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Not being close to grandma, on the one hand, it may be caused by grandma's personality, some people only think about themselves and are used to being strong, and it may be that your "aura" is not the same, not a type of person, or not a complementary type of person, and it may also be due to grandma's attitude towards other relatives, such as whether she is good to your mother, which will also affect your opinion of her.
But you can't change the reality that she is your grandmother, so just keep your distance, keep a measured closeness, have a lot of politeness, have no shortage of gifts, do what you should say, and just be in place. After all, you don't have to live with her for the rest of your life, you will have your own life.
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Maybe I just think grandma is too strong. I want to be psychologically dependent on my grandmother. Probably willing, grandma is kinder.
But I feel that my grandmother is too strong and can't communicate with my grandmother at all, so I have a resistance to my grandmother from my heart, so I hate my grandma. But after all, it's his own grandmother. She is strong for her own reasons.
Although you don't necessarily agree with grandma's approach. But from the heart, you should still respect your elders.
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Because of the way the old and the young think.
There is a big generation gap between them.
So, when grandma does something, it will conflict with you. So how do you deal with the elderly?
Grandparents love nagging the most. Grandpa and grandma are like this. They like to reminisce about the past and like to nag about the old days. You just need to accompany and listen, and they need to be patient at this time.
Grandparents love to worry about it the most.
Thinking about the children who are still studying at home, thinking about the daughter who is not yet married, and thinking about the son who always quarrels with his wife, they still need some comfort and relief at this time.
Grandparents love to be quiet. In the past, when my family had Chinese New Year parties, my grandfather always stayed in his hut, and I stayed with my grandfather when my relatives were shouting outside. He listens to the newspaper, and I read the book.
We get along very calmly, and occasionally my grandfather will tilt his head and ask me if I have been tired from work recently, and I say that I am not too tired. Then he continued to read the newspaper and I continued to read the book. Just don't make noise at this time.
Grandparents are most afraid of snatching. They are afraid that you will rob you of the things you love the most, such as the love of your children, such as their love for you. So show loyalty, show love, let them know that you love them, make them feel needed, don't be idle, don't nag.
Finally, to sum up, grandparents are actually very afraid of death. Grandpa was always worried that if he took off his shoes today, he wouldn't have a chance to put them on tomorrow.
So, don't let them think about these things too lonely, spend more time with them, accompany them to raise flowers, raise puppies, walk around corners, and listen to the radio.
Reading. The old man who is busy with various things in life seems to have high self-esteem and is full of energy. In fact, underneath the tough exterior is a lonely heart. Only by being busy with all kinds of trivial things can we forget about our troubles and hide the emptiness and loneliness in our hearts.
We should affirm its positive and enterprising attitude. At the same time, try your best to provide opportunities for the elderly to relax, and you can often accompany the elderly to go out for a walk and play chess.
Everyone has emotional out-of-control, and the elderly are also prone to emotional changes due to their age, just like a barometer.
It's sunny today, it's raining tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow it's sleet.
The extremes of things must be opposed, you are stronger and he is stronger, and the result of a hard encounter is a lose-lose situation. Therefore, the changeable emotions and behaviors of the elderly should not be treated with a fierce tone and attitude.
Sun Tzu's Art of War pays attention to avoiding its edge and looking for fighters. Therefore, when the old man vents his emotions, he follows his emotional vent to persuade and comfort, don't be hard-hitting, World War II.
It's long gone.
Everyone will get old, and sooner or later we will become grandparents, so learn to get along with the elderly, which is to treat yourself well in the future.
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People who are strong themselves are not very popular. What's more, it's my own grandmother again. And grandma is an elderly person again.
Usually young people also have some resistance to the elderly. So combining these two points, the first grandmother is elderly, and the second is usually strong, so in your heart you may say that you will hate your grandmother. But there are many kinds of people, as the old saying goes.
Knife mouth tofu heart.
