I would like to ask you what you do when you have an argument with your mother you feel very wronge

If you feel very wronged, you will cry first, thinking about where you are wrong, where your parents are wrong, and there is a gap between generations, remember to communicate more, understand each other, and your parents will gradually understand, they will know that you have grown up, and they don't need to worry about it!

When I was arguing, I felt very wronged, and when I thought about it later, I was still a little more wrong. Mothers do not bully their children. She just wants the good of her children, but sometimes she doesn't express it in a way that suits the children's meaning.

If you still feel that it is not your fault, find a suitable time to communicate with your mother, and your language should be sincere.

I'm angry But it's gone after 2 minutes, so what's the grievance, the family still has overnight sorrows, so I can only bear it It's okay to go in the left ear and out the right ear Otherwise, it's not cost-effective to die of anger (personal opinion).

In the Analects, it is said that parents should not delay their responses, parents should not be lazy in their actions, parents should listen respectfully when they teach, and parents must be obedient in their responsibilities.

You feel that the grievance is that you only have yourself in your heart, no matter what you do, you must think from the other person's point of view, and learn to live in the moment.

No matter when you can't break your parents' hearts, their love for you is never stingy, let alone the slightest bad thought, don't wait until the tree wants to be quiet and the wind doesn't stop.

Why did the dispute occur.

The two disagreed, so they put it on the table generously.

There's nothing you can't talk about, let alone your mother.

In fact, this phenomenon is very normal The key is that your subconscious always feels: Mom doesn't understand anything, what she says is not right. You always unconsciously talk to your mother with this kind of nonsense, and once she says something that doesn't match your thoughts, this subconscious will be even stronger.

And then a quarrel ensued. Of course, it may be that the mother is also in menopause, and at this time she is already prone to anger (which is physiologically regulated). In this way, you will be more susceptible to quarrels.

I also had such an experience, when I was in adolescence, when my mother said a word I wanted to say to her, and if I did something wrong, even if I knew that what my mother said was right, I would stir up three points unreasonably. Afterwards, I would feel very sorry and wanted to apologize to my mother, but Chang couldn't pull it off. Now that I think about it, I was really stupid at that time, and my mother must have been very sad at that time.

In fact, what about the parents in the world who don't want to have a happy conversation with their children every day? Sometimes, it's us who go too far ... Think more about your mother, it's not easy for her

Summary. Hello, dear, you have to tell your parents about their feelings and needs through words.

Let's take an analogy. Mom came back late, and then you said to her, "Why did you come back?" This is an expression of anger.

We want to express our anger and say to our mother, "Mom, can you come back sooner?" I hope you can stay with me, and I hope you can talk to me for a while. This told my mother that I was not in a very happy mood today, can you talk with me for a while?

Can you teach me? If you don't accompany me, I'm very sad, a little sad and angry, this is an expression of anger and needs.

I hope mine can help you and have a great day.

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I hope mine can help you and have a great day. 【】

We want to express our anger and say to our mother, "Mom, can you come back sooner?" I hope you can stay with me, and I hope you can talk to me for a while. This tells my mother that I am not in a good mood today, can you talk with me for a while?

Can you teach me? If you don't accompany me, I'm very sad, a little sad and angry, this is an expression of anger and Liang Shu's needs.

Let's take an analogy. Mom came back late, and then you said to her, "Why did you come back?" This is an expression of anger.

Hello, dear, you have to tell your parents about their feelings and needs through words.

Ok, thank you dear <>

I hope mine can help you and have a great day. 【】

We want to express our anger and say to our mother, "Mom, can you come back sooner?" I hope you can stay with me, and I hope you can talk to me for a while. This tells my mother that I am not in a good mood today, can you talk with me for a while?

Can you teach me? If you don't accompany me, I'm very sad, a little sad and angry, this is an expression of anger and Liang Shu's needs.

Let's take an analogy. Mom came back late, and then you said to her, "Why did you come back?" This is an expression of anger.

Hello, dear, you have to tell your parents about their feelings and needs through words.

If one day, you want someone to take care of you, and no one cares about you, you will understand that today's life is actually really happy.

Ordinary parents, no matter what the starting point, are essentially for the good of their children, although their views will not all be correct, and it is impossible for there to be no generation gap between the two generations, and at their age, many ideas have been ingrained, and it is almost impossible for you to let them change.

All you can do is change yourself, or change yourself in front of them.

Is this ... No one else can help you, you can only sit down and communicate, only if everyone understands each other. Let your mom know that the life you live is not controlled by them, and that your path is your own.

Any parent, maybe they don't express themselves in the right way.

But they all have the same purpose.

That's good for children.

Their actions may not be right, but their intentions are certainly right!

I can understand how you feel, there is a generation gap between you and your mother. After all, you are two generations, you have different experiences, and you are facing very different pressures and circumstances today. My suggestion is that you don't have to directly contradict your mother, the old man will sometimes be verbose, and you can listen to her attentively, and be obedient on the surface.

Actually organize your life your own way. Perhaps, as you grow older and more experienced, you will gradually understand and believe that your mother's life experience and rules are right, but you will always need to experience it yourself before you can understand it. This is my own experience.

FYI!

There are also difficulties in thinking about what I would do if I were her, so I have to be calm and not too aggressive.

When you become a mother, you know your mother's suffering, and now you won't fully understand anything you say, so talk to you and your mother.

Silence is golden, let the storm blow, I don't panic, what should I do.

Communicate well, there is no mother who does not love her children.

