hates the existence of this kind of behavior at work, which destroys the team's ability to work together and destroys the team's ability to work together, and for serious mistakes, we must explain to the leader privately.

Second, prove yourself and make the leader believe in you. It's a good idea to ask your leader for clarification on some occasions. Leaders have their own authority.

In principle, don't blindly say how innocent you are, you will only make yourself more and more unclear the more you talk, and let the leader use his own words to clarify for you is the best strategy.

1. Politely pointed out that decisive warnings --- do not give a chance for further development at all.

When encountering such a situation, you must politely point it out and decisively warn them not to continue. If you allow this situation to unfold, it will cause irreparable consequences for you. For example, lies will become true, others will have great misunderstandings about you, etc.!

Therefore, in the face of people who spread rumors behind their backs, don't be passive, try to be active!

Second, find the right opportunity, show no mercy--- only this trick, and do not leave a way for them to live.

Now that you know that he is spreading rumors behind his back, don't be in such a hurry to solve it. Look carefully for a suitable opportunity, and then kill him mercilessly. Otherwise, if you give him a chance to live, they will fight back at you like crazy, and maybe end up making a bad scene.

This is called cutting through the mess with a quick knife, don't let them live!

3. Play scheming, don't be too honest--- give them a dismount.

The reason why they spread rumors and make trouble may be that they have caught you or think you are a bully. So to solve this problem, you'd better play a little trick, don't be too honest, and when they are still immersed in the joy of rumor-mongering, give them a dismount, so that they don't dare to have any respect for you. So don't be too honest!

Fourth, a master, for you to vent up--- one more person will always have a little more strength.

In the face of the person who is spreading rumors about you behind your back, sometimes you really can't do anything to her, because you can't lower your level to the same level as them. This requires you to learn to be a good man, for example, to find someone who can govern him, like your leader, or someone who is more hateful than him. This kind of person is angry for you, it should also be a trick!

Fifth, stay away silently, talk less about idleness--- the more you care, the greater the loss.

What they want is probably to have something to do with you, because they have nothing to do, they're looking for something, and you're different, you have something you should do. Therefore, in the face of the people who spread rumors and make trouble, they still silently stay away and talk less to them. The more you entangle with them, the more you will encourage their unbridled behavior!