What should I do if my classmates feel like a tool for me?

Let the other person know that time is precious and there is nothing to be done by the way.

In addition to professionalism, everyone's time is valuable. So you have to let the other person know how much time and effort it takes to help this favor, instead of pretending that it doesn't matter and making a trivial matter when you are in some trouble, and then after the other party thinks that you have done it for him "by the way", you feel that you have been taken advantage of and complain. Sometimes I say "by the way" because I want to reduce the feeling of indebtedness, but I can let the other party know that "by the way" is not "casual", and time is also a cost!

To avoid being used as a tool, pay attention to the following five keys.

Assist with personal professions, and be courageous.

It's not just about getting along with friends of the opposite sex, but also when you're with friends in general, you also have to have certain principles. Especially when the other party asks for assistance related to your area of expertise, be brave**. If you are afraid of being unkind, or two people are very good friends and ambiguous friends, if you are willing to serve each other for free, you can also quote a market price first, so that the other party knows how much it costs to do such a thing, but you are willing to help with friendship.

Even if you don't charge a fee, make your profession reasonably priced in the eyes of others.

Don't be a hero with fewer casual promises.

Take every promise seriously, and others will take you seriously. In particular, some are deeply heroic.

People who think about it are easy to impulsively boast about what they promise not necessarily to do. As a result, if you often exhaust yourself, or because you can't do it completely, you accidentally become a miserable tool person who "sweats and salivates". Learn to take commitments seriously, evaluate whether you can deliver them before committing to them, and don't have to be forced to make important commitments in the moment, and take some time to think about them and maybe get better results.

When it's time to refuse, you should refuse, and don't be afraid to say no.

Some people are easily used as tools because they are always embarrassed to reject others. Therefore, you must have the right psychological construction, "refusal" to help the other person do something, is not the same as "severing" the friendly relationship with the other person. When you establish this concept first, you can be brave enough to reject the other person.

If the other party will start to alienate you because of your rejection, it means that the relationship between you is unbalanced, and it just makes you realize that the other party is not worthy of your good treatment at all, so it is better to put your efforts on the person who knows how to cherish you more!

It's not a friend. In the future, when you encounter such a thing, you can pretend that you didn't see it, or you are busy, and wait until about 8 hours to say sorry. Just about to sleep. That's it.

Stay away from him, don't have any intersection with him, don't let him get an inch.

Summary. If you feel or find that others are using you as a tool, I suggest you can do the following: 1. If you have a good relationship with him and want to continue the relationship with him.

You can confide in them about your discomfort. Between true friends, there should be something to say, and then it will be resolved. It's also easier for you to get along.

If you feel or find that others are using you as a tool, I suggest you can do the following: 1. If you have a good relationship with him and want to continue the relationship with him. You can confide in them about the discomfort in your guess heart.

Between true friends, you should also say whatever you want, and then solve it. It's also easier for you to get along.

2. If it only communicates or cooperates with you on the surface, there is no deep friendship. In the way of the love banquet, you can finish the things you have made an appointment with, keep decent, and then stop cooperating with them, socializing, and keeping a certain distance; Or slowly withdraw from the relationship and gradually distance himself from him.

If you feel uncomfortable in getting along, you have to say it, or deal with it, don't wronged yourself, it's not good for yourself.