How can you not be selfish in a relationship?

It's like this between friends, some friends are not particularly good friends, they just eat together, go shopping together, and chat together at work. The friendship that results from this is not deep, but it is also inseparable. My friends are always a little selfish when they are with me.

When I have such friends, I will try to let them a little bit more, let them get what I can get, I will not go to them to rob them. Let them eat more of what they like to eat, and they always want to do less at work, so I'll make more and make them easier. When I eat, I try to pay because I don't want to take advantage of them, after all, we are friends, and it's okay to invite them to a meal once in a while.

I value friendship very much, and I try to satisfy my friends as much as possible, and I don't want them to think that I am a selfish person, and if I become a selfish person, then I will have no friends. I don't want to be so selfish among friends, I just want to be a little more sincere, a little less routine, and let it go.

Love is the same, many people just want to get what they want, and ignore the other person's feelings, if I have a love, then I will be kind to my boyfriend, let him pay a little less, and don't always ask him for gifts, ask him for red envelopes. Anyone's money is hard-earned, not falling from the sky, if he doesn't have the ability, don't always ask him for this and that. If he had the heart, he would have given it to me himself, instead of asking him for it.

When he is tired, don't ask him to help me with the housework, because the pressure on men is already greater than that of women, and they do more business than women, so when he is tired, don't complain that he doesn't help him with housework. Understand him more and give more to this family, so that he will love me more.

In terms of family affection, we should also be kind to our relatives, my parents raised themselves since childhood, how much hard work and fatigue they paid, when we grew up, they were old, and now is the time for us to repay them. Their wishes, we try our best to meet him, they have never eaten in their lives, I will take them to eat, where they have not been, we try to take him again, for the rest of their lives, I will try to help them make up for all their regrets. They have worked too hard in this life, for us, they have never rested, now that we have grown up, they are old, it is time to enjoy the blessings, so as long as I have the opportunity, I will let them enjoy the beauty of the world more.

Although my financial conditions are limited now, I will not treat my parents badly, I would rather work harder and be kind to them.

Therefore, in a relationship, you can pay a little more in order not to be selfish.

Everyone is selfish, and love is no exception, but for love, it is the life of two people, and more tolerance and understanding are necessary. In a relationship, it is unrealistic to want to be completely unselfish, but when we give the other person enough tolerance, all selfishness will dissipate, and this kind of relationship can last for a long time, and only in this way can the relationship continue.

I was in a long-distance relationship in my freshman year, and the gap in distance made me and her gradually have some contradictions, sometimes she wanted to call me **, but I didn't have time because I had classes or was busy with other things, but she couldn't understand me, just selfishly wanted me to call her **, and over time there were more and more contradictions between us, irreconcilable, and in the end there was no result. On the contrary, my current girlfriend, she knows how to understand my feelings and thoughts, tolerates me when I am busy, gives me enough energy to work, makes me feel very warm, and our relationship has always maintained a good relationship. This is the result of tolerance, which makes us less selfish.

Empathy is also a way to make us less selfish in a relationship, it is similar to tolerance, but the difference is that it tends to think from the other person's point of view, which makes it easier for us to understand each other, so that we are more willing to abandon selfishness, so as to enhance the relationship between the two parties and maintain this hard-won relationship. And empathy is not so easy, if you have not experienced this matter, it is difficult to understand the trouble and trouble caused by this matter, so that it is more inconvenient to understand. In fact, empathy is just an attitude, everyone has their own life and space, even if you have a relationship, but each other is still an independent individual, the other party has something, you can also do your thing, there is no need to be selfish to keep the other party around, do this, you will not be so selfish.

Communicating and communicating with each other is also a way not to let yourself be selfish, understanding each other's thoughts and going deep into each other's inner world is the most effective and direct way to understand each other, and if you want to do this, you must communicate more. In ordinary life, we are inseparable from communication, communication can enhance the relationship between each other, and it is also the most effective way to make us become unselfish. Each of us is deeply aware of this affirmation, in the collective cooperation activities, at the beginning we are the first to communicate their own ideas, the purpose is to enhance the relationship between each other, so as to work together in the next work, get rid of selfish thoughts, and in a relationship, this can highlight the effect of communication, it can make us not selfish in the process of interacting with each other, more harmonious.

The most taboo in the relationship is selfishness, if one party only thinks about himself, this relationship will not be long-term, in order to avoid this, how can we be an unselfish person?

