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If there is another way out, try not to live together.
If there is no other way, I can suggest the following:
1.The mentality should be stable, because whether it is your own parents or the other party's parents are elders, politeness is a must, and there is also a binding force invisibly, which is of great benefit to the family.
2.Recognize the reality, after all, you live in his parents' house, and the other person is the master.
3.According to my many years of experience living with my father-in-law and mother-in-law, there are many benefits to living together, you basically don't have to spend money on meals every month, and you don't need to open your mouth when your pocket money is not enough, so there are many benefits.
4.It should be noted that there is usually something to do
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Personally, I feel that it is better not to, and distance produces beauty. I live close to my mother-in-law and father-in-law now, and they will come when they have nothing to do. It's a little annoying. Not to mention living together, and there are more conflicts after having children. Or ask the landlord to consider carefully.
It's really not good, you and your husband can refinance and buy a house by yourself...
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I'm more in favor of you living with your parents, at least every day when you come home from work, someone will make the meal, and you can let your parents help you when you have children.
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In fact, sometimes it depends on your own mentality, I also just got married and live with my husband's parents, young people don't want to have their own space, but it's good to live with the elderly, someone to take care of and someone to accompany Especially when my husband is not home early, my mother-in-law sleeps with me She is afraid that I will sleep alone Hehe In fact, there is an old family If there is a treasure! The most important thing is that they are your husband's parents, and I don't want them to be lonely in their old age. It's not that there is no independent space, we have our own little world, a little bit of lack Don't care too much about it, remember, keep a good mood, you will be happy.
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Well, I think between children and their parents after all, you are not their child. If anything happens, of course her parents will be on his side. A problem between two people becomes a problem between four people.
So, you can try to talk to him and tell him what you think. However, when talking, be sure to tell him about the side that you now understand his parents. Otherwise, it will become that you are very troublesome and ignorant.
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Live and watch first, there will definitely be contradictions, and if you care about them, there should be a good return.
Sometimes the elderly can also help you a lot.
I lived with the old man and thought it was okay
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It's terrible to live together, and now that we've been married for more than a year, we're getting divorced, largely thanks to his mother.
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Assuming talent, it is better to live separately from your parents if you can.
Let the couple have their own independent living space, start everything from scratch, buy groceries, cook and do housework, everything depends on themselves, not on their parents and in-laws. It is better for young couples and parents not to live together, because there will be a lot of unhappiness in daily life! Especially the two women in the family, everyone knows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been panicked, coupled with the age gap, personality differences, and bad habits of each other, etc., will cause entanglements and cause conflicts between the two parties in a long-term life.
Why do you want to live separately from your parents after getting married, in fact, the work and rest time of young people and the elderly are different, the elderly like to go to bed early and get up early, young people like to play late at night, even one or two o'clock in the middle of the night, get up late in the morning, seven or eight o'clock, and eleven or twelve o'clock on weekends. Eating habits are also different, the elderly like greasy, and young people like heavy tastes. These different habits above will inevitably be nagging by the elderly after a long time, and the daughter-in-law will inevitably be dissatisfied, and the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will arise.
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will also cause discord in the family, and the husband's support for the mother will also affect the relationship between the husband and wife, and even divorce. As an old man, it is not easy to marry a daughter-in-law, it consumes human and financial resources, and because I can't get used to what my daughter-in-law does, I blame him too much, and in the end, my daughter-in-law is gone, and my son is single again.
It is better for young couples not to live with their parents, and if conditions allow, it is better to live separately, so as to prevent a lot of unnecessary entanglements and troubles. Besides, whenever you get angry, no matter who you are, it's not accurate to speak on your anger! Words hurt people, it is inevitable!
Unhappy things will gradually rise from small to large, and gradually rise to the point of competing with each other! As we live our own lives, we will be much less angry, and even less angry. Young couples visit their parents from time to time to buy gifts; The younger generations are dedicated, and the old people are also very happy.
The family is harmonious and beautiful, happy and happy!