Hehe. It's the same as I used to, but the most important thing about this kind of thing is myself, and of course my family has it.

Sometimes when we are doing something, maybe it is the family who mistakenly solves you and wrongs you, at this time, we must not argue about anything, we can only let it go first, and wait until the family is angry to explain slowly, sometimes the bridge and forbearance is the best solution.

The most important thing for family members is to be happy, harmonious, don't argue about anything because of the so-called face, even if you win, what if you win, the last hurt is still your family, it's yourself.

Think about it in a different way, do family members quarrel with others? Maybe the family members have been wronged by the hidden and wronged, and they are cold and warm outside. As their relatives, we must show magnanimity when we are at home, usually be more careful, observe the atmosphere at home, be happy for the happiness of your family when you are happy, and act as a neutralizer for your family when you are sad.

Strive to make yourself the core of your family.

1.First of all, we need to know that family conflicts are indispensable, what we need to do is not to escape, and avoiding will only make the contradictions deeper and deeper;

2.Everyone can see that your mother is for your own good, you should take the initiative to take the time to reconcile with him, communicate well with the two of you, and tell her that failure in the exam room is also a common thing, it is impossible for the teacher to be logical every time, but you will definitely reflect on the reason for the failure of this exam;

3.Tell him that in fact, he also knows that you are for my good, and I will definitely work harder for it in the future, 4Otherwise, if you continue to make trouble, it will be your mother who is sad, and you are also sad, how can you have the heart to read.

It's all over the middle school exam, and it's not too small. Send you a few questions.

1.Your fault mom can tolerate it, but you can't tolerate mom's fault?

2.Are there times when you're lying to yourself or your mom?

3.Did you earn the money in the family or did your mother earn it?

After thinking about this, you are wondering if you are dealing with problems in the right way, I studied well when I was a child, but I am a stupid person, do you believe it?

If you are angry today, you will forget it all tomorrow and return to your normal days. Then you can cry today, hug your mother's thigh and cry, who told him to kick you. But if you're going to recover from this sadness for a while, you'd better think about your current situation, in fact, many people are only able to change their minds when they start working, and you are obviously not that old age.

You can't see the essence of things, do you look at other people's replies to you like theories?

If you feel very wronged, and it's all you, the pressure from your mother is too great, you can find a showdown with your mother for such a daughter (guess) I can't do it. If you find out that you are wrong, it's very simple, mom pretends to help when she does housework, and it's almost over, and it's not necessary to admit that you're embarrassed, because mom never blames you. What is wrong and right, this grievance is nothing compared to the object being dumped.

When your mom is willing to talk to you calmly, you will be considered to have completed the task, and this is a good time to talk about the conditions, and it is not a problem to seize the opportunity to kill her and order some delicious and fun food.

I have some suggestions for dealing with family relationships:

1. Be humble, don't be a needle to each other about everything, give each other more opportunities to talk, think more about each other, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and family affection is priceless.

2. A surprise creates a dramatic effect, and often many contradictions are lost in jokes.

3. Divide responsibilities, assume your own responsibilities and obligations, do more for the family, and think less for yourself.

4. Dualized communication, many conflicts are due to the lack of communication between family members, which exacerbates the conflicts.

5. Be open-minded, life is short, we should create a harmonious society and a harmonious family, think about everything, don't worry about everything, don't intrigue, don't be greedy, be open-minded, and be grateful to live a relaxed and happy life.

In fact, your biggest problem is not being honest. If you have time, discuss your views with your mother and understand her more.

She's also for your good, but the method she used was wrong, in fact, you don't have any contradictions, no matter how noisy you are, you're the closest person. Be considerate of your mother. Everything she does is for your good.

You should think carefully about whether you have done something wrong, and your temper is not small.

Read the following essay and you'll know what to do:

A bowl of ravioli. That day, she quarreled with her mother again, and in a fit of rage, she turned around and ran out. She walked for a long time and saw a noodle stall in front of her, fragrant and hot, and she felt hungry. However, she groped through her pockets, but there was not even a single coin.

The owner of the noodle stall, a very kind old woman, saw her standing there and asked, "Son, do you want to eat noodles?" "But, I don't have any money. She replied with some embarrassment.

It's okay, I'll treat you to it. The old woman greeted her very enthusiastically, "Come, sit down, and I will make you a bowl of ravioli." ”

Soon, the old woman brought a bowl of wontons and a plate of side dishes. She was full of gratitude, and just after a few bites, tears suddenly fell and fell into the bowl.

What happened to you? The old woman asked with concern. "I'm fine, I'm just grateful.

She wiped away her tears and said to the old woman, "We don't know each other, and you are so good to me." But what did my own mother do to me?

I quarreled with her, and she kicked me out and told me not to go back! ”

When the old woman heard this, she said calmly, "Child, why do you think so? Think about it, I just cooked a bowl of wontons for you to eat, and you are so grateful to me, so why don't you thank her for cooking for your own mother for more than ten years?

Why do you have to quarrel with her? ”

The girl froze. The girl hurriedly finished eating the ravioli. Started walking home.

When she walked near her home, she saw her exhausted mother, looking at ...... intersectionWhen her mother saw her, her face immediately showed joy: "You naughty bag, come over quickly." The meal has already been prepared, and if you don't come back to eat, the dishes will be cold!

At this time, her tears began to fall again.

Sometimes, we are "grateful" to the small favors given by others, but "blind" to the lifelong kindness of our loved ones

ipanzhi hopes to help you!