Who should do the housework? Who should do the chores?

The word "housework" is not unfamiliar to each of us, life can be seen everywhere, from birth to death will surround us, housework is simply the affairs of the daily life of the family. Many people don't like housework very much, but they have to do it.

Housework in the traditional concept is a sign of the identity of all housewives, so there is a sentence "male outside, female inside", with the development of the times, many people regard the problem of housework as a battlefield of family conflicts and marriage, housework has become an unbelievable thing in a family, who does a little more, who does a little less, will lead to the inner imbalance of both parties, and unconsciously become the cause of marriage breakdown.

Doing housework seems to many people to be a terrible piece of hard work, but in fact it is nothing more than light manual labor, and the labor consumed is insignificant and does not damage the body, and the real reason is that it stems from people's laziness and ignorance.

Although I personally don't like to do housework, not because I can't do it, but because I am lazy and don't want to move, every time I do housework, I feel very pleasant, cleaning, cooking, washing dishes, etc., seeing a clean room, delicious dishes, clean bowls, the mood is extremely happy, and it is pleasing to the eye.

I think a family can not be completely undertaken by one person, it should be undertaken by two people, and the family is composed of two people, then the housework must also be created by two people, to experience a good life, as the saying goes, "men and women are distributed, and they are not tired of work".

Doing housework is actually a choice of life attitude, from the process of doing housework we can experience the bits and pieces of life, find the joy of life, and add joy to life.

In real life, couples often encounter this scene, where working women drag their tired bodies home from work, and there are a bunch of housework waiting to be done, while the husband crosses his legs.

Just watch TV ......An irritable wife and a laid-back husband often cause conflicts because of this, why do they both make money, but let one do the housework?

It is common for wives to be busy with housework after work.

Modern women have to compete in the workplace and take care of their families. If the husband does not share the housework at all, family conflicts will accumulate over time.

Men should be more considerate of their wives' hardships and take on more family obligations. And women should also be careful not to take care of the housework from the beginning and make their husbands feel that they don't need help. Women need to learn to develop a sense of responsibility in their husbands.

Show weakness appropriately, ask him for help, and encourage him, and gradually, the two will be able to find a suitable way to divide the housework, and the husband and wife will be able to understand each other better.

Hello! Housework should be shared by their other half, every newlywed couple will encounter such a situation, because two people may be working, and the work day is not easy, but housework always has to deal with the fight, and if you don't deal with this home, it will look very dirty and messy, and there is no home atmosphere, so the two imitations still have to assign tasks.

If both people are working, then the husband should share the housework, because both people work, no one is easy, no one stipulates, women must handle housework, men can not help, some jobs are suitable for women to do more detailed work, there are some physical work or do a relatively large amount of work, suitable for men to do, both people work naturally, no one wants to do housework, but if the family environment wants to maintain well, both parties must work together, so that there can be a family atmosphere, Men can also take on some housework appropriately to share the pressure on their other half.

If only one of the two people goes to work, for example, the man goes to work, and the woman takes care of the children or cooks at home, in this case, the woman should deal with the housework, and whether the man is willing to share is his problem, but you can't make mandatory requirements for the man, because after all, he has worked for a day, he is the main breadwinner of the family, and he naturally wants to rest at home, if you don't do anything, you don't eat at home, and you don't care about anything except taking the children. That is obviously not in line with a wife's obligations, and vice versa, if the wife is working, the husband should also take care of the housework at home, after all, the workload must be properly distributed, you can't stay at home and do nothing, all counting on your other half.

Housework should be shared by their other half, every newlywed couple will encounter such a situation, because two people may be working, and the work day is not easy, but housework always has to be dealt with, and if you don't deal with this home, it will seem very dirty and messy, and there is no home atmosphere, so two people still have to assign tasks.

If both people are working, then the husband should share the housework, because both people work, no one is easy, no one stipulates, women must deal with housework, men can not help, some jobs are suitable for women to do more detailed work, there are some physical work or do a relatively large amount of work, suitable for men to do, both people are rough to work naturally, no one wants to do housework, but if the family environment wants to maintain a good environment, both parties must work together, so that there can be a family atmosphere, Men can also take on some housework appropriately to share the pressure of their other half.

If only one of the two people goes to work, for example, the man goes to work, and the woman takes care of the children or cooks at home, in this case, the woman should take care of the housework, and whether the man is willing to share is his problem, but you can't make mandatory requirements for the man, because after all, he has worked for a day, he is the main breadwinner of the family, and he naturally wants to rest at home, if you don't do anything, you don't cook at home, and you don't care about anything except taking care of the children. That is obviously not in line with a wife's obligations, and vice versa, if the wife is working, the husband should also take care of the housework at home, after all, the workload must be properly distributed, you can't stay at home and do nothing, all counting on your other half.

When we get married and start a family, we need to do all kinds of housework in our daily lives in order to run our lives normally. The question of who does the housework and how to divide the housework between the husband and wife can be arranged according to the individual's abilities and strengths, the individual's work status, and the specific division of labor between the husband and wife.

1. Husband and wife should combine their personal abilities and specialties to do housework.

Different people have different specialties. When doing things, give full play to your own strengths in order to get twice the effect with half the effort. ......There are various contents and states of housework, and couples should combine their own abilities and specialties to do what they are best at housework, so that they can do housework quickly and well, and make life better.

