Why does my husband and nephew always feel that we owe him?

It is possible that your husband owes your eldest brother, is it because the family conditions are not good, the eldest brother is a scholar, and he gave up the opportunity to study by himself to earn money for your husband to study, so when the nephew knows this, he feels that what you owe his father is also owed to their family. In the final analysis, if this is the reason, it is also your parents-in-law who owe your uncle and brother, not you. Some parents do not act and leave this contradiction for their children below.

You don't have to pay attention to him, and you don't have to help him, because no matter how much money is given to him, he takes it for granted and doesn't thank you.

Maybe this kind of person just has a character, just like he feels that others owe him, it may be caused by the family environment, or there may be a deep reason, I think you need to ask your husband if there are other reasons.

Because I am usually too spoiled and too close.

Forgetting that you are an aunt, in his subconscious, you are her mother, or a relative who is similar to her mother.

Now in this society, no one owes anyone, unless there is an obvious lending relationship, otherwise, it is a bright self, no one owes anyone, don't look at other people's eyes!

Don't lie in this kind of person, people who know how to be grateful, will always remember the grace of dripping, people who don't know how to be grateful, no matter how much you pay to him, he will always be dissatisfied, it seems that your husband and nephew are the latter, forget it, kindness to the wrong person, you will be sad, please pay attention in the future.

I think maybe your nephew is too delicate, that's why he thinks like this, the purpose is to get your attention and make you care about him.

This kind of person must feel that the whole world owes him. You should do whatever you want, don't get along with this uneducated person, and you can't do a good job of being an uncle and aunt, and you don't want to be so much.

This should ask your husband's family whether they are very conservative in their family concept and attach great importance to this kind of family relationship, or if your husband has received any favors from others.

It's that he has been dependent on you since he was young, and when he grew up, he developed the habit of being lazy, so everything depends on you.

This sentence of yours alone will not give you the answer you want. Is there a discrepancy between your husband and your nephew's father? If not, then maybe you and your husband treat him too well, promote Mien, fight Mi hate, only know how to blindly ask, don't know gratitude, just like the old woman by the sea, she is not satisfied with changing a wooden basin, and she wants a palace.

This is a family conflict, and it can only be solved through communication and finding the problem.

Legal analysis: There is no obligation to the husband's nephew, it belongs to the kinship, and there is no need to bear legal obligations, unless the parents make a will to make you and your husband the guardian, but you can also reflect to the village committee or the residents' committee that you do not bear the guardianship, therefore, there is no obligation to the husband's nephew.

Legal basis: Article 27 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China provides that parents are the guardians of minor children.

Where a minor's parents are deceased or have no capacity for guardianship, the following persons with guardianship capacity are to serve as guardians in order: (1) grandparents or maternal grandparents; (2) Elder brother or sister; (3) Other individuals or organizations willing to serve as guardians, but with the consent of the residents' committee, villagers' committee, or civil affairs department for the minor's residence.

Article 28: Adults who lack or have limited capacity for civil conduct are to be guardians in the following persons with guardianship capacity in order: (1) spouses; (2) Parents and children; (3) Other close relatives; (4) Other individuals or organizations willing to serve as guardians, but with the consent of the residents' committee, villagers' committee, or civil affairs department for the ward's domicile.

Article 29: Where the parents of a ward serve as guardians, a guardian may be appointed through a will.

Article 31: Where there is a dispute over the determination of a guardian, the residents' committee, villagers' committee, or civil affairs department for the ward's domicile is to appoint a guardian, and where the relevant parties are not satisfied with the designation, they may apply to the people's court for the appointment of a guardian; Relevant parties may also directly apply to the people's court for the appointment of a guardian.

Residents' committees, villagers' committees, civil affairs departments, or people's courts shall respect the true wishes of the ward, and follow the principle of the best interests of the ward to appoint a guardian among those who have guardianship qualifications in accordance with law.

Where the ward's personal rights, property rights, and other lawful rights and interests are unprotected before a guardian is appointed on the basis of the provisions of the first paragraph of this article, the residents' committee, villagers' committee, relevant organization as provided for by law, or civil affairs department for the ward's domicile is to serve as the temporary guardian.

After the guardian is appointed, it must not be changed without authorization; Where changes are made without authorization, the responsibility of the appointed guardian is not exempted. Article 1045:Relatives include spouses, blood relatives, and in-laws.

Spouses, parents, children, siblings, grandparents, grandchildren, and grandchildren are close relatives.

Spouses, parents, children and other close relatives living together are family members.

Because young people are accustomed to having other people's triumphers pay, they can't feel the hard work of others, and always feel that everyone owes him, and he should enjoy it.