Is it good to be realistic about marriage? Is love the same as real marriage?

The following personal opinions, more subjective, for reference only, in the end, you still have to make your own decision, forgive me for the wrong place.

How do you feel that you and your current boyfriend have a lot of disagreements, maybe you just feel that you have been dating for many years, and you are reluctant to give up, just like chicken ribs (tasteless food, reluctant to give up), maybe he also wants to give up (guess from the information you provided above, true or false your own feelings), just waiting for someone to speak first. But it's best to wait for everyone to calm down for a while, and then you sit down and have a good talk. Give the other person and you some space to think about your feelings and not get emotional.

Let's talk about it calmly.

Marriage is based on love and material, if you think your suitor is excellent, you can also give him a chance, give yourself a chance, but if you really want to get married, I personally think that you have to live together for a period of time before getting married, it is like your married life, if it is not suitable, you can break up as soon as possible, no matter who you are with. Material things are sometimes not an obstacle to marriage, and real death is to die on the disagreement over the trivial matters of life. You are still young, and going out into society will make you know more, so why don't you work first and then seriously consider these after you have just graduated.

It's up to you what you do in the end.

Of course, love needs to be cautious, not child's play. Tea, salt, sauce and vinegar are plain and plain is life itself. No matter how deep and vigorous love is, it will become family affection, and marriage must be built on an economic basis.

The choice is still yours. If you don't love it, it's good to be able to look at it.

Relatively speaking, he is a man who lacks self-confidence and low self-esteem, especially in the matter of his own money, he should not be afraid that he will not be able to give you a happy and comfortable living environment, but afraid that you will be dissatisfied with the life he gives you in the future, as long as you can give him enough self-confidence, and let him fully believe in the love between you, he will believe in himself a little bit, and will also work hard to create his own future, that is, your future, let him slowly understand that your happiness is not to let him give up, but to rely on his own hands to create It's just the same thing, he's not a god who doesn't know the future, and he doesn't know what you'll look like in the future, so he has to create it himself, to give you a complete future, just to make him understand this, I think he'll figure it out himself!

I'm a straighter person, don't be angry, if you really love him, what are the contradictions, it's true that his conditions are not very good now, but he has always known how to love you and knows how to struggle** Looking for it, you have seen the Dream of Red Mansions, no matter how good the family business is, there are also the results of the tree falling and scattering, the family you said is good, if you don't struggle, the result can be imagined. These are secondary economic factors, you have to know that marriage is a lifelong thing, I tell you with my personal experience, if you are with a person you don't love, then you are wrong, not only are you not responsible for yourself, if you have children in the future, you are still not responsible, maybe you don't have children now, and you will know later. If you love him, marry him, even if you are poor after marriage, it doesn't matter, the two of you work hard, God rewards hard work, I bless you!

You should think about what you really want, if you can't tolerate the kind of life that can only guarantee the most basic food and clothing, even if there is love, you can't continue to live, then you need to choose a higher material life, but, if you feel that there is love, and your boyfriend gives you the most sincere consideration, the best is given to you, and at the same time it is still a potential stock, such a man can also choose, this can only represent my opinion, you should think about it.

If you don't love it, why is it difficult to make a decision? If you don't love him, why do you even think about marrying him?

Everything is changing, and you can't guarantee that those who have money will always have money, and those who don't will never have money. A life is only good if two people work together. You can't guarantee that your youth will last forever, but you can at least try your best to maintain the eternity of love.

A man who can give up on you for the sake of your happiness should be cherished, and a good family condition does not mean that it can give you happiness. And a man who can think about your happiness can't give you glory and wealth, but he will know how to cherish it. But this is just my personal opinion, it depends on your own thoughts... People are subject to change.

It should have been realistic! Maybe you still don't understand a lot of things now! Slowly you will know the sentence and understand!

The same upstairs, of course, is now an idol drama that is either a cup or a tableware in life, can it be eaten as a meal? No.

Real life is important, but a marriage without a foundation of love will not be happy.

People live for the sake of happiness, you feel happy with whomever you want, don't regret it later, although life is very important, but it is more important for you to be able to live a happy life

Are you sure your current life is realistic? If so, be realistic about love and marriage.

What does a marriage look like at its best in real life?

1.Two people with one heart. Men and women can be together because of the love they have between them.

Within marriage, the unity of the husband and wife is a very important factor of existence. If you enter into marriage and you can't unite with each other, it will be difficult for the quality of your marriage to improve. So, the unity of husband and wife is in **?

Demonstrate a sense of responsibility to the family and fidelity to one's spouse. At the beginning of marriage, many couples may be able to do this, but over time, it is likely that there will be a heart that will not be able to hold on. If two people can put their hearts on the family they have built together from beginning to end, think about each other in everything, and understand each other's difficulties, if they can do this, the relationship between husband and wife will naturally increase.

It's a beautiful thing to have the other person in mind.

2.The best state in marriage is not to treat each other as guests, nor to perform their duties, but to be with you in the most comfortable state. When your partner is better than you, you may have low self-esteem and you will try harder to catch up with him.

But because of this, many people live less and less like themselves, just to fight side by side with themselves. I don't know how someone who really loves you can make you feel wronged, how can you chase him. He will stand at your height and work with you.

So don't change yourself for the sake of the other person. The best state in marriage is to be brave and be yourself and fight side by side in the most comfortable position.

3.In a harmonious family, at least one of every couple is a "fool". If you want to manage a good marriage, you can't be too smart or too clear.

