We got engaged for the Chinese New Year this year. My boyfriend s family is very rich, but the bride

Seeing what you said so much, I know that you are a good girl, it is not a matter of money that you value, but many men and women who want to enter the marriage hall should be separated for this, and they must be handled carefully, the key is to see your negotiation with your boyfriend, don't get the old man, don't dislike the old man for this matter, and leave a psychological shadow. They may also think, if you are too little, should you be looking for their money, not for feelings, or something, even if you are forced to give it to you, they will look down on you psychologically. My opinion is:

It's not safe to have too much money, when you get the money, things will come out, a good daughter-in-law shouldn't be like this, but we still have to save face, after all, we don't want money, so, hehe, you can ask for as much as possible, give them some difficulties, and be careful not to annoy them. And then this money is really not at ease, people will think that you love money, and you must return it to others when you get married, to your husband, to your husband's parents, when you enter filial piety, in this way, they will be relieved, and they will feel that they have married a good daughter-in-law... Remember, you can't take this money yourself, if you take the money, your identity will be dropped, we are not selling girls, right!

If you don't say it well, you can forgive me

In fact, they are already engaged, so there is no need to worry about it so much. The most important thing for two people to be considerate of each other is to be together. Can't you see what he thinks?

In fact, I was also engaged at the end of the year, and I got married in May, and I was the same, and the bride price was not much, I don't feel uncomfortable, but you will ruin your good impression on adults. If you believe that you can live together, marry him, don't worry too much, if you don't think he's the right person, don't delay others, and delay yourself.

It seems that you haven't passed yet, and your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are already incompatible, so first of all, you can tell your boyfriend what you think!! It's better not to lose your temper and be calm、、!

Do you want money or people, as for it, will it be yours when the time comes, and you are not short of money, what do you care about so much.

Don't worry too much about gains and losses in life.

Are you short of money or are you fucking lacking heart?

If two people have a dispute over the bride price, I will choose to communicate with the other party, more about feelings than about interests, and the following methods can allow you to better deal with such things.

1. Calm down and look at feelings.

If the two of them quarrel due to parental pressure, they can be cold first, and then find a time to talk again. Don't break up right away or say something very bad, after all, it's not easy to find the right person. Don't wronged yourself because you're old, it mainly depends on the man's attitude.

Marriage is not child's play, and most of your life will be entrusted to him.

2. Discuss with your parents.

Explain the situation of the man's family to his parents, don't ask for a price, stick to the rules of the family, and live his life by himself. And how much dowry the man gives, he should marry about the same dowry, and even add more. knew that they were asking for a bride price for themselves, and they were afraid that their daughter would be wronged in her husband's house.

At this time, not only did he say, but he also had to let his boyfriend cooperate and let his parents know the sincerity of the man's family. Otherwise, he would be very aggrieved and bargain with his parents for him, but the other party's parents kept calculating themselves. If the other party's parents are not fuel-efficient lamps, to be honest, no one wants to marry their daughter.

3. What should I do if the man can't get