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Your grandma is very strong, and strong people have special ideas, whether it is right or wrong, everything has to be up to her, and she doesn't care about other people's feelings, and it is easy to hurt others, which is probably why you hate your grandma.
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The ideology of the next generation, the views on various things, the daily way of doing things, etc., will be very different, this is the generation gap, since it is relatives, or should communicate more, understand each other, grandma can not do anything for the purpose of harming you, so, you should also try to stand in grandma's point of view to see the problem.
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You will hate your grandmother, it may be from childhood to adulthood, your family and grandma do not get along very well, if you say that you get along well, it must be a particularly close relationship, so people like to get along with each other.
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It's been a generation, people regardless of age, hate is the effect of little communication with grandma, maybe you have no impression of grandma since you were a child, maybe because grandma and mom have a bad relationship, you stand on the side of mom and dad and cause you to hate, however, grandma's feelings for you should not be too casual, there is a saying that there is a generational parent.
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Won't you tell the reason yourself? It's because your own grandmother is too strong, he is in charge of everything, he won't listen to you, he won't listen to you because you are right, he will listen to you, whether what you say is right or not? He just thinks that you are not sensible, so you have to listen to him.
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Strong is her own character, or maybe it's because life has made her stronger, but there's no malice in herself, it's just the way she has always lived? Let's respect the old man, there is no need to take it too seriously.
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If your grandma is too strong, you will feel that she gives you less warmth, and you don't like such a strong person, so you will hate her.
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Maybe grandma is more thoughtful, everything is according to his ideas, and she is unwilling to listen to other people's opinions, so everyone doesn't like her.
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Why do you hate your own grandma? There must be one of these two reasons: First, your grandmother is indeed a nuisance. Second, your grandmother is not annoying, you are a bad boy with bad morals and unfilial piety.
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This kind of is used to being domineering at home, and the family doesn't resist him much, and over time he takes his domineering as a habit, it's normal for you to hate her, no matter who is not happy to deal with such an old lady.
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Because grandma is very strong, it is normal that you don't like her.
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Some old people are very stubborn. No matter what. Always use your own experience and experience to analyze and judge, and then you will be instructed how to do it.
In fact. There are some old ways of thinking that are not suitable for modern society, but. As a junior, don't refuse to your face, refute, be good, yes, yes, and then be flexible.
Another old saying: Those who obey are filial piety, so as not to have conflicts and make the father in a dilemma.
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The grandma you said is very strong, I feel that he is difficult to get close to, strong may be a problem of personality, there is no way to change the so-called easy to change the nature is difficult to change, don't tell yourself that grandma is good, it is best to be yourself.
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That's because you are used to it, no matter how brutal the old man is, after all, he is an elder, we can tolerate or avoid it, but they are always our elders.
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One, after all, it's your grandmother, and the relationship is still very close. You should also be grateful to her.
Second, the same personality trait often has disadvantages and advantages. Still have to see the positives.
Third, the people of the old society and the old era have little knowledge and culture, and it is inevitable that they will have shortcomings and deficiencies.
It's still a proper reminder and a lot of understanding.
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There must be a reason why you hate your own grandma You hate your own grandma, then he may not like you very much, so you should communicate more when you get along.
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If you are dissatisfied with your grandma and don't like your grandma, you will hate your grandma.
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The main thing is that grandma is not close enough to you, and you don't get grandma's love. That's why you have this mentality.
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As a grandchild, I think you should understand a few things. Clause.
1. Whoever owns the property is in charge. The house you mentioned in the article should belong to your grandmother, so she can dispose of her property according to her own wishes, and neither you nor your parents have the right to interfere; Clause.
2. In the absence of testamentary succession, your father has the legal right to inheritance. But if your grandmother has a will, she will inherit according to the will, and it is possible that your father will not be able to share it; Clause.
