What causes you to be unconfident?

My lack of self-confidence comes from my parents' lack of encouragement and praise. Every time I wanted to get approval from my parents, they would tell me what was going on with other people's children. This made me feel that other people's children were someone I would never be able to catch up with.

I didn't do well enough on my own, and then I didn't have self-confidence. <>

When you do things on your own, you are not very confident, because in the past, many things may fail, and at some times, some things cannot be done by yourself, and there are some things that need to face a lot of reality, so now I only believe in myself

The main reason should be that I am not optimistic enough, my figure is not good, I am slightly fat, I am not tall, I feel that I will be looked down upon by others, and I dare not look up, which is too low self-confidence caused by low self-esteem.

I think the shadow of the family of origin is a big reason. Since I was a child, I lived in a family with bad feelings for my parents, and I couldn't see my parents who loved each other, and I couldn't feel love, so I instinctively felt that I was not worthy of all good things, and I didn't dare to fight for it.

Seriously, I feel that there are too many excellent people around me, and no matter what I do, I can always see people who are better than me and work harder than me, which makes me feel that no matter what I do, I can't succeed.

Besides, it's not good-looking, it's the same person, why are others so good-looking?

I feel that the family conditions I live in are not very good, I have a sense of inferiority complex when I was a child, whether it is food and clothing are worse than others, there will be that kind of lack of confidence in my heart, and when the time comes, I will communicate with others, and there are certain psychological barriers, which may be related to the growth of childhood.

Because my own cultural level is not enough, I always feel that I am not as capable as others, so when I see leaders or people who are more capable than myself, I am always not confident, and I feel that they are better than me. Now I read and study every day, and my cultural level has improved, so that lack of self-confidence has slowly disappeared.

When I was a child, I was very clever, and I was not afraid of stage fright, but then when I went to elementary school, everyone else grew taller, and I became the shortest person in the class, and others called me small, and then I was fat, and the boys would laugh at me, and keep making fun of me, and then I became less and less confident.

When I first started working, because I was a newcomer and lacked ability and qualifications, I was very nervous and not confident at all every time I was called to inquire about the progress of the work. It's distressing, and it's still like this

Come to think of it, for as long as I can remember, I have been largely submissive to my parents, and at least rarely questioned their instructions; When I was in school, when the teacher lectured, whether I understood it or not, I always thought that the quality of my learning was only related to the intelligence and hard work of my brain, and I rarely questioned the teacher's teaching level and teaching ability; After participating in the work, I heard more and more, especially if I did it, that is, even if the leader said that it was wrong, I must follow and implement it, at least I dare not question the ability of the leader in person. To put it bluntly, when I was a child, I was submissive to my parents, I was submissive to my teachers when I was in school, and I was subservient to my leaders when I was working.

Are we really completely submissive? In fact, when we are young, we have no knowledge of right and wrong, and we must believe in our closest parents. Our world is still very narrow, the family is a world where we can run around at will, and we don't know anything about the world outside.

We must know the outside world through the teaching of our parents, and we are curious to think of the outside world.

Look, you must also rely on the protection of your parents. We choose to trust our parents, without any suspicion. What's more, our lives are given by our parents, and the capital for the continuation of our lives is taken from the struggle of our parents.

As a result, parents think that it is natural for their children to obey their parents, and it is normal for children to obey their parents, artificially and naturally.

Because there is no self-confidence, most of such people are pleasing personality, blindly thinking about others, will not consider their own interests, for others, they are good people, so no matter what they do, they have no right to express their opinions, always submissive, no sense of existence, it is recommended that such people work hard to change themselves, you know, the same people, why do we want to be dwarf, the most important thing is that they must have their own opinions, only if they can afford themselves, others will respect themselves.

A person is always submissive, generally because he is too honest and has no opinions, and his survival ability is relatively poor.

If a person is always submissive, it may be that this person has low self-esteem.

I advise you not to envy those who speak their minds with great swagger.

I used to be the person who wanted to say what to say, but this society will not let you speak so freely, self-confidence is slowly cultivated, no one is born so confident, self-confident people also have inferiority complex and loss times, but he She can quickly adjust over, this is the essential difference, what do you want to talk to, this you don't need at all, what you say, is it not the initiative to say your requests and ideas, this is not a conversation. It's almost impossible to set it.,That's usually disgusting.

