My mother in law is sick, my father in law doesn t want to take care of me, and I don t have time, w

Updated on parenting 2024-06-13
47 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Negotiate with the family to ask a nanny to share the shares equally among each person, which is the best solution.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Get a babysitter and pay someone a month. Wouldn't it be nice for you to go to your class and earn more money yourself? If you don't want to hire a babysitter, you can tell your husband what you think, let your husband talk to your father-in-law, and let your father-in-law take care of your mother-in-law.

    This can save money and mobilize personnel, after all, your father-in-law listens to your husband.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    What are you anxious about, you have to be happy when your stepmother dies, your mother-in-law is the same as your stepmother

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Are there any other siblings in the family? If there is, everyone will discuss and solve it, but it is better for your husband to come forward for this kind of thing, you just need to tell your husband what you think.

    I really don't have time to hire a nurse, everyone pays for it!

    In a word, the old man has to be supported, and no one can escape, so he has to face the reality.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Let your husband communicate well with his dad and let him help take care of your mother-in-law. If he really doesn't want to take care of him, you can hire a babysitter, and then you can work harder yourself.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Get a babysitter. If your father-in-law doesn't want to take care of him, he may not be used to taking care of others, and you can tell him the most basic things for him to do.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Your father-in-law doesn't take care of it, why do you want to take care of it, I don't care if I change it, they don't care about the two of them, let his son take care of it.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    This kind of thing is handed over to your husband to deal with, and your father-in-law doesn't take care of it, who will take care of it?

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Then you can only see if the other children can take care of it, and you can also hire a nanny.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If the economic conditions are good, hire a nanny, if the economic conditions do not allow it, you can only be tired by yourself.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Then it depends on the husband's attitude. If you don't have siblings, pay for a babysitter.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Why didn't my father-in-law take care of it. To do the ideological work, that's his wife uh.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Ask for a babysitter If your father-in-law doesn't take care of you, you have no obligation anymore.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    A light nanny is older and will take care of the elderly.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Ask a babysitter to take care of the children, it's the best of both worlds.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    The easiest way to get a babysitter is to arrange your time reasonably.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    If the financial conditions allow, you can hire a babysitter.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Hire a babysitter so you can make it easier for yourself.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Hire a babysitter, there's no other way.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    What did your husband say, if your father-in-law doesn't want to take care of it, it's not your turn to worry about it.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    How can there be such a husband, you go and hire a temporary worker to take care of it.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    A few questions you need to understand:

    1. No matter whether your parents-in-law treat you well or not, you have no obligation to support them when they are old. The obligation to support your parents-in-law is their children, i.e. your husband and his siblings.

    You have to support your own parents.

    2. You are an adult, and you have married and formed a small family, whether you go to work or not, it is a matter for your younger couple, including your parents-in-law, no one has the right to influence and interfere.

    When your mother-in-law heard that you didn't go to work, she scolded you for being lazy. Did your mother scold your husband for getting married and having children to earn that little salary?

    Your mother-in-law scolds you for not going to work, you can also throw the child to your husband and take it, and you go out to work by yourself to see how your mother-in-law feels?

    3. Why do you want to live with your parents-in-law? There is no requirement that a woman must live in her in-law's house when she gets married. When large and small families are separated, many family conflicts will disappear naturally.

    Now I want to talk about your problem, did you have your own money before you got married, and your husband's salary income before marriage was the same as now, right? Did you have any money and insurance before you had children? Maternity allowance, etc., are all premises, 27 years old I should save some money, these problems arise, a big reason is that I have no plan, I think my mother-in-law should help you, the result is not so, it is recommended that you find a way to make money, don't think about what she is old I want to support her problem, make money to support yourself and your children, now there are many ways to make money, **brushing, micro-business, **, live broadcast can make a little money, subsidize the family, the child will grow up.

    Don't think of yourself as so weak, women are weak, and mothers are strong.

