As a parent, can I often compare my child with other people s children?

I believe that many parents have a common problem, that is, to compare their own children with other people's children, and then start to complain about their own children, thinking that other people's children are good everywhere. In fact, many parents have such a problem, even if their children are good enough, but they still can't help but compare their children with other people's families, it seems that only in this way will their hearts be a little more balanced. But this is not good, and often it can lead to a lot of problems in children.

So today, let's talk about whether as a parent can often compare children with other people's children.

1. Often comparing one's own children with other people's children will not only not make the child more combative, but will make the child become inferior.

In fact, the reason why many parents have such a comparison is just to hit their children on the side, and then let their children work harder, so as to become better people. But this method is not correct, and this method will not only not make the child more combative, but will also make the child become inferior, after all, even their closest parents do not recognize themselves, then it will be a huge blow to the child. Therefore, from this aspect, parents should not often compare their children with other people's children.

2. This contrast will make children have a stronger rebellious mentality, which is not conducive to children's growth.

Every child has a rebellious mentality, but some children's rebellious mentality has never been catalyzed. And comparing one's own children with other people's children is a good catalyst for children's rebellious psychology. If parents always say that they are not good, how good other people's children are, then the children will only become more and more rebellious in their hearts, and then become more and more disrespectful to their parents, and in the end they may even grow crooked, which is very bad for the growth of children.

Therefore, parents should not often do this comparison, which will not benefit their children in the future.

I believe that every parent is proud of their children, so they must tell their children this idea.

I don't think it's okay to compare your child with other people's children too often, because this will make your child feel unbalanced.

No, every child has their own strengths and weaknesses, don't compare your child's shortcomings with other children's strengths, this will only dampen your child's enthusiasm and discourage your child.

No. This kind of education is not right, and it is easy for children to have negative emotions.

I am a child, a former victim, and I hate to compare myself to others, which can make me feel inferior and unconfident, and even act in extreme ways. If I hadn't had my stepmother, I don't think I would have survived today.

In order to make their children work harder, parents often compare other people's children, is this right?

The main reason is that many parents do not understand pedagogy and educational psychology, and do not understand children's psychology, thinking that comparing their children with other children's children can stimulate their children's desire for success, so that children have more clear goals, so as to be full of motivation to move forward. In fact, this method is unscientific, and it may also be counterproductive, making children fall into low self-esteem.

When parents compare their children, they don't feel that their children are really bad, but just hope that their children can be better. The child's excellence is not the capital they use to show off, they just want the child to be good enough, and when he grows up and enters the society, he can have more confidence and a better life. Please believe that your parents want you to be good for your own good, but you just used the wrong method, please don't hold grudges.

Talk to your parents so that they can understand your inner thoughts and suggest that they change the way they educate you.

Some parents have a strong psychology of comparison, and they don't want their children to be worse than other people's children, and sometimes they are also to show off their children's grades in front of others, so they always like to compare with other people's children, but in fact, this comparison psychology is incorrect.

Hello, I understand your feelings very well, we have also grown up through this kind of blow since childhood.

Also, it's not advisable for your parents to do this, but it's true that they wish you better. Every parent in the world wants their son to become a dragon. It is recommended that you properly consider their feelings, you can communicate with them, change their practices, and of course, the most important thing is that you don't be bothered by these, study hard, keep improving, and become the pride of your parents!

So you don't have to worry about this in particular, because everyone is the same.

However, this is not advisable for your parents to think like this, and if you are particularly annoying, it is recommended that you sit down and talk to your parents and make clear your dislike.

In addition, you can give an example of Gu Ailing, other people's children are excellent because their parents are very good, but now the situation is already like this, you can fully express your determination to work hard and have confidence in yourself.

Because parents want their children to become dragons, in the eyes of parents, their children are the best, at the same time, they want their children to become better, so they often love to compare their children with other people's children, so that children work hard, but often backfired.

Because life is a comparison, circumstances dictate, this is unavoidable, what you can do is to stick to your heart and not be completely influenced by others.

They think that doing this will motivate their children to work harder, but in fact, it is often counterproductive. The psychology of most parents is that they want their children to be able to get ahead and excel in all aspects. In this way, it motivates children's sense of competition and initiative.

Parents who like to compare their children with other people's children are usually dissatisfied with their own desires, and they may be dissatisfied with their life, work, family or current situation, so they want to find a sense of self-worth in their children. At the very least, excellent children are the result of their own education, and they are also a manifestation of their own value.

Why do parents always compare your children with other people's homes? I just want to be myself, I want my children to get ahead, I don't want my children to fall behind, once they fall behind, they will be beaten, so they always give people worse and worse than they actually come and go.

Comparing one's own children with other people's children is a common phenomenon in reality, there is no harm if there is no comparison, there is no comparison to know the gap with others, there is no comparison to know the shortcomings of their children, and there is no progress without comparison, so now parents always compare their children with other people's children.

It is also the psychology of normal parents, but some parents often say in front of their children, and some parents control a little better and don't express it much.

Children will also consciously or unconsciously compete and compare with their peers in different faces, but some of them are obvious and some are not.

In order to satisfy the vanity of parents, they will compare their children with other people's children, and hope that their own children will be better than other people's children, and they will be happy.