The interval produces beauty, not together, to have a more intimate feeling, to prevent unnecessary family conflicts, and to wish the two of them eternal love and happiness forever.
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It's best not to live with your parents, because it will be more troublesome, and if you live with your parents soon after you get married, you will feel very depressed and restricted.
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Don't live with your parents, because they may not be used to it, and their parents' daily routines will definitely be different from yours.
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Won't want it. There is a lot of ideological gap between young and old, and if you live with your parents, there may be a lot of conflicts.
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It's best not to, you haven't experienced the world of the two, the physiological needs of the newlywed couple must be very strong, and they need to vent it regularly, and it is easy for their parents to hear about it.
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It's not good, marriage is the territory of a new family, and if you live with your parents, there will be a conflict in the sense of territory!
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The level is limited. It depends on each person's personality and living habits and physical condition.
In the case of a healthy body, living together who has not seen a state shirt without quarreling has become a villain.
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Personally, I think it's better not to live together. In China, the question of whether young couples want to live with their parents-in-law is a complex one. Before this question, we need to consider the following aspects:
One is family culture and traditions.
In Chinese culture, the concept of family is very important. Many Chinese believe that children should be filial and take care of their parents. Therefore, in some families, it is common for young couples to live with their parents-in-law.
The second is the concept of marriage and the sense of independence.
With the change in young people's concept of marriage and lifestyle, more and more young couples are choosing to live independently rather than live with their families. They want to have their own space and privacy, and they pursue freedom and independence.
The third is the cost of living and economic pressure.
In some large cities, housing prices and rents are very high, and many young couples find it difficult to afford the financial pressure of living independently. In this case, living with your in-laws may be a more cost-effective option.
Fourth, family relations and affection factors.
Living with your parents-in-law can lead to problems with family relationships and affection. For example, there may be contradictions and frictions due to differences in living habits and values. But it can also bring the benefits of mutual care and support.
At the same time, we need to combine the positive and negative, taking into account various factors:
Positive view: Living together can bring family harmony, mutual care and support, and strengthen family relationships.
Mother-in-law can help take care of children, reduce the burden of childcare for young couples, and make them more free and independent.
Living with your family can save you money on rent and living costs, reducing financial stress.
Negative view: Living with parents-in-law may bring differences in living habits and values, which is prone to contradictions and friction.
Living with parents-in-law can limit the freedom and independence of young couples, affecting.
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Not good. There will be a generation gap between the young and the old. Unless the old man is very accommodating to you, it is still recommended to separate the Xiangqing Register and Sales, and maintain the relationship between the two generations.
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My personal answer is, no!
And no matter in terms of life and rest, diet and other square edge socks, it is not suitable for long-term living together.
Routine. For modern young people, the rule of life is generally to go to bed late and get up late, and the time spent playing on mobile phones is too long, while the life routine of parents is to go to bed early and get up early, get up early to cook, and go to bed early at night.
Imagine that at ten o'clock in the evening, you are playing with your mobile phone, and your parents come over to constantly remind you that it is time to go to bed, and staying up late is not good for your health, so are you still in the mood to play again? Of course, going to bed early is a good habit.
You sleep soundly in the morning, and your parents want to get up early to cook for you, but they are afraid to wake you up. So I'm on tiptoe, waiting for you to get up after cooking.
At this time, you are almost late for work, and you want to accept your parents' wishes, but it is too late, and your parents will feel uncomfortable when they see that you have not eaten.
Of course, life doesn't have to be one way or the other, as the nature of your working hours may not allow it.
Eating habits. If you live under the same roof as your parents, you will live together, eat, eat, etc.
If your parents' tastes are about the same as your own, it may not be a big problem, but if the tastes are too different, eating is a big problem.
Sweet or spicy, meal time, whether to eat supper, or ordering takeout, these are all points where conflicts may occur.
Other. Private space for two people. Especially the young couple who have just gotten married, they all hope to say that there is a private space for two people, and the two people have their own mode of getting along, and it may be a little inconvenient for their parents to live together.