    0 anonymous users.

    It is an obligation to support the elderly, no matter what he does to you, what you do is for your children. First of all, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the world is the most difficult, but if we go to the daughter-in-law, we have to make a big move, doesn't he want us to work, let your husband do ideological work, if not, you will report the child to him, you say; Mom, I have a suitable job, you see you should also rest and rest, just take care of the children at home, if he doesn't agree, then you say, you see this is the offspring of your family, you can't go to work if you don't take me with you, if you get sick, your conscience as a grandmother is not at ease, right? If you provoke her like this, she will be better, but you must smile kindly, the smile is the biggest **'Although I won't.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Whether they are good to you or not, they have the obligation to take care of them when they are old, and it is the responsibility of children to take care of them. Don't worry too much about whether your parents-in-law are good to you, you are strangers, but because of your husband, you live together and need time to run in.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    According to the provisions of the Civil Code, the daughter-in-law is not the heir of the father-in-law, and the father-in-law and mother-in-law are not the heirs of the daughter-in-law.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    There is no such obligation. The law stipulates that it is the responsibility and obligation of each child to support their parents, and that spouses have only a supporting role. So if your parents-in-law treat you badly, you don't have to take care of them at all.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    No matter whether your parents-in-law treat you well or not, you are not obliged to take care of them when they are old, it is your husband who is obligated to take care of them. You are only assisting your husband in taking care of them, and of course if they treat you badly, you may not have the will.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Although your parents-in-law are not very good to you, but when they are grandmothers, you should also take care of them as much as possible, on the one hand, they are their elders after all, no matter what, you should respect them and be filial to them, on the other hand, if your parents-in-law are old, you don't take care of them, your husband will feel bad in his heart, then when your parents are old, that is, his father-in-law and mother-in-law, he will not take the initiative to take care of them. In fact, there is a certain conflict between him and his parents-in-law, which should be resolved through more communication.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Originally, the daughter-in-law did not have the obligation to support her in-laws, but the in-laws were good to you, and when they were old, you were good to them, and you exchanged people's hearts for people's hearts.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    I don't think you're obligated to take care of them, but your husband has an obligation to take care of them. If the two of you are working together to earn money to support the family, your job can support the family, and he can quit his job to take care of his parents.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Even if your parents-in-law treat you badly, they are still your parents-in-law, and you are still obliged to take care of them when they are old.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    This is, of course, obligatory.

    Since you and your husband are married, it is a responsibility and obligation for you to take care of your parents-in-law in the future.

    Even though they are not very good to you now, you are still obliged to take care of them in the future.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Your parents-in-law treat you badly, and you have the obligation to take care of them when you are old, which is stipulated by law.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Hello, your parents-in-law are not good to you, and you have the obligation to take care of them when you are old!

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    There is an obligation to take care of them. After all, they are your elders, and you need to support them well.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    Normally, this obligation is your husband's obligation, and you can not take care of them, but your husband must fulfill his obligation and hope that your life can be happy.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    The law stipulates that children have the obligation to support the elderly, and as a daughter-in-law, you are not related to your parents-in-law by blood, and you are not their children, so you have no obligation to take care of them.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Yes, there must be Luo.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Although many people will say that their in-laws did not help when they needed help the most, and they did not take care of them when they were old. But in fact, when the in-laws are old, we will still take care of them. This is human nature, how can there be no feelings after a long time, and it may be a momentary anger to say that you don't take care of it.

  39. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    It is your duty for your children to support the elderly, and you can't say that you didn't support you when you were in the most difficult times, and you didn't support them when they were old. This is your duty, and if you don't meet your obligation to provide for you, they will take you to court.

  40. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    It's up to you, supporting your parents refers to your biological parents, and the support of your in-laws is your husband's business, just like now they are helping is love, and not helping is their duty.

