Why do you blame yourself when you get angry with your father?

Because love ......I often quarreled with my dad, and we had many fights and cold wars during this summer. A lot of times it's because of some trivial things. Every time I quarreled, I would run to my room and lock it up, and when I calmed down, I was full of self-blame, thinking that I didn't need to and shouldn't do this to my father, and I shouldn't ......let him down again and again<

My family is in the countryside, and since I was a child, my family was very poor, and my parents were farmers who made a living from farming. They knew the hard work and worked hard to send me to a private primary school in our county in order to have a good job in the future. Originally, although life was poor, it was still manageable.

But when I was 10 years old, my mother was in a car accident and suffered a comminuted fracture of her left leg. The burden of life fell on my father alone, even if he couldn't pay the tuition, he had to borrow money to insist on sending me to school, I can't imagine how he survived that time, but I feel that every time I come home, I feel that he is much older and ......

As time passed, the situation improved little by little, and our family moved to the county seat, started a business, and our life improved little by little. Later, I lived up to my expectations and was admitted to university, but somehow every time I came home during the holidays, I felt that I couldn't talk to my father, and it was easy to quarrel after a few words, and many times I felt that he didn't understand me. He loves to nag and sometimes finds him annoying.

But seeing that his back no longer thinks about the straightness in his childhood memory, the gray hair that has increased in his ears and temples, and then remembers the difficulty of his previous life, he can't help but blame himself and tears. How could I ever understand him? What right do you have to lose your temper with him?

If you will blame yourself too, then please understand him more and stop losing your temper......

It shows that you are sensible and know that whatever your parents say is for your own sake, and you should not be angry with him.

Because that's his father, his father is all for the good of his children, and he feels a little unfilial after getting angry.

In fact, I also feel this way, every time I can't help but quarrel with my dad and lose my temper, and when I calm down, I will regret and blame myself very much.

In fact, it is normal to have this kind of thought, because I love my father, and when I was emotional, I said hurtful words, and any unscrupulous words were insincere.

It is not easy to know how difficult it is for my father, I am working hard for this family, I don't know how to thank my father for his dedication, and I lose my temper so unscrupulously.

No matter how naughty we were when we were children, Dad would forgive us with his love and tolerance. And now we don't know how to understand him at all.

Dad is your elder, and as a child, you should know how to respect him. In ancient times, we in China paid attention to not disobeying our parents and putting filial piety first. Now, what we have learned from childhood is to respect the old and love the young.

There is no overnight feud between you and your parents, since you know that you regret it, then take the initiative to apologize to your father, whether the matter itself is your fault or not, you are wrong to quarrel with your father. Sincerely say sorry for your bad attitude. He will forgive you and promise him that you will never do it again.

Don't die for the sake of face, and the dead duck has a hard mouth, only by talking about things, you and Dad will be comfortable in your hearts.

So, kids. Don't take your bad temper out on your parents, they will be even more uncomfortable than you. Learn to speak well, and if there is any problem that cannot be discussed?

All the starting points of our parents are for our good, since there are some points of view that we can't accept, but we must also understand the hard work of our parents.

Sometimes we are in a bad mood, and then we lose our temper with our family, and when we get angry with our father, we blame ourselves.

The second is that maybe I'm really wrong. Sometimes our thoughts are different from those of our families, in fact, our family will consider many aspects, maybe more thoughtful than us, but we unilaterally follow our own opinions, in that strength, we don't listen to other people's opinions, because we are sometimes too persistent, and then we will think about it is our own fault, then you will be very ashamed, your heart is very unhappy, and then you will blame yourself.

The third is that we need a warm home. When I first got angry with my dad, I felt that everything in the house, well, was quiet, there was no usual laughter, you didn't want to see such a deserted home, and how much you liked to be in a happy atmosphere.

Fourth, we saw that my father was also very unhappy. Sometimes I see my dad very unhappy, I feel that I am very ignorant, and I want to make her angry. Maybe my father is in poor health and is afraid of getting angry, so he feels that he is really too unfilial as a child.

Because human beings are emotional things, each of us hopes to be emotionally perfect and beautiful, but we don't want our family members to break down emotionally and estrangement psychologically, and at this time you are afraid of destroying the emotional wall. Feelings and family affection are things that may not be recovered. At this time, you are a little timid, a little confused, so, very sad.

It was very hard for our parents to raise us, and as we grew up, we became more and more sensible, especially when we got married, had our own housewife and had our own children, this feeling will be more profound. When we were young, we were sometimes unhappy, we would get angry with our parents, we didn't want to pay attention to them, and we felt that they didn't understand us. When we grow up, we will listen to them when they nag us, it is one thing to do it or not, but we will definitely listen, and we can't bear to argue with them.

This is all very normal, which means that we have really grown up.

But there really is a time when you accidentally don't hold the fire and get angry with them, and then you will regret it and blame yourself because you feel sorry for them. I feel that our parents have raised us so much, and the hardships are really impossible to explain in words, we know very well, so we are more soft-hearted, and feel that we shouldn't be like this, just endure the past, and our parents are always good to us.

And, as our parents get older, and we grow older, our parents will become more dependent on us, really. They will become a little cautious, especially if you have your own family, they don't want to tell you anything, they are afraid of causing you trouble, they can solve it by themselves, and they will hide it from you if they can hide it.

The older the parents, the more like a child in their hearts, old children and old children, that's what they mean. They may just want you to care about them, or you may want to go back and see them more often, and there is not much else to ask for. When you go back, they are happier than the Chinese New Year and cook you all kinds of delicious food.