There will also be differences in educating children afterwards. According to the different times we are in, everyone has the right way to educate, but the way is different.
Maybe some people think it's very convenient, so it depends on the situation of each family and their own ideas, for myself, I prefer to live separately. When we choose, we should consider our lifestyle habits, eating habits, personality and temperament before deciding.
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Personally, I think that if the house is spacious, I can live with my parents, because my parents can take care of the family at home. There is food to eat when you come back from work every day, and now the office workers, which one is not stupid and goes out early and returns late? Whether to live together or not, or the young couple to discuss to make a decision.
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It's not good, there are many contradictions, it's better to live separately.
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If conditions permit, it is best not to live with your parents after marriage, and to be able to live separately and keep a distance, which can reduce a lot of unnecessary conflicts.
After marriage, children and parents are not suitable to live together, mainly for the following reasons:
1. Different living habits: Two generations live under the same roof, and after a long time, huge differences in living habits will be exposed, such as eating habits, work and rest habits, housekeeping habits, and so on. When these small contradictions accumulate over time, conflicts will erupt, resulting in direct tearing between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, son-in-law and parents-in-law.
As the saying goes, "it's good to see each other, it's difficult to live together", the days are noisy, obviously it's home, but you can't find the happiness that home brings to people.
2. Different values: The values of the two generations are different, so there will be differences in their ideological outlook, lifestyle, etc. For example, parents like to be thrifty and thrifty, but their children want to enjoy life; Parents like to preach, but children want to be free, etc., after a long time, the authority of parents is challenged, their value is not recognized, parents are unhappy, can the family still be happy?
Celery coarse. 3. Children need independent living space: young couples want to have their own independent living space and live their own small life, so that they can exercise their ability to live independently; Second, the two-person world can also promote the relationship between husband and wife. However, some parents do not know how to maintain the due boundaries with their children, and often cross the line, not treating themselves as outsiders at all, although their children are born and raised by themselves, but their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law will mind.
If parents have to intervene in everything, life is easy to be stirred into a pot of porridge.
Fourth, the education concept of the next generation is different: if the family has a next generation, in the issue of children's education, the two generations will also be unhappy due to different educational concepts. Generally, the elderly are more doting on their grandchildren, and they can't see children being disciplined by their parents, let alone children being wronged, or even murdering him.
Just educate children, what they are most afraid of is to manage and protect, adults have inconsistent positions, and it is easy to spoil children to be lawless, like a little bully.
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After getting married, you should not live with your parents, and marriage is when two people form a small family together, not with each other's parents to form a family.
This point is now clear to many young people, after two people get married, they should create their own small family together, and should not live with their parents, first of all, live with their parents, because the age gap will cause. The lifestyles of the two generations are different, and secondly, as a wife, there is not much contact with each other's parents, just like strangers, only because of a common man has become a relative, and living together rashly at this time will only have more contradictions and estrangement.
When many boys live with their parents, they are like a child who has not grown up, and they can't appreciate the importance of being a family, because they are used to their parents' shelter from the rain and do everything themselves, but he still lives under the wings of his parents, but marriage must be different, because he has another half, another person who needs him to protect him from the wind and rain. He should take on the responsibility of the whole family, but if he lives with his parents, he will never be able to get out of the greenhouse. These people have no way to make any effort for their families, and they can't understand the contradictions and estrangements between their wives as a foreigner and their parents, which is very cruel for half of them.
Ant Na Jean. All lovers, after two people get married, they should run and create the lives of two people, so in reality, they can experience the true meaning of marriage from the bits and pieces of life and product personnel. Marriage should bring sweetness and common progress, rather than blindly cowering under the wings of parents and stagnation, only two people can taste it when they are in the same step. For a better future, making efforts is not enough to rely on one person's struggle, so trying to get away from your parents and create a beautiful vision for your life is the true meaning of marriage.
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After all, the living habits of young people and old people are different.
As long as the wife does not remarry, she can continue to live. We should continue to honor our in-laws and do a good job in family relationships, after all, we are still a family.