What should I do if my parents ask me to find a partner, and my parents urge you to find a partner?

I'm also a sophomore in '93, and I'm almost the same as you in many ways. When I was a freshman, I was also entangled in whether I should find a boyfriend with friends around me, but the result really made me very sad, that is, I was entangled and wasted other people's feelings, and I didn't like the feeling of being tired of being with a boy every day. On the contrary, I felt very fulfilled by the friends I made in college, including many club activities, and I felt that I felt that I was so alone without being bound by others, doing what I wanted to do, and studying the basis of having fun, so that I could become better!

In a word, you have absolutely no problem, if you make yourself a little better, you will meet more excellent people in your circle, and one day we will meet our hearts, no matter how far away he is from now!!

I am a 93-year-old male, a sophomore in a junior college in Beijing, with average academic performance, and I can't get the scholarship every year It was a symbol of self-abandonment. But my self-evident joy is that my parents never guide me now, I told my mother that I want to be at least 30 years old in marriage, but unfortunately I don't have a girlfriend now But they think it's nothing, because my basic conditions are still okay, so I'm more freewheeling, there are a few girls I like, if someone asks if there is a partner, I think this is a very good topic to talk about, I'm very happy to have a topic to talk about with the elders, very pleasant. In fact, if you think about it carefully, there are still some problems.,Because I'm a little ordinary.,But I can't find a girlfriend.,Over time, I think the object is just a few rolls of toilet paper in life.,My heart is very calm.,So it's boring to enlighten the landlord.

No psychological problems, you're only 20, it's still a few years, young and immature.

.Respect their ideas and don't quarrel with their elders.

Maybe the urging of the elders will be annoying, but we still have to try to control our emotions and not rush to quarrel with them.

First of all, we want to regain our freedom and rights, but we don't want to become enemies with our loved ones.

More importantly, a soft attitude is more conducive to both parties to calm down and communicate slowly, so as to achieve better results.

Throwing a tantrum and slamming the door, or posing as a shrew and tearing their faces, is not a wise way to respond.

Of course, respecting the other person's ideas does not mean that we should agree with the other person's point of view.

Prove yourself with real actions.

The urgency of urging you to marry is directly proportional to how bad your current life is.

Therefore, what we need to do is not only to get rid of that hanging appearance in front of our parents, but also to be their "teacher".

Let your parents often find that "your skills are not as good as you", and feel that you have really become an adult who is in charge of your own affairs, and they don't need to worry about it.

If you can't even break free from the image of a "child", then how can you get your parents to respect your individuality?

Don't think of "single beggars" as "single aristocrats", because there is still a gap between tens of thousands of worries and thousands of elegant calm.

So please regularize your routine, live a delicate and not sloppy life, and at least don't let your parents worry about whether you eat or not.

In addition, you can usually start with new things to win the respect and even admiration of your parents.

Urging you to find a partner means that you have reached the age of talking about marriage, and it is the mission of parents for children to start a family, and they think that children can only complete their tasks when they start a family and start a business, and they are eligible to enjoy their old age in peace. Since you are old, hurry up and find a partner, unless you are busy with your career and you don't even have time to fall in love, otherwise follow the wishes of your parents, this is also a kind of filial piety, and it is the inevitable future that you are about to face, start a family, get married and have children.

Hello, how old are you, I'm being urged to find [gparagraph3], I think your parents are too anxious, how old are you, you're still a student, your main task now is to complete your studies, and other things will be said later, you are still young, don't think so much, you should focus on studying now, don't think too much, you are still young, you can't find it if you want to find it in the future, it's better to study, and then think about finding a partner when you graduate.

Parents should be listened to, it's time to think about it, it's the responsibility of parents.

The first way to avoid detection is to try to write love letters by hand, not through mobile phones or computer devices, which can reduce the need to leave records or be detected by parents who are invigilated. The second way not to be found is not to invite your girlfriend to play at home, even if the parents go out to the world of two, do not bring them home to mess around, otherwise it is easy to leave some clues, which is easy to find. The third way not to be detected is not to spend too much money on your girlfriend, that is, to control the amount of spending, excessive consumption will definitely arouse the suspicion of parents.

