My parents are going to have a second child, but I don t agree, should I discuss it with my parents?

Of course, this kind of thing still needs to be discussed with your parents. After all, the person who wants to have a second child is your parents, not you. You can only express your ideas and suggestions to them, not make decisions for them.

Since our country liberalized the two-child policy, more and more parents who already have a child especially want a second child, I understand this kind of thinking, our traditional Chinese concept is a son and a daughter, can make up a good word, children are all a thing that makes people feel particularly happy. There are also many parents who want a second child because they hope that they can give their children a support and companion after a hundred years, after all, brothers and sisters are always better than outsiders. I also have a series of questions, at least first and foremost.

When we already have a child and he has become an only child, and after a few years you suddenly ask him to accept a new family member, and this family member will take away a large part of the attention of Mom and Dad for a short time, because Mom and Dad are busy taking care of the newborns, there may be a feeling of being left out. This emotion is perfectly normal.

You said that you don't approve of your parents wanting a second child, I don't know what the reason for your disapproval is, maybe you think he will take away your parents' love for you. If that's the reason, then I don't think you need to think like that, because the palms and backs of your hands are full of meat, and Mom and Dad may be busy taking care of your younger siblings for a short time, but you are both their children and they will not favor one over the other. If you feel that your family situation and financial strength are not suitable for raising a child, then I think this is your own consideration, and you still have to discuss it with your parents.

You are a member of this family, and your opinion certainly has reference value, but the most important thing about having a second child is the opinion of your parents, so you can only make a reference at most, and you can't make decisions for them.

You are also part of the family, you are also their child, so you have every reason to discuss with them.

If they are a competent and understanding parent, they will definitely come to you for your opinion. But they didn't consult with you, which means they don't understand your feelings at all, or don't know what you mean.

At this time, I have to express my attitude to them, if you have a second child, you have to spend energy not to mention, but also to spend a certain amount of economy, how much does it cost to have an extra child, and more importantly, the love of parents.

If I conceive a second child and give birth to her, how much effort will it take, and I am not young now, and I will get married in a few years, will my children call your children brothers?

The main thing is to get to the bottom of their hearts and let them know the many problems and contradictions of having a second child.

If you are still young, it is okay to have a second child, although the second child policy is now open, but it is really not easy to raise a person, how much suffering parents have to suffer.

You have been busy for most of your life for me, is it difficult to exhaust all your lives for another child, is this the pursuit of your life, you should be happy, in a few years, you will get married, isn't it your grandson?

For the sake of the whole family, and even more for my sake.

At this time, they should understand what you mean, that is, let them know that the second child is not so easy to give birth. Don't have a baby on a whim, it's not a small thing, it's a big deal.

I should be glad that I was my mother's only child, but when I was in junior high school, my mother got pregnant, and fortunately she beat me up. I don't want any younger siblings!

Of course, it has to be discussed, and this kind of thing must be discussed with the parents. But I think you still need to take care of your own affairs.

Sometimes our parents may think things differently than we think, we may think that what we are doing is right, or that we have what we want to do. But parents don't agree with that, for example. My parents thought we should have a second child, but I thought I would be fine with one child.

That's when there will be a disagreement, right? If there is a disagreement, you need to talk to your parents. There's nothing bad to talk about.

When you are talking, you are actually making it a time for both sides to exchange opinions, and at this time you can hear the opinions of both sides, and you can exchange views with each other.

You can understand each other better. Only when both parties understand and can understand each other's thoughts can they really do this thing well in the future, so just like this kind of thing, you need to talk about it with your parents. As long as your parents can understand you, you can also understand your parents, you can think about these things, how to make a right decision, and then whoever has an opinion will be something good to talk about.

I'm sure no one has any opinions, right? Therefore, if you have a disagreement with other people, especially your own parents, you must discuss it with them, after all, the ideas of parents may be a little different from ours.

And it's true that because of age, some things don't think about things the same, therefore. You have to talk to them well to really solve the problem.

Don't know how old you are? Communicating with parents is a must!

Why not approve of it? What's with? Are you afraid that after having a younger brother Yuyu, your parents' love for you will decrease? This is a question that many children are worried about.

I don't think you're very young.

With the full liberalization of the two-child policy, many qualified families have entered the two-child mode. From a personal point of view, this is a good thing! Most of us are only children, we didn't feel anything when we were young, but when we grow up, we face work and life, and after entering the society, we feel more that it is a happy thing to have a brother and sister!

Parents are old, and there are brothers and sisters, so we can consult with each other, share each other's burdens, and support each other, how good!! You have to know how heavy the burden of a family and a child will be in the future?! There will be too much powerlessness, and there will be too much helplessness.

Even the dilemma will force us as only children to make a dilemma. Loyalty and filial piety cannot be both, on the one hand, we are working hard and busy with our careers, and on the other hand, we need to take care of our parents. It's really not easy!

Don't say anything, there are many nursing homes now, such a statement. You know, there is no parent who doesn't want to be around their children, don't want their children to be with them. Parents raise children, so that they can enjoy the comfort of old age when they are old, and the whole family will be happy and prosperous, rather than a home like a nursing home.