2. The amount of housework should be decided according to the state of work.

Husbands and wives are in different positions when it comes to going to work, and this factor should be taken into account when doing housework. ......For the spouse who works harder, you can do less or even no housework to relieve fatigue and ensure good health; On the other hand, the other party who works less hard should take on more housework so that family life can be more harmonious.

3. According to the agreement between husband and wife, the housework will be divided into specific labor.

There should be both cooperation and division of labor between husband and wife on how to do housework. ......Either by mutual agreement, or naturally, both parties should take care of the corresponding household chores, so that the family life can be kept in order. ......If one party does not do the housework, the balance will be upset, and the relationship between the husband and wife will be affected, which will bring bad consequences, so it should be avoided as much as possible.

There is no one who should be, only the basic statement that mutual support and help to maintain a good life.

1. Housework is the fuse of family conflicts.

Home on the Ramp is written by Mitsuyo Tsunoda of Japan. After the book was published, it resonated with many readers and was made into a movie. In the book, it is written that women are given the responsibility of taking care of children and doing household chores. This stereotype contributes to the occurrence of family tragedies.

In the play, a husband is busy with work and leaves the responsibility of childcare to a female judge. One day, the female judge was too busy with work, so she left her husband alone to take care of the children. As a result, the husband made a mess and kept complaining.

The female judge said that I usually take care of the children and do the housework. My husband said, "I also help with the housework!" The wife said:

It's not about helping, it's about sharing. ”

To this end, female judges have drawn up a table of shareholdings of household chores and childcare. I hope to work hard with my husband to take care of their children together. The husband didn't take care of him for a few days before he was physically and mentally exhausted.

He said I couldn't work and take care of my childcare. After one illness with his child, he had a complete outbreak. He said:

I can't juggle work and childcare. The wife said, "I can't do it either, that's why I need to share it."

The husband asked, "Aren't you a mother?" ”

So? Are only super women who do housework, childcare, and work perfectly are qualified to work? ”

I'm sorry, but for me, women's right to work is no longer important. I just want my wife to cook for me, take care of the kids, and help me keep the house. If you continue like this, you will only sacrifice your children. ”

After this incident, she decided to divorce, she thought, no matter how hard a woman tries, as long as she doesn't have the qualifications to be a good mother, she is not even qualified to be a human being. Numerous studies have found that women are more likely to be dissatisfied with their marriages because of dissatisfaction with the distribution of chores. If couples can share household chores together, there will be fewer conflicts in the family.

Nor will the marriage end.

2. Four ways to deal with housework.

1.If you don't do it, I'll force you to do it. (Housework is done by women).

2.You don't do it, only I do. (I can't stand it anymore).

3.If you don't do it, I won't do it. (Don't take advantage of anyone).

4.You do it, I do it. (Let's do it together).

Which of the four ways do you be?

The first way: Men naturally take it for granted that women do housework. Such men do not put women on an equal footing.

When they see that there is no cooking at home, they will ask their wives: Why don't you cook? It doesn't matter if the wife is tired or not.

Some men will even abuse their wives. Some wives do not dare to resist, on the one hand, because they do not have the ability to live independently, and on the other hand, they always want to give their children a complete home. Such families can easily disintegrate.

The second way: when everyone is unwilling to do housework, the wife will make a concession. When they see a large pile of dirty clothes piled up in the bathroom, they can't stand it and wash it themselves; When I see that the ground is very dirty and no one mops it, I will pick up a mop and mop it clean; The toilet was dirty and no one wiped it, so I finally wiped it myself.

They called their husbands several times to no avail, and they always dragged Bi's family. dragged on so much that I couldn't stand it anymore, so I simply did it myself. Although there are complaints, I will still tolerate them.

1. I think that since it can be said that housework is quiet, it means that the two parties have reached a family, and housework is a normal manifestation of family life, and it can also enhance each other's feelings and relationships.

2. Since it is a family, there is no distinction between each other, whoever does it is done, I think whoever is free to do it, everyone is free to do it together, you can do laundry, I can wash dishes, can't everyone rest early after finishing it early?

3. If you have to divide what you do, what do I do? Qilu Li is not necessary, everyone works hard outside, and when they come home, they have a temperature, and whoever does it is the same, but since they are a family, they all hope that each other will live better, and they must maintain housework together in order to better maintain a family.

In modern society, it has become an increasingly common practice for couples to divide housework equally, which is a fairer and more equal way of family organization, which also helps to reduce the burden of one party and improve the happiness and stability of the family.

The equal division of housework is conducive to promoting equality and mutual respect between husband and wife. In traditional family organizations, women are often seen as the main domestic workers, which can lead to fatigue and passivity, as well as unequal roles and status between husbands and wives, which can lead to family instability and conflict. If the husband and wife share the housework equally, the responsibilities and obligations of the husband and wife are equal, and the respect and support for each other are also equal, which is conducive to the maintenance of good marital relations.

Of course, the distribution of housework should be balanced according to the individual's time and ability. Husbands and wives can allocate housework according to their own working hours, physical conditions, personal preferences and other factors to ensure that everyone has a relatively reasonable distribution. At the same time, when dividing housework between husband and wife, it is also necessary to communicate, understand and respect each other, so that the relationship between husband and wife can be more stable and harmonious.