Home is not a place with clear accounts, but a place to talk about love. Home is everyone's last haven in this world. What you should do is to put more thought on the matter of love than on the other person's calculations.

If you win, you lose, there is no trust, there is no support. Such a marriage can only go hand in hand and be reluctant. In marriage, the one who gives more does not suffer.

What he gets is warmth and happiness, and giving is also a kind of happiness. In short, everything in a marriage cannot be calculated as clearly as an accountant, and there is always a person who needs to pretend to be deaf and dumb, otherwise the account will be calculated clearly, and the marriage will be over.

It's definitely different. But let's make it clear what the ideal is, or others can't do it, what are the differences.

Love is just human instinct, and when you look at the right eye, you fall in love. Love itself is not long-lasting, long-lasting is people's family affection and sense of responsibility, if you want love to last for a long time, you must be carefully maintained by both parties, and always keep in mind your responsibilities and obligations.

Of course, everyone thinks and practices differently, has a different understanding of love, and has the same principles.

The definition of love is varied.

Many people will always imagine marriage too beautiful before entering marriage, when they really enter marriage, they will find that there is a gap between ideal and reality, many people are because they have too many good expectations for marriage, so they can't accept the dull married life, what is the difference between your ideal marriage and the reality of marriage?

My ideal marriage should be the two of us to take on the housework and the children's education together, but I didn't expect that after getting married, my husband completely became a hands-off shopkeeper, leaving all the housework and taking care of the children to me alone, every time I raised an objection, he always had a bunch of reasons waiting there, rather than wearing out his tongue and letting him help me do one or two small things, it was better for me to do all the more happy.

My ideal marriage is when there are contradictions and quarrels, the two of us can sit down and resolve them calmly, however, in reality, when there are real contradictions and conflicts, I often can't calm down, I can't control my emotions, and I quarrel with him, and when I quarrel, he will also lose patience, so the conflict will become more and more intensified.

My ideal marriage is very ceremonial, during the festival, he will give me flowers and gifts, when I want something, he will try to satisfy me, the reality of marriage is that he thinks flowers and gifts are dispensable things, rather than those things that are hypothetical and speculative, it is better to eat a big meal to be real, when I want something, I often consider my current economic situation, consider the cost performance of this thing.

My ideal marriage history is that two people spend time with each other doing what they like to do, but in reality, the marriage is that the other party is addicted to playing games, or busy with their own things, and the two of us rarely have the opportunity to sit down and chat, and rarely have time to spend with our children.

I think it's different, my ideal marriage is romantic and full of emotion, but the reality of marriage firewood, rice, oil, and salt is as plain as boiled water, but when it takes a long time, you will find that when love becomes family affection, it is more difficult to give up than love. All along, no matter how it changes, I have never regretted my choice, whether it is love or family affection, it is necessary for two people to give each other, support each other, support each other through the ditch and bumps, do not judge the spine You go there, there is always someone who cares about you, you also care about him, that is also a kind of happiness, don't have too many concerns about marriage, believe in your choice, sometimes plain, peaceful, is really happy.

For your ex-girlfriend really doesn't think you love her much, I don't mean that you have to fall out with your family because of her, but that if you really love her, you can actually accept a blind date after such a short breakup, and even have considered whether to marry a blind date, which is really a bit incredible.

Please touch your conscience and honestly ask yourself which one you think is more important than your ex-girlfriend or your family business.

You just say these two paragraphs, I think your ex-girlfriend is not as important as your family business in your heart. To put it bluntly, you are reluctant to give up your current life of fine clothes and food for her. Otherwise you can choose to leave home and start from scratch, I don't believe that any parent will be disappointed that their son can start his own business from scratch, on the contrary, they will feel proud, unless you don't have that ability.

The last thing you should do now is to get married as soon as your mind is hot, marriage is a lifelong thing, especially after having children, you can't divorce lightly, to be honest, you don't love your ex-girlfriend very much, otherwise you won't choose to let go so easily, you shouldn't regret having chosen, as for the woman introduced by your parents, it is you who live with her and are not your parents, you have to be responsible for your future wife and children, if you really don't like it, you should quickly separate, and then go to find the most suitable for you, marriage is to put it bluntly, it is to have children, Find a good mother for your child, find a woman for yourself who will never get tired of living a lifetime, and whether your future life is happy or not depends on your own choice! Don't drag your ex-girlfriend with you is the right thing to do. Wouldn't it be better to have a woman who cares about her parents!

I feel like it's better to be realistic. Your ex-girlfriend's family agrees, does your family agree? If you don't agree, let's be realistic.

If the woman's family doesn't agree, if you take her away, you can't give her happiness. I have two friends who are both like this, both of them are women. She arrived at her boyfriend, and her boyfriend's family didn't like her and didn't care at all.

I'm pregnant. There is a child who has been born for more than a year, and he is not doing well at all, and he is thinking about jumping off the building. Let's be realistic, your family is also for your good, since you have chosen, let's live happily.

I wish you a happy and safe life.

Hey......It's hard to say. Long-distance relationship, that is, there is no real relationship. If it's just because of other places, let's see if you can get along with your parents.

Maybe the family thinks it's good to meet each other. If the people in the family really disagree, then there is no way to choose between the two, stick to each other and let go.

But one thing is that for the girl introduced, if it is really not interesting at all, then you can't delay people, don't be with her because the family likes it. The person who wants to be with her for the rest of your life is you, not your family.

If it's really your girlfriend, the two of you just come out and fight together. Of course, it takes a lot of courage.