The fourth way to stay undetected is not to write any names or information about your girlfriend or boyfriend in your book, so as to prevent parents from being curious when they check their homework or flip through the book. The fifth way not to be found is that if you are suspected by your parents, when you ask questions in person, you should naturally tell your parents that you are not in love, so that you can naturally let parents clear up a lot of doubts. The sixth way not to be found out is not to have an affair with your girlfriend or boyfriend at school, otherwise it will be easy to be seen by classmates, teachers or other parents around you, and it will reach the ears of your parents.

Summary. Hello, dear, I understand your feelings very much, I want to find a partner I don't have money, you can say to your parents, Mom and Dad, haven't you always wanted me to find a partner? I've found it now, we've been in contact online, I'd like to go to her and see her, is that okay?

If your parents say yes, you can say, I still need your help, and then tell your parents about the round-trip fare, and how much it will cost to buy something from the partner, and tell your parents.

Hello, dear, I understand your feelings very much, I want to find a partner I don't have money, you can say to your parents, Mom and Dad, haven't you always wanted me to find a partner? I've found it now, we've been in contact online, and I want to go to her to see her, is that okay? If your parents say yes, you can say, I still need your help, and then tell your parents about the round-trip fare, and how much it will cost to buy something from the object, and talk to your parents.

My parents didn't allow me to marry Guizhou, but I have already bought a ticket for January 5th, do you think I should tell my parents?

I must say it in advance.

What should I do if I say they won't let me go?

First of all, your parents are for your own good, and they are afraid that you will be deceived.

But we've been in love for ten months.

How did you meet?

Kuaishou met above, how does your boyfriend usually treat you, is he very considerate, or is he very gentle, the teacher will help you analyze it.

Usually treats me very well, never scolds me, he tolerates me when I make mistakes, and every time I quarrel, he bows his head first and admits his mistakes.

That's really a good man, if you buy something, will he give you money to spend pro.

Yes, should I tell my parents, how should I tell them?

It's best to hide it from them, and you say that you are going to stay with your classmates for a few days.

I was with him in my freshman year, and now I have been in my senior year for more than three years, and I finally mustered up the courage to tell my parents about his existence.

He told me many times when he would tell his parents. Every time he asked me, I felt differently, and it was getting more and more uncomfortable.

On the first day we were together, he told his family to rent a house. I haven't dared to, for fear that my parents will not agree, and I will nag me about how to go to school, after all, I have been a good child in the eyes of others and my parents since I was a child.

Taking the opportunity to talk to my parents about a brother's marriage, I finally told my parents through my mobile phone**, showing half of my face, not staring at the camera, and telling my parents: I'm in love. I didn't dare to tell them that it had been three years since we talked.

After talking for three years, I went home and chatted with my parents and friends, and my parents knew through their friends' mouths. If my friend hadn't said it, I might not have been able to open my mouth.

After the first step, the rest doesn't seem to be so difficult. Whether it's discussing his family with his parents, he as a person, or showing them his **, it has become a simple and happy thing.

Through the chat later, I found out that my parents actually had feelings for a long time. It's a cat delivery and a meal, which makes my parents think I'm tired. I don't say they don't ask.

Marrying a daughter and marrying a daughter-in-law are indeed two different things. Whether it is my friend's experience or my own experience, it makes me feel that when the woman's parents first knew that their daughter was in love, they must have looked at the man with a non-kind eye. They will scrutinize, consider, and even hide their approval of the man's thoughts.

At this time, it is especially important to communicate with your parents and express your thoughts honestly, so that your parents can know more about your common experience and gain their understanding and recognition.

Ever since I was a child, my parents have never told me about falling in love. So even when I'm in love, I always feel that in their eyes, I'm still young, whether it's not too late, so I don't dare to tell them. I didn't want to say it, but my parents didn't object.

I wonder how you told your parents? Or how did you know that your child was in love?