How to control your temper

Temper is one of the common psychological phenomena often encountered in daily life. Quite a number of young people are short-tempered and impulsive when encountering problems, especially when it comes to things that do not go well or that they are not accustomed to, they are often prone to anger or instigation, and sometimes they quarrel with others and say some embarrassing things, which may affect the unity among comrades or affect family harmony. There are good and bad tempers in people.

A good-tempered person will be welcomed no matter how he goes, and others like to cooperate and work with him; People with a bad temper often bring distress to themselves and others, making it difficult for others to get along with them. Surveys have found that the vast majority of young men and women make it a condition for choosing a spouse to be good-natured. We also know from experience that if there are one or two people with bad tempers in a family or a small unit where one person lives, it will often make the family or the group ununited.

Therefore, the purpose of changing bad temper is not only to eliminate personal suffering, but also to promote family harmony and strengthen collective unity. The goodness of people's temper has a lot to do with the environment in which they live and work. Good tempers such as meekness, peace, and patience are often closely related to a harmonious and warm family environment and good upbringing; Bad tempers such as irritability, stubbornness, eccentricity, and willfulness are often related to pampering, over-spoiling, or not getting the warmth of the family, and parents being too strict.

The smooth or bumpy path of an individual's life can also have a significant impact on a person's temper and character. "The country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change", which means that people's temper and character have a stable side, but it does not mean that temper and character are fixed and unchanging. We all know that some people were short-tempered when they were young, and they were as strong as an ox that did not obey their commands; But after the tempering of life, especially the loss of a bad temper, his temper gradually became calmer, and he was not so stubborn about things.

So bad temper can be changed. Of course, there are also those who do not change, and that is because he himself does not have the requirements to change his bad temper, or he has a request and does not seriously change it. So, how can you get rid of your bad temper?

First and foremost, it is important to have a good understanding of the dangers of a bad temper. In social life, we always have to contact and interact with other people, hoping to get the favor, friendship, appreciation, and cooperation of others (of course, it cannot be everyone), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lonely, lifeless, and unable to move an inch. People's behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness, and when we understand the harm of bad temper, we can generate a demand from our hearts to change our bad temper.

Second, it is necessary to strengthen ideological cultivation. Only when we always think of others in our hearts and respect the interests and needs of others will we be warm, considerate and loving to others. Only by always putting the interests of the collective in the first place can we not be rash and stubborn, and can we be calm and think twice when encountering problems.

Finally, you must have determination and perseverance to change your bad temper, and if you can't remember it today, just be cautious, and after two days, you will still be the same. With determination and perseverance, you will definitely get rid of your bad temper.

Your good temper is a blessing to the family.

Controlling your temper requires some skill and patience. Here are some suggestions:

Calm Reflection: When you feel your temper rising, try to avoid taking immediate action. Stop, take a deep breath, and calm yourself.

Listen to your emotions: Don't ignore your emotions, but don't let them control your actions either. Try to understand how your emotions arise.

Gradual relaxation: Learn to relieve tension and anger through relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation or yoga.

Stay away from trigger points: If you know certain situations or people that trigger your temper, try to avoid those.

Learn to express: Learn to express your thoughts and feelings in a calm, rational manner and avoid using offensive language.

Seek support: Share your feelings with someone you trust, who may be able to give you some advice or comfort.

Make calm decisions: It's easy to make impulsive decisions in an angry mood, try to avoid making important decisions in this state.

Learn to compromise: Learn to compromise and find solutions to problems instead of sticking to your own position.

Seek professional help: If you find yourself having trouble controlling your temper, you may need to seek help from a mental health professional.

Remember that temper control is a process that requires practice and patience, gradually improving your control.

Everyone has their own temper, whether it is a good temper or a bad temper, we all need to control our temper. Don't lose your temper, and don't lose your temper with people casually, so how do you control your temper? Below I have sorted out for you to control yourself.

The first thing to do is to be able to empathize. When you lose your temper, you might as well think about the other person and what you have done, maybe this empathy can solve this emotional problem.

The second thing to do is to have peace of mind and communication problems, not to yell at the other person. It is often more correct to communicate calmly than to raise your voice to question the other person, so you must not be emotional.

The second is to try not to speak, even if it is a big argument, one party can stop and think about it, so that there will be unexpected discoveries.

Then there's self-venting. Even if you are unhappy, then don't blame others, but you can release your emotions by listening to ** and doing exercises.