We also understand the painstaking efforts of our parents.

So, we feel more sorry for our parents, and it's normal for you to feel guilty when you're angry with them. After all, we feel sorry for our parents from the bottom of our hearts.

Because you know in your heart that it's not right to quarrel with your father, you shouldn't do it, our parents love us so much, what qualifications and reasons do we have to hurt them and make them sad. After all, our parents are gradually aging, and we should cherish the time we spend with them, rather than making our parents feel helpless in the limited time.

I am often like this, I used to always be unable to suppress the impulse in my heart, again and again, against my father, every time I quarreled, it was a deep self-blame, but because I wanted to save face, I never apologized, but every time my father took the initiative to talk to me. In fact, I don't want to hurt my parents' hearts, but my daily work and socializing outside have exhausted my body and mind, and the anger in my heart has nowhere to vent.

When we were young, we didn't understand the burden of life that our father carried, but when we grew up, we truly experienced the hardships and difficulties of life, and it was easier to understand our father's strength. Presumably, you and your father got angry, and it must not have been done intentionally, maybe it was just a hurry, and you happened to say something that was not very pleasant. Knowing that he broke his father's heart, and knowing that he made his father sad, he will definitely blame himself and regret it.

Our parents' love for us is far deeper than we think, and we definitely don't want to hurt our parents in our hearts.

So, thank you for your understanding and tolerance, fathers are more unkind at words than mothers, and the love they give us is heavier and more speechless. It's not serious to be angry with your father, as long as you are willing to apologize, it's too late.

Of course, most of the quarrels are due to impulsiveness, and when they calm down, they will regret their impulsiveness and say hurtful things, let alone quarrels with their fathers.

In fact, quarreling with my parents is nothing more than about learning, early love and other topics. It's just that they are too much in charge, which is also what we call rebellion.

Feeling guilty shows that you are still a filial child, at least you are sorry for making your parents sad.

I think my father is the man who loves me the most in this world. No matter how much they scolded us, they still felt sorry for us in their hearts. After all, they are our fathers.

In fact, we all know in our hearts that we will never break up with our fathers, we will never forget them, and we will always remember that there is someone waiting for us at home. You quarrel with him, and you know that he is the saddest one, and that's why you feel sad.

My dad is such a person, he has a short temper, he often yells at me, he feels like I'm going to scold me for a little thing, of course I'm also angry, so he scolds me, I yell at him, and now I think about it, it's really not right, but we've never really been angry with each other. After he scolded me, he would still make me something to eat.

So think about it carefully, this is the difference between family and other friendship love, friendship will break up, love will break up, only family will never leave you.

No matter how much you disappoint your parents, they still love you the same, and it is this strong and selfless affection that makes you feel guilty.

If it's a stranger you're arguing with, you'll feel angry, the other person can't be reasoned with, and you think it's better to get as far away from that person as possible. Because it's a parent, you know their minds, and you feel guilty.

I also get angry with my dad a lot, and I really feel this feeling of self-blame.

Just a few days ago, seven days after going home on National Day, I asked a few waves of friends to go out to dinner at night, and one night I had dinner with my boyfriend and a few classmates, it was already 9 o'clock, my dad called me ** and asked me to go home, probably because I didn't see my boyfriend for a month so I wanted to stay a little longer, I was very annoyed that my dad urged me to go home, of course, I was still very obedient and took a taxi home immediately, but when I got home, I choked a few words with my dad, in fact, after choking, I regretted it, My dad was worried that I would be in danger at night and I didn't understand him, I really blamed myself so much that I wanted to cry, but I still couldn't pull my head to apologize to my dad, and after a while, my dad took the initiative to come to me and reconcile.

In most families, Dad took on all the responsibilities of the family, they worked hard every day, worked hard to earn money to support the family, Mom educated us, Dad supported us, we grew up, Dad slowly got older, my dad didn't accept old age at all, but once I still saw him obviously getting old, very distressed. In fact, Dad is our strongest backing, and he is the warmest shoulder when we are injured. He was fierce at times, but he loved us, and he gave us all the things he worked hard for.

Although he is not good at words, he will always take care of us with his actions. He was always silent, but he held up the family. In most families, although our father did not let us live in a big mansion, wear all kinds of famous brands, and eat all kinds of treasures, he let us have food and clothing, let us boldly do what we like, let us rest assured to choose the road we like, and gave us a warm home.

A few years ago, Chopsticks Brothers' "Father" was popular all over the country, every time I listened to it, I would burst into tears, "always ask you but never thank you", as we grow up, we should be more good at expressing our love for Dad, learn to understand them, take care of them, Dad took care of us from a baby to grow up, we should now slowly accompany him into an old child.

Be more understanding and considerate of him, care and tolerance, sometimes you can cure many diseases that doctors can't cure.

Everyone will be more or less influenced by their own temper and habits. Many people make mistakes without knowing that they are wrong. Some people are even more so, knowing that they are wrong, they still continue to let their temper sway.

I may make excuses for myself: I know it's wrong, but I just can't help it, it's just a matter of character.

In the face of all kinds of things, we must first confirm that we will not be carried away by the momentary temper and rise, and stay calm and restrained. When the other party is angry or in a bad mood, don't make a big noise, and don't say anything at this time. When the other party is in a good mood or calm, you should use the attitude that belongs to your position (as a child, you should have the attitude that you should have as a child) to communicate with the other party slowly, pay attention to staying calm, have a tolerant and considerate heart, and think more empathy.

As for the process, you need to grasp it yourself.