What is one of the great sorrows of being human?

One of the great sorrows of being a human being is living in the eyes of others and not living the way you want.

In this life, live for those who like you.

"What do people live for? This question is worth thinking about, everyone comes to this world, not to be recognized by others to live, but to come to this wonderful world for a mission, in the vast world of people, there are always some people you don't like, and there are always some people who don't like you, this is a very normal phenomenon.

I remember when I was a kid in school, every time I saw a group of classmates playing, I could only watch from the other side, and I was thinking, why don't all the people like me, why don't they play with me? At that time, I wondered if my grades were too bad, so they didn't play with me and didn't like me, so I studied hard and tried to get good grades so that I could play with them, but what I didn't expect was that my grades were good, and they still didn't play with me, but liked to play with people with bad grades.

That's when I realized that they didn't play with me because of my bad grades, but because they thought I was too quiet and boring, and I only liked to be alone, so they didn't bother me.

Even if they play with me, I don't think I'll be happy myself, because I can't integrate with them, so I can only watch them play.

I still remember once a friend invited me to KTV to sing, I said I can't sing, thank you for the invitation, I won't go, they said it's okay, it's lively together, so that you won't be alone in the dormitory, I said okay, everyone is so enthusiastic, then I'll go, after I go, as I thought, everyone is singing, only I sat there alone in a bored daze, looking at when the watch will end, and then I understood that if you don't like it, don't force it, or you'll be tired. The other party will also feel tired when they look at it. ‍‍

In the past, I always thought that my parents' love for us was too great, and when I grew up, we should make good money and be filial to them, and it would be more meaningful to think about it, but then after some things, I understood that the people who love you don't need you to do anything, they just need you to live well, you are happy, and they will be happy, and this kind of happiness cannot be bought by money, it is a kind of infinite happiness that exudes after giving the power of love, with a bright smile and a warm feeling.

Between liking and disliking, it's either a dead screw, or a dead twist. However, this is life, there is intimate warmth, but also biting cold, but I want to make your life richer and more complete.

In the vast life, there will always be one or several auspicious clouds for you. Instead of struggling with people you don't like or don't like you, take a happy walk under these few auspicious clouds. There are not so many pleasures in the world, just one flower is enough.

Therefore, people do not have to please others in life, but live well for the people they like, as long as the people they like can be happy, they will also be happy.

Just as different people interpret happiness differently, so too does the understanding of sorrow because everyone faces different situations.

If it is an official, I think the greatest sorrow for him is to lose the black gauze hat, from the official who everyone admires to be beaten to the dust, no one will listen to him in the future, there will be a deep sense of loss in his heart, he will feel that this is the greatest sorrow of being a man.

In the same way, the biggest sorrow for a rich person is to become a poor egg, for a person who likes women very much, the biggest sorrow is not to be favored by women, for a salesperson, the sadness is that he can't sell products, for a criminal is to be locked up in prison all year round and can't get out, and for a student, no matter how hard he tries to get his test scores, it is a big sadness.

Based on the above situation, we can basically come to an answer, that is, not getting what you want, or losing what you care about the most, is the greatest sorrow in a person's life.

My feeling is that when you need help, no one can help you, and when your family needs help, you can't help, and you have the heart to die.