The best time to practice is to get up and before going to bed: try to imagine that you are already very confident, and after a while, you will find that it is very useful Oh Also, it is usually bold to say your request, which will allow you to accumulate actual feelings, and you will find that it is actually easy to say it, and it feels good.

In the end, don't care so much about other ideas, especially your own subjective guesses, others may not think that way at all, this is a very boring thing, and it also affects yourself a lot, do your best, I believe you can

How to improve your self-confidence and abilities.

1. Professional ability: to do a certain job, irreplaceable.

2. Collaboration ability: be good at cooperating with others and complete tasks together 3. Help others: when others encounter difficulties, they can help 4. Planning ability: be able to decompose tasks and have a very clear understanding and grasp of the goal 5. Communication skills: be good at using communication to improve efficiency.

When you can master the above skills, you are a strong person!

Always think that I am not inferior to others, and I am better and shorter.

It's okay, the yearning is very good, many people come from this, first of all, you have to understand the reasons for the formation of your current character, family education, contact with the environment give you great limitations, if you want to become cheerful, you must pay attention not to expect to change at once. You must accumulate from small things, family, relatives, friends, and then buy things to do things, bargain, little by little to accumulate the ability to contact with people, remember to protect yourself, you are introverted, easy to be deceived and bullied, please be prepared in advance.

First of all, there must be a person in your family who likes to criticize you and deny you in everything, it seems that it should be your father, who may be too strict with you, and your performance often disappoints him, so he is not very confident and does not dare to talk to people. In addition, you should not have anything particularly outstanding among your classmates, so everyone doesn't have much of an outstanding impression of you, and your status among friends is not high.

The reason for your current personality is partly due to your innate personality, and the other part is caused by the acquired growth environment, and your evaluation of yourself is lower than your true appearance, so you are always in a state of self-protection, fear of being suppressed, rejected and denied by the outside world.

To solve this problem, in fact, as long as you talk often, once you speak, the whole person's mood is naturally cheerful, don't pay attention to other people's reactions to you, this is the first step.

In real life, there are indeed many people who are troubled by weak personality traits and are in pain in their hearts.

How do you overcome weakness? Psychologists offer countermeasures that:

1. Reshape your character.

Anyone can develop a strong character, but most weak people have an introverted temperament, and it is indeed difficult to develop an extroverted strong character. But an introverted and strong personality can be exercised. There are three characteristics of an introverted strong personality:

Not sharp but resilient, not enthusiastic but assertive, not strong but able to adhere to the right opinions.

2. Insist on yourself.

Franklin first discovered the helical structure of DNA in 1951, but because he was criticized by the "strongman", he admitted that this discovery was wrong, and later two scientists rediscovered this structure in 1953 and won the Nobel Prize.

Because he did not dare to insist on his own epoch-making discovery in biology, it was a pity! The psychological basis for overcoming weakness is to look up to oneself and dare to insist on oneself, especially in the face of the so-called "strong man" who is flying and domineering.

3. Dare to fight back.

First, learn to be angry. Weak people often do not have the experience of losing their temper in public, but are accustomed to suffering in silence. To insist on yourself, you must dare to be angry at the right time, and you can gradually learn.

You can choose a salesperson who treats customers abusively and prepare a "line": "It's too bad to treat customers like this, how can it be justified!" "Just go away.

4. Direct rebuttal.

Weak people are always accustomed to compromise with other people's misunderstandings and unwarranted accusations. To overcome weakness is to learn to refute directly and not to compromise.

5. Armed behavior.

Psychology also believes that improving misbehavior can improve psychological quality. If you are weak, arm yourself in this way from misconduct:

1) When you meet someone you are a little afraid of, don't take a detour and go straight to the other person;

2) Stand up straight and puff up your chest to talk to the other person;

3) Staring into the other person's eyes when speaking, and if you can't do it at first, you will first stare at the bridge of his nose;

4) Loud voice, if the other person's voice surpasses you, suddenly make the voice softer;

5) Keep a gap between silences during the conversation and don't be impatient;

6) Don't use words like "I'm sorry" lightly.

This reinforces your behavior, and you feel that you suddenly become strong and bold.