Do you know why the one who takes is more popular than the one who gives?

Because the person who gives is more stupid, he has no mind to give stupidly, and the person who asks is shrewd, can speak well, and is endearing.

Because the person who takes is more open-minded, and the person who gives always gives silently and will not let others know, in fact, they are more selfless.

Because those who take will learn to please others, and those who give are silently giving. Only those who are remembered by others will be more popular.

Because people who are good at taking, they contribute to the giving of others and will bring each other closer, so they will be popular.

Because the person who asks for it is often the one who is willing to express his emotions, they are more willing to express their needs, and they will be more attention-grabbing.

I don't think that the person who takes is more popular than the person who gives, but I think the person who gives is more popular, just like my father, he always loves to help others, is it that when something happens to our family, there are many people to help us, which shows that our efforts back then were not in vain.

The person who asks for it is generally able to talk and always make people happy, so it will be welcomed by the people.

The person who asks for it will speak very well when he asks for it from others. And the people who give, in general, are very silent.

In fact, sometimes I think that if I ask for it, I will be more unpopular than those who give.

I think that the person who takes is very good at saying everything, while the person who gives will only do it silently.

Because people can't find a reason to refuse a small request, they will increase their tendency to accede to it.

Most of the people who can ask are better at communicating, and what they say and do is more acceptable.

Because people who are good at giving have no sense of existence.

I am a person who likes to give silently, but I am also a person who has no sense of existence. When my best friends hang out together, they sometimes ignore me. And I only have a few friends, and yes, I'm not welcome.

I've always been worried about bothering people, so I rarely ask for help, but I always try my best to help others. Why am I not popular? And another friend who often bothers others and asks for from others in my eyes, why do you have so many friends around?

After thinking about it, I found that people who are good at giving often ignore themselves, and it is we who actively reduce our sense of existence. To put it simply, we always neglect ourselves, don't want to trouble others, and have things to solve by ourselves. As for other people's requests, they don't know how to refuse, and they want to win a sense of existence and gain friendship by helping others.

Unfortunately, the result is simply overlooked. To others, you are dispensable. They will thank you for your help, but then they will leave you behind.

Because you don't have a sense of existence, you don't have an ego, you're always pandering to others.

We have all heard that crying children have milk to eat, and it is indeed not rough talk. Sometimes, bothering others, asking for help, and asking for help from others is precisely the secret of friendship between friends. People who are good at taking, they often seek help from others.

But they will master a degree, and the things that ask others to help are all things that others can do, and they are not difficult to force others. So in the face of these small favors, others are naturally willing to help. In this way, they both solve the problem and others get satisfaction from the help.

Wouldn't it be the best of both worlds?

We can be good at giving, but why not be ashamed to ask for it? In fact, the correspondence between friends is on both sides. It's not that you blindly give, nor do you blindly take.

<> saw this problem and remembered the post-it note girl starring Chen Qiaoen, that is, a young woman in the workplace who is good at giving, but in the concessions and compromises again and again, her personal boundaries are getting narrower and narrower, and others are becoming more and more unscrupulous towards her, not to mention respecting and liking. Who likes a person who has no self-consciousness and is called to come and go?

Speaking of soliciting, it may be necessary to define it here, and the solicitation of the topic should not be an endless solicitation, but an occasional trouble with the people around you who are good at doing it in small things, and only such a request will make people like. Why?

1.Such a person knows how to read words and feelings, and knows the strengths of those around him.

So every time I encounter a problem that others are good at but I am not very good at, I will ask for help. In this way, the efficiency of solving things is improved, and the time saved by yourself can be used to complete other things, and at the same time, the "troubled" person has a sense of existence. Of course, if you sincerely thank you after receiving help, the other party will be willing to help you.

2.Such people are good at allocating time and tasks.

It is also mentioned in the first point that people who are good at asking for help tend to be good at using their time, and they do not spend too much time on things that they are not good at. A person can't be an all-rounder, so such a person will be very clever to divide the time into blocks, divide the tasks, he only needs to do his part, and then make overall arrangements for other things, his mouth is sweeter, and when he troubles others, he is actually building a relationship.

3.People feel good when they are needed.

When you are troubled by a colleague who is not too familiar, with a look of sincerity and helplessness, I think you must be happy in your heart. The reason is simple: you are needed! And what the other party wants happens to be what you can give, so it's hard for you to dislike such a person.

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Generally speaking, people who are good at asking are better at expressing their thoughts in words, so their words are more likable, and naturally people will like him more. If you have a type of person in the company who doesn't put all the energy into his work, then he will ask the "post-it note girl" in the company to help him complete the task. They are just able to speak and praise others for doing well, and those who are good at giving will get used to helping them, and those who do well are praised by those who ask for it.

Most of the people who are good at giving are obscure and have few words, they only care about whether they can do a good job, put all their energy into work or study, and then help others, in front of others is not able to stand out, and speak very stiff and can not please others, so they can only give a small number of people to see, and those who are good at asking will be very good at mingling with the people around them, and many people will have a good relationship, when they find someone to do things, it will be easy.

