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It's just because of the dependence that you have developed with your parents for more than ten years, and it is difficult to quit once you get into the habit, and you don't want to contact your parents when you go out, which shows that in your bones you still want to live alone, the yearning for freedom, the pursuit of unrestraint, this mentality is normal, because I feel the same way as you.
Before I went to college, I couldn't imagine how torturous it would be to be away from home for half a year, what to do when I was homesick, and whether I would miss my parents crying secretly every day, but everything was too much for me.
Although I am very clingy to my parents when I am at home, I think about everything anyway, my father and my sister are in front of me to help me block, so I usually don't think about it so much, and I don't think about doing things, I have been worried about how to be alone when I go to college in the future, and even if I want to rely on my parents in a different place, I can't quench my thirst.
Originally, I planned to call them every day, chat with them, and when I really leave home, I will find that I am like a wild horse off the reins, like that kind of freedom, enjoy the sense of accomplishment that I can solve a thing with my own ability, all kinds of things are both a challenge and a kind of transcendence for myself, not to mention calling them every day, and now they have changed from playing once a week to half a month, and gradually I no longer want to contact them.
I think everyone is an independent individual, no matter how dependent we were in the past, how clingy we were, but that is in the case of a way out, we will eventually leave our parents, we will eventually become a person, and we will eventually face the society by ourselves, in the process we will encounter difficulties, but what makes us remember more is the joy of solving difficulties, and what makes us unforgettable is the sense of superiority of success.
No one likes to live in a snail's nest, but they haven't tapped out the free-loving self in their hearts.
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Actually, this is a normal psychology. Because at home, we feel that we will always be the children around our parents, and we especially like to stick to our parents, and we feel that we are really happy and happy where our parents are, but in society, we feel that we have grown up, and there are some things that we don't want to tell our parents anymore, because we have grown up, so let us deal with some things ourselves, don't bother our parents, and let them help us solve the difficulties in life, like this.
In fact, as children, we should often call our parents if we work outside, because in the process of beating our parents, we can learn about some of the recent situation of our parents, because some people don't play with their parents for a long time, and our parents actually miss us very much at home, and they are worried about your work, but we should always call our parents and ask our parents about their recent physical condition, how they have lived recently, and whether they have eaten well, in this way. In fact, sometimes you say these things to your parents, and your parents are very happy, and they feel that their children have grown up and can think about their parents.
But we should be independent when we are outside, and we can't always think about us and our parents, because one day, our parents will always grow old. The day they fall, therefore, we should have certain plans and goals for ourselves, and not think about our parents every day. We want to be independent on the outside, which is actually a very good mentality.
Because if you are a parent at home, you may always be a child in front of your parents, but when you are outside, we are already an adult, so we should have the mind of an adult. You can't rely on your parents all the time.
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When I saw this question, I felt very close to it, because I am that kind of person myself.
When I was in college, I often told my roommate that my parents were very nice, and although my roommate was listening carefully on the surface, she didn't believe it in her heart. Because I barely beat them at school, and even though home is relatively close, I don't really want to go back.
Later, I took her and another sister to my house for 2 days, and she completely believed what I said. Of course, she told me later, and she said that I was at home and at school were completely different.
Later, I thought about it, no matter what my mom was doing at home, I would follow her, and then I liked to hug her and kiss her, and I also liked to hug my dad. But at school I really don't want to give them a **.
There is no doubt that I love my parents very much, but I don't want to play ** when I am far away, on the one hand, I feel that I don't know what to say, and on the other hand, I feel that it is quite a waste of time.
I hate to call others when I'm fine.,Some people say casually chat about contacting feelings.,But I think it's weird to nag in **.。 And I don't know if my parents have other work to do, and if I keep saying something that I don't have will delay their time.
I like to express my feelings directly in person, not that I am not the same in front of the face.
Maybe it's because you have your own things to do outside, and you don't want to contact your parents to worry about them, or maybe it's because you don't want to hear them say something very common, such as whether you have eaten.
When I was at home, I didn't need a lot of language to stick to them, and I felt very satisfied and relieved just by holding them. Maybe I prefer company with my parents to words.
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Summary. When I grew up, I had my own social circle, and sometimes I was far away from home, or the change in my thinking level caused me to feel that I did not have a common language with my family, the above is my own judgment.
Why was I very clingy to my family when I was a child, and I didn't want to contact my family when I grew up.
When I grew up, I had my own social circle, and sometimes the pretending person Li Hou was far away from home, or the change in the level of thinking caused the hall to feel that he had no common language with his family, and the above was my own judgment.
But everyone is different, would you like to talk about your feelings?
Now it's far away from home, I don't want to contact my family, and there is no contradiction. But when I went home, I was very clingy to my family.
Could it be something that would make you ask this question?
Recently, I've noticed that my friends are always in touch with my family, and I only call at certain times, which doesn't seem right.
There is no right or wrong, everyone has a different way of doing things, different personalities, and different growth environments, but I suggest that Wang Yi you can try to communicate with your family often, you can feel the state of Cong trembling, and at the same time I believe that parents very much hope to communicate with their children often, and they will be happier.
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