Parents compare their children with other people's children in order to motivate their children to learn from other people's children, but it is often counterproductive and will hurt their children's self-esteem.

Standing in the position of parents, only by making such a comparison can we know how much the gap is between them and others, and only then can parents have a motivation to urge their children to learn.

Parents want their children to become dragons and phoenixes, and want to motivate their children to work hard through comparison, but it generally backfires, and children are very disgusted with comparison. As a parent, what do you think if your child compares you to other parents?

Because parents want their children to be better than other people's children, so they will compare with other people's children's families, children, the pressure is relatively large, work hard!

Because she wants her children to become better, she will make comparisons, usually comparing better children, not the same as poor children.

Because I always feel that my children are not as good as other people's children, and those good children are from other people's families, not yours, so I will compare.

Some parents feel very much and don't want their children to be worse than others. I want to show off my children's grades in front of others, so I always like to compare them with other children. than the psychology is incorrect.

It may be that at the same level, children have similarities and similarities, which is why there is such a comparison.

It's not about comparing with other people's children, it's about discovering the strengths of other children, and then hoping that your own children will become better. The child must understand the painstaking efforts of the parents, even if he says how good other people's children are, it is impossible for him to throw away his own children to raise other people's children.

This is a common problem of parents, when their children are healthy, they want to work hard to be excellent, and they will hope that their children are also other people's children.

This problem is because parents want their children to improve, so they naturally want to find a reference, so they should compare with children who are stronger than you.

The biggest mistake of parents is to compare their children with other people's children, after all, there are differences between children, if you want to compare in this way, it will have an impact on your child's self-esteem and make your child unconfident.

Because people want their children to be excellent, seeing other people's children are excellent, it is inevitable that there will be some ideas in their hearts to compare with other people's children.

Parents always like to compare themselves with other people's children, which is a kind of comparison psychology that wants their children to be better than others because they are not so strong, so as to satisfy their own show-off psychology. No matter who they are, no matter how good their parents are, most people's life experiences, especially in childhood, are always like to mention "other people's children". "Other people's children" are everyone's shadows, because "other people's children" always seem to have advantages that they don't have.

However, when parents make such comparisons, they rarely consider the psychology of their children, and their starting point may be to motivate their children to further improve, but they do not take into account the psychological damage to their children. So, what should parents and teachers do if they like to compare themselves with other people's children?

First, you can treat others the way they want to be treated. In other words, when parents like to compare themselves with other people's children, they can compare their own parents with other people's parents in the same way. Don't think it's rude or guilty of doing the following.

In fact, children are equal to their parents, and when parents are asked in this way, they may become aware of their own problems and realize what psychological problems this will cause to their children.

Secondly, you can also start from yourself, if you really have any problems that can be improved, you can choose to study hard or improve yourself, which can also achieve the effect of leaving parents with nothing to say. Because, since he is already very powerful, he may become a "child of someone else", and at this time, ordinary parents have nothing to say.

Therefore, when parents always like to compare themselves with other people's children, first, you can try to treat others in their own way, so that they can feel your psychology and emotions, and second, you can try to improve yourself and make yourself "someone else's child".

Hello, always comparing children with others is actually a kind of excessive spur by parents to their children! It is good to hope that the son will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix, but they forget the harm to the child in the process! You can talk to your parents, no one is perfect, think about your child's strengths, don't compare your weaknesses with others' strengths, praise your children more, and find your strengths!

In such a situation, you can talk to your parents, first of all, this behavior will hurt your child's self-esteem, and secondly, it will affect the parent-child relationship between your child and your parents. It will only make the child feel that his parents do not love him, and his feelings will be lost.

This kind of problem will be encountered by many parents, but it can only be said that parents should know more about their children's education issues and their own ways.

Not feasible, in daily life, there are always many parents who hope that their children can get ahead and become the dragon and phoenix among people, of course, it is inevitable to compare their children with other people's children, which is actually a very harmful practice for children.

It is always said that parents are the best teachers for children, if parents compare with other people's children when their children have achieved a little achievement, maybe the children at that time will feel that they are better than others, and there will be a sense of satisfaction, but when they are slightly inferior later, parents will compare themselves with other children again, which is undoubtedly a huge harm to the child, will hit the child's self-confidence, produce a strong sense of anxiety, and have no way to face their own failure and unsuccess.

Everyone's life is different, just like the old saying goes, "ten fingers stretched out are long and short", how can everyone be the same, maybe their children are not so good in this aspect, but in other aspects, their children may be the best. In fact, everyone has their own shining point, so why always compare their children with others? Maybe doing so will ignore the shining points in your own children, isn't that a thing that hurts your children very much?

In fact, everyone hopes that what they do can be praised, rather than blindly comparing and blaming, which will not only hit the child's self-confidence, but also alienate the feelings between themselves and the child, especially in the rebellious period of the children, the more you hit him, the more he will want to do that thing, educating children is actually a very complicated thing, rather than constantly envy other people's children, it is better to find the shining point of their own children, and constantly strive to maximize his shining point, In this way, you can not only maintain the relationship between yourself and your child, but also give yourself a sense of accomplishment and make your child happier.