  41. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    Hello this friend, your parents-in-law are not good to you, this is what they did wrong. But supporting the elderly is what each of us should do. It is also our obligation. I wish you a happy and successful experience.

  42. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    Legally, you can not support them at that time, but as a mother of a child, because your child is already married at that time, I think you can also set an example for your child if you don't support the elderly, then the child will not support you in the future.

  43. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    Our parents have no obligation to raise us until we are 18 years old, and we are adults, although they treat us badly, we also have the obligation to support us when they are old.

  44. Anonymous users2023-12-30

    If your mother-in-law doesn't want to take care of your child, then you can talk to your mother-in-law about sending your child to kindergarten or ask your parents to help take care of it.

    But if your mother-in-law wants you to do housework at home because there is no one to do the housework, then you can promise your mother-in-law that you will try to do the housework well outside of work and try to satisfy your mother-in-law. This is also the solution to the problem. Coax your mother-in-law to be happy first, even if you really can't be a mother-in-law in the future, you won't have a big opinion of Tuanshan.

    Suggestion: If the child is very young and the husband has the ability to support the family, then you must also understand: earning money is important, but it is also very important to accompany the child to grow up, after all, the busy work is for the child and the happiness of the family in the end.

    In short: nothing is for nothing, and there must be a reason why your mother-in-law doesn't let you go out to work. Find the problem, if the problem is within your own capacity, then, make a commitment, you can easily solve the problem.

    You have to talk to your mother-in-law. You just tell her, Mom, I really want to go out to work and make my life better. I want to have a common topic with your son!

    I want to better keep up with the times! Better education for children! Better yourself!

    Improve your abilities! So that you can live an easier life too.

    You don't want me to be as beautiful as other daughters-in-law when I go out! When I have a job, I will work harder and understand the hard work of making money.

    It's also about knowing how to spend money and how to save money. Be diligent and thrifty, keep the chaos or quietly. The days without work are really wasted. I think your mother-in-law will be willing to listen to your explanation. I will definitely support you!

    Times are changing, and so are the minds of young people. Nowadays, most young couples, after getting married and having children, will choose to take care of their own children, so the group of "full-time mothers" has emerged. Many stay-at-home mothers give up their originally stable jobs and resolutely choose to quit their jobs for the sake of their families and children.

    But if one party resigns to concentrate on raising the baby, the career will be interrupted, the family's economic income will be reduced, and the other party will bear all the pressure from the family.

    If you meet a husband and mother-in-law who understand you, it's fine, but if you meet a family who doesn't understand or loves to provoke trouble, then what awaits you will be endless pain. My husband will think that you are just taking care of a child at home, what kind of pressure can this be, I run outside every day and the customer doesn't say anything; And the mother-in-law will mostly complain that you are squeamish, thinking that she used to be like this, and the previous conditions were not as good as now, and she disliked her daughter-in-law in all kinds of ways.

    In short, if the family is wealthy, they will also choose to be at home and be a good wife and mother.

  45. Anonymous users2023-12-29

    When her in-laws are sick and her sister-in-law doesn't take care of her, that's her unfilial piety.

    Just be yourself and be worthy of your conscience.

    As a daughter-in-law, marrying into this family is a family, as the saying goes, a family does not speak 2 family words, do your best to take care of her, everyone has a scale in their hearts, you are good to her, she will also remember your good.

  46. Anonymous users2023-12-28

    If you have an opinion with your parents-in-law, then you can not see them for a while, and let your husband and children visit the elderly during the New Year's holidays. When time dilutes the conflict between you and your in-laws, then you want to go back and go back.

  47. Anonymous users2023-12-27

    I don't know what happened between you, there is such a deep resentment. Your in-laws are the people who love your husband in the world, if you have a good relationship with your husband, if you love your husband, please remember to respect his parents as well. Every family will have some trivial chores, and we must learn to tolerate others, understand others, and comfort our hearts.

    When a big family is harmonious, your small family will be truly happy.

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