In love, one party always pays more, and there is no absolute I will pay you back as much as you have paid me. First of all, we must learn to think from the other party's point of view, the other party let you be good to you because they love you, not let you squander his love, and think about the other party's feelings when you usually play a small temper, and listen patiently to the other party's explanation. We always ask the other half to have only ourselves in their eyes, and ask them not to be too close to the opposite sex, but they do not keep a distance from the opposite sex, why should we ask the other party to do what we can't do, and do not do to others what we don't want to do.

If you love me more, I will love you more accordingly, and the other party has no absolute obligation to tolerate you and understand you all the time, so we must care more about the other party's thoughts in order to keep him. I used to hear others say, "I selfishly thought that he would always tolerate me and never leave me." I can only say, you know that you are selfish, how can the other party continue to love a selfish person?

In friendship, we have to do not worry about friends, don't count your friendship, especially girls have smaller hearts, what this person has a better relationship with other people than you can make you angry, you have to know that your friend is not only your friend, he also has his own life circle. Usually save enough face for your friends when you talk. Don't impose on others what you don't like, and let others take responsibility for you.

Selfish people don't deserve friends, let alone perfect love, the most important thing to do without selfishness is to stand in the other person's point of view, treat the other party as their own, I don't believe you will be very bad for yourself.

If you want to be selfish, you should change your selfishness, and you should be generous.

It depends on each person's personality, I think it's better to be honest with each other, communicate more, and understand each other.

I have been dating my girlfriend for more than a year, and I decided that she was the person I wanted to marry in my life, and I never hid it from her, and we both thought about each other.

Yes, because love is inherently selfish. When I am with the other person, I want him to take me with him everywhere and accompany me every day. If you can, you can even hope to be tired of being with each other 24 hours a day, and hope that the other party is completely alone.

I think that's a very obvious sign of selfishness.

When I was young, I didn't understand what love was, and I said to my friends who played well: If only we could marry someone in the future, so that we can be together every day. Later, he didn't have to fall in love, he also had an affair with someone, and I didn't care (after all, nothing happened to me and him).

It wasn't until later that I met my husband, and I was angry when he even looked at others, and we would have quarreled if it had been longer.

He will always dream that he has a leg with someone else, and he will be angry to death when he wakes up in the morning. Seeing him, he got angry and lost his temper with him, he looked confused, I also knew that this was wronging him, but he was angry! Don't talk about sharing, even I get angry when he looks at people and chats with others, if I share, I'm not angry!

The most selfish thing in the world is love, but this selfishness will never be criticized by the world. Because it's something that everyone agrees with in their hearts. In fact, if you think about it carefully, anything related to love words will have selfishness, whether it is family, friendship, or love.

This kind of "selfishness" is to care, to cherish, and to revere the embodiment of respect. Especially between lovers, if you don't have a very important place in each other's hearts, do you think there will be "selfishness" in the middle of you?

So I think that in fact, everyone will be selfish in a relationship, even in a long-term relationship, but many people don't feel it, or don't want to admit it.

I am not the selfish party in the long-term relationship, I have always given to my feelings, after all, I cherish the people I love, so I can't tolerate my sloppiness, and what I expect is to give to each other.

In long-term relationships, I don't think I'm a selfish person, because I always know how to understand other people's feelings, and I always make them less painful because I don't want to cause them trouble.

I'm not on the selfish side of a long-term relationship, but I'm not very generous either. I have my own rules of conduct, I don't want to take advantage of others and I don't want to suffer too much loss, as long as I have a conscience.

Yes, in fact, everyone is more or less selfish, even in a long-term relationship, I will have some selfish thoughts out of self-protection for myself, and it is normal and human nature for this kind of thinking to exist.

In a long-term relationship, I think I am the selfish one, because I think that the love of two people is exclusive and cannot tolerate the other, but this kind of selfishness is not considering the other person's thoughts and situations, but just a kind of love and protection for myself.

I don't think I'm on the selfish side, because I've given a lot to the relationship and I've done my best to keep it going, as long as possible.

Yes. I rarely take into account the other person's feelings, I go my own way, even though I am about to break up, I still don't have the consciousness to change, it's not that I don't want to change, but I don't know how to change.

If you want to maintain a good long-term relationship. Then you can't be selfish. Both sides need to put themselves in the other's shoes. Stick to your bottom line. Don't break your friendship for your own sake. That's the right thing to do.

I'm not. Maybe it's because of my personality, I've always thought about other people's feelings, and sometimes I even ignore my own feelings, but making others happy also makes me happy.