3. You have your own hands, why can't you earn your own money to buy a house? Do you have to wait for grandma's house? It is not easy for your grandmother to give birth to your father, you and your parents have to honor your grandmother, and if you still want your grandmother's house, you must be a hundred times filial to her old man.
Otherwise, she won't give you a house, and that's a matter of course.
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Many people hate their grandma because grandma is too patriarchal, either superstitious or too fierce, and always scolds you at every turn.
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It may be that some things I do are not very approved of by my grandmother, and then it will stimulate some contradictions, and the contradictions will become annoying after a long time.
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Because it is possible that grandma keeps the old-fashioned ideas of the older generation and will favor sons over daughters, so it leads you to hate your own grandma.
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Older people talk a lot, and people don't care about the details of life when they get old, so much so that you hate your grandmother.
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Grandma's feudal mentality is too serious, very stubborn, and wants to control everything about me, which makes me very annoying.
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Probably my grandmother is partial to herself, or my grandmother's feudal thinking is too serious and patriarchal.
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What she said, you should let it go. Don't take it personally. Don't talk back to her! Remember. If you talk back about this, you will suffer in the end!
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Maybe I was less with my grandmother, so I didn't talk much and couldn't talk together, but now the distance between me and my grandmother will only get farther and farther.
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Maybe it's because your grandmother has some prejudice against you, and some old people are bound by traditional ideas and are a little radical.
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Hello, I don't know exactly how old you are, but I can understand why you have this mentality. There is too much difference in age between you and your grandmother and her old people, and it is inevitable that there will be some concepts, and even great differences in views on some things, which will lead to some collisions, which is the so-called generation gap. The generation gap can lead to tension in the relationship, and in severe cases, they will be confrontational, so it is normal for you and your grandmother to not understand each other and have annoying situations.
But have you thought about it? Grandma may be a little more nagging, but one thing is for sure, that is, she cares about you and wants you to be successful, but in a way you don't like. As long as a person has a good heart, we have no reason to hate him, right?
Therefore, I recommend communicating with my grandmother more and trying to ease the tension. After all, she is your relative, and you are such a sensible child. I hope it helped you, and I wish you all the best!
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Summary. Hello, especially understand your feelings. A person's life goes through 8 stages of development, each of which has a different psychosocial crisis. The crisis of old age is reproduction and stagnation.
I feel that my own grandmother is very sloppy and stubborn, what to do, no one listens, it is very annoying, and I have to get along every day.
Hello, especially understand your feelings. A person's life goes through 8 stages of development, each of which has a different psychosocial crisis. The crisis of old age is reproduction and stagnation.
That is to say, when people enter the stage of old age, the body organs gradually decline, especially the decline of vision and hearing. This affects how they can communicate with others. Then gradually reduce social interaction, because social interaction is reduced, and no longer pay attention to their hygiene and image.
Personality traits are mainly manifested by stubbornness, fear of the future, etc. Therefore, to communicate with the elderly, it is recommended to recall the past with her. Then encourage her to socialize more with her peers. This is also conducive to her emotional channeling.
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Summary. Hello, little master.
Hello, little master.
Let's talk about it!
Don't be unhappy.
Since you were a child, you have been told by your family that everyone doesn't like you and hates you. What kind of character will be formed.
Can be a little withdrawn.
But in fact, many people hide their personalities.
I feel like I didn't have friends since I was a kid, and it was true that everyone hated me when I was in school.
My classmates isolated me.
Truth or Dare friends can only accompany you at that age, and the older you get, the more you will find that if you don't keep in touch often, you don't really have any friends. Because this is society.
They all have their own scheming.
When I was a child, my classmates would bully me or something, but when I grew up, it was nothing.
I think that since I was a child, I was really annoyed by the people around me, and I was isolated until I was **, and I had a problem with my personality.
How are your grades?
There are some people who will bully the weak all the time.
It's not your problem.
Grades are good and bad, and in general, I'm not in the mood to study.
All right. But I hope you study well.
Learning is really important.
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