Why do people become self conscious and do not know themselves?

It's because you think too much and do too little.

Because there are all kinds of people in society, and sometimes you change without realizing it, and your previous thoughts change.

Because we think we're immutable. But the world has changed, and so have we.

Because the reality is cruel, we are forced to do something we don't want to do.

Use the "comparative method" to understand yourself: by comparing with partners of the same age in terms of life methods, attitudes towards people and things, emotional expressions, etc., "use people as a mirror" to find out your own characteristics and understand yourself. When comparing, the choice of objects is crucial.

It would be biased to compare people who are not as good as you, or to compare your own flaws with the strengths of others. Therefore, according to one's actual situation, one should choose people with the same conditions to compare and find out one's suitable position in the group, so that we can understand ourselves more objectively.

Use the "self-reflection method" to know yourself: self-reflection is a kind of self-experience of people. In real life, people often know themselves through self-reflection and self-examination.

The experiences and lessons learned from major events can provide information about your personality and abilities, and you can discover your strengths and weaknesses.

Use the "evaluation method" to know yourself: When you know yourself, you should pay attention to the evaluation of yourself by your peers. The evaluation of others has greater objectivity than subjective self-reflection.

If the self-evaluation is similar to the evaluation of others, it indicates that the self-understanding is better; If the difference between the two is too large, it mostly indicates that there is a deviation in self-perception and needs to be adjusted. Of course, the evaluation of others should also have cognitive integrity, not biased listening and biasing, and knowing oneself appropriately.

Use the "experience method" to know yourself: discover your personal characteristics by summarizing the experience and lessons of success and failure in life, because success and failure can best reflect the strengths and weaknesses of a person's personality and ability.

Use the "dichotomy" to understand yourself: the view of anything should adhere to the materialist and dialectical point of view, and the understanding of oneself is no exception, not only to fully discover one's own strengths and advantages, but also to recognize one's own shortcomings and shortcomings, only in this way can we develop our strengths and avoid weaknesses, grasp ourselves, and make greater progress. If you take people as your own mirror, you can see your own shortcomings.

Zen Master Yangshan once asked Zen Master Kuansui Wu Hongen to say: Why can't we know ourselves very quickly? 」

Zen Master Hong En said: Let me tell you an analogy, for example, a room with six windows, and a macaque in the room, jumping and jumping, and five macaques chasing orangutans from the east, west, north, south and north windows. The orangutan responded, such as six windows, all responding.

Six macaques and six orangutans, it's really not easy to quickly recognize ** one is himself. 」

After listening to Yangshan Zen Master, he knew that Zen Master Hong En was saying that the six senses (eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body, and mind) in our people chased the six dusts (color, sound, fragrance, taste, touch, and law) in the external environment, agitated and agitated, and entangled with each other, like Venus mayflies in the air. So he got up and thanked him

The monk Shimeng gave a metaphor and knew everything, but if the inner macaque sleeps, and the outer orangutan wants to meet him, so what? 」

Zen Master Hong En got off the rope bed, pulled the Zen Master Yangshan, and said as if dancing

For example, in the field, to prevent birds and finches from stealing the fruit of grass seedlings, erect a straw dummy, the so-called 'just like a wooden man looking at flowers and birds, why not all things are pretended?' ’」

Yangshan finally made a promise.

Why can't we know ourselves? Mainly because Zhenxin has been blocked by dust for a long time. Like a mirror, the dust covers or covers, ** can show the light of the mirror?

The sincerity is not revealed, but the delusion becomes his own master, climbing the outside world all the time, the so-called heart ape is a horse, and refuses to rest. The human body is like a village, the owner of this village has been imprisoned by the clan, and is occupied by six other robbers and bandits (six senses), and intends to make waves and chase six dusts, and the human body village has one room and six windows, how can it be safe from now on?