Speaking of which, don't you think it's a blessing to have a fellow mother as a companion?!!

A relative of mine gave birth to a second child who would rather be fined back then, and although it was very difficult to raise two children, the hard times were temporary. Now that the two children have married and given birth to babies, the two sisters discussed what was going on in the family and shared it with each other. It's really nice to get together with the whole family!

The love of parents is the same, don't think so much. If you want a second child, you are also thinking about it, in the future, your parents will not be there, in addition to your lover in the world, this one-milk compatriot is also your relative!

We can say that we are very selfish as only children, and my personal experience is that it is really lonely. This "companion" is not comparable to the so-called lover.

Let's talk to your parents! I believe that their decision to have a second child is also so that you will not be alone in the future.

That's a really good question! Because now after the liberalization of the two-child policy, many families have begun to plan, or have already had a second child, the advent of the second child is a very important thing for a small family, especially for the boss, really for his life suddenly changed dramatically.

It turns out that Mom and Dad are all alone, and now someone has to share them; It turns out that all the attention and expectations are on one person, and now everyone is paying attention to that little child; It turns out that candy toys are all for one person, and now they have to be divided into parts. Many children really can't accept these at first.

In this case, it is recommended that parents take care of the boss's emotions as much as possible, and you can explain to the child that no matter what, no matter whether there is a little brother or little sister, the love of parents for the boss will not decrease, but because there are brothers and sisters or brotherhood, the boss can have more company. Such confidence must be given to the boss.

In the same way, if the child is already sensible, he will have some thoughts and opinions of his own in his heart, and he should be honest with his parents. Only in this way will we have the opportunity in a family, put everyone's opinions on the table, discuss together, and finally if we reach an agreement to have a second child, a family will be happy and look forward to the arrival of the second child.

You can talk to your parents about why you disagree, and then listen to their opinions. Parents generally know their children's opinions.

I still advise you not to discuss it with your parents. Although you don't agree with them having a second child now, when you grow up in the future, you will definitely thank them for doing so.

It should be you, you change, and ask your parents to consider your feelings.

It is estimated that many parents have such thoughts and want their children to have a second child as soon as possible.

Why do you think so? That's because parents want us to find a companion for their children and not let them be too lonely. But now many young parents are reluctant to listen to the advice of the older generation to have a second child, because the pressure on young people is really great now, education and living expenses are a huge amount of money, and some young people even quarrel with the older generation, in fact, I think that if you want to solve this problem, you should still communicate with the elderly, so how to communicate?

First of all,Tell the old man about your current predicament. Most young people don't want to have a second child, they are forced by mortgages, car loans, and other pressures, you can tell your parents what you think, the matter of the second child can be postponed a little longer, and then put it on the agenda when the conditions are better. Secondly,Remember not to engage in blind conflict.

For the elderly, getting married and having children is a normal thing, so many elderly people will talk about having a second child and urge young people to give birth to a second child as soon as possible. In fact, we should also understand that there is no need to blindly conflict with the elderly. Giving birth to a second child in the end is a matter for the couple, and they should still listen to their hearts.

First, communicate seriously with the elderly. If you really don't want to have a second child, you can communicate directly with your family, and tell them clearly that you don't have time to spend with your child after giving birth, and if you have a second child, you won't be able to be busy with your career, and your quality of life will definitely drop a lot. Combined with these factors, the second child plan should still be postponed.

Second, don't blindly clash with the elderly. Every old man hopes that he can have more children and grandchildren, and we should arouse this mood of the old man and not clash with the old man head-on. Of course, young people should patiently enlighten the elderly, there is no need to coax and deceive, it will only make the elderly more disappointed.

Third, having a second child must be based on your own real situation. Whether to have a second child or not is actually a matter for the two of them, and it is necessary to decide according to their own real situation, some people are currently financially poor, if they have a second child, they will face a greater dilemma, and some people are too old, and there will be various risks when they have a second child, so whether to have a second child or not is actually our own decision.

You can think about it from the perspective of mom and dad. Tell Mom and Dad that if you have a second child, the pressure will be half as heavy in the future. Parents also consider that you are the only child who will encounter something at home in the future, and you don't even have someone to talk to, so you seem to be relatively lonely.

Then you have to dispel this concern of your parents, and your parents may not have a second child.

For example, you can communicate like this:1Your suggestion will be carefully considered.

But I can't give you a clear answer yet. Let us think about it. 2.

If this makes you feel anxious, I'm sorry. 3.Oh?

Is it? Well. I'm sorry I can't satisfy you.

We'll think about it though. Parents are anxious is the business of parents, parents are adults, and managing their emotions well is a necessary skill for adults. You don't have to take their emotions on your own head and affect your own emotions.

You don't need to communicate with them, they should say theirs, you don't want it to be yours, if you communicate with them, you can't communicate ideas, it's not a situation where you can't communicate, reduce contradictions, don't say anything, you don't reply to what he says.

Use the softest tone to communicate with your parents, express your thoughts that you don't want a second child, and clearly tell your parents that you don't have the ability to raise a second child, and you don't have the energy.