I think that people who are good at asking are precisely because others want to help themselves, so they can only talk to others when their mouths are as sweet as honey, and the people who listen will be embarrassed to refuse, leaving a good impression on others, which will make their circle of friends bigger and bigger, and their popularity will naturally get better and better. And people who are good at giving just want to be able to rely on themselves in everything, and they won't talk to others too much, so the circle of friends will be fixed to that big, and there won't be too many people to pay attention to them.

In fact, there is no good or bad between these two kinds of people, if you can do both ask and give, it is the best, so that you can not only exercise your ability to do things, but also improve your ability to interact with others.

In fact, asking and giving are complementary to each other, no one can blindly ask and not give, and no one blindly gives, and does not ask, why is it more popular to ask than to give? Because, you know how to take, you know how to give, people who are good at asking must be good at giving, and people who are good at giving are just blindly giving themselves, and they don't understand the meaning of taking. He will only make people admire her from the bottom of his heart, but he will not be particularly popular.

By unpopular, we mean that not too many people are willing to take the initiative to associate with them.

What I just said will be paid. Because no one can blindly ask for others, if that person blindly asks, he will not associate with him at all, and the person who is good at taking, he will have some of his own ingenious methods, to get what he needs, and in the case that you are happy to give her, and he often gets that kind of thing, he will definitely repay you, so that after going back and forth, the bond between the two people will be deepened, and the person who is good at taking will be more able to be a person, in this case, he will connect you, Find ways to deepen it, so that you will belong to both mutually beneficial parties in your future work or interactions, so that your relationship will be stronger, and over time, it will add up. Those who are good at asking will of course be more popular.

And the person who is good at giving may not know how to take, it is just blindly giving, and the person who receives his pay is often unable to give him the corresponding return, because he does not know how to ask for what he deserves, he is just a one-way communication, so it will not make people have two-way communication, he may not be as popular as the person who is good at taking.

Do you still remember the fairy tale of "Snow White", Snow White once broke into the house of the seven dwarfs, her pitiful appearance made the seven dwarfs full of sympathy, coupled with Snow White's kindness and beauty, the seven dwarfs decided to take her in, the essence of this fairy tale is actually to reflect the people who take them, they actually know how to show weakness, and this kind of weakness often makes the person who pays feel strong. This weakness technique is an important skill in our daily interpersonal communication. I would like to share with you the use of this weakness technique:

1. Women who show weakness make men want to have a sense of protection

Many women often like to show that they don't need men, often so that men have no place to fight, and smart and intelligent women often know how to show weakness, such as when the light is broken, they will appropriately ask for help from men, which can effectively highlight their feminine characteristics, so that the men around them want to have a kind of initiative to protect them.

2. Showing weakness is also a manifestation of leadership

Do you still remember the story of Liu Bei's three visits to the thatched house, Liu Bei is the most aware of showing weakness, so Zhuge Liang will feel that he has his own usefulness, which is also an important reason why he was able to leave Wolong Mountain for Liu Bei to fight the world later.

3. People who show weakness know how to let others behave

People who show weakness are very good at creating opportunities for others to perform, and the reason why everyone likes people who show weakness is precisely because of this kind of opportunity, they want to prove that they are valuable, and they also want to prove that they are needed, and once this sense of need and value is stimulated, they will be more grateful to the person who asks for it.

Tang Ruo, a national second-level psychological counselor, the pioneer of the Women's Mental Growth Training Camp, and a DISC international certified lecturer and consultant.

If a person who often asks is compared with a person who often gives, of course, the person who gives is more popularBecause people are more selfish and have a strong desire to control their own things, then if there is someone around you who has been asking for you and never paying, it will not be long before there will be a big contradiction between you and him, and you will see him more and more unpleasant, and on the contrary, the person who often pays to you will greatly satisfy a sense of comfort in your heart and make you willing to get close to him.

There is such a person around me, who doesn't like to pay but keeps taking, who also lives in a dormitory, and then has been using other people's things, I think this kind of person is very disgusting, and sometimes the friends in the dormitory buy snacks, and everyone doesn't greet her, she runs over by herself, and keeps eating and eating, and her things, we have never eaten, so the people in our dormitory hate her very much.

And a person who gives a lot is different, if he often gives you help and often shares something with you, then, when I am doing something or eating something, I will think of him, and I am willing to help him and share happiness with himIt is very easy and pleasant to get along with this kind of person, and it makes you feel the beauty of life.

A person who often asks for it is selfish in nature, unwilling to share with others, and very tired to get along with this kind of person, and will feel very tired, so in comparison, it is still a person who pays a lot, and it is easier to be welcomed, but this kind of person is not easy to bully, but they are not willing to enjoy life alone.

Of course, those who pay are more popular!

A person who only knows how to ask and does not know how to give, is a selfish person. It's definitely not going to be popular.

Of course, people who pay are relatively more popular, but as the saying goes, persimmons are pinched softly, people are afraid of being soft and afraid of hard, too good to speak, people who pay too much, the fruits of labor are cheap, and people don't know how to cherish. People who just ask and don't give are not very likely to make friends. One should properly learn to say no to others, and to ask for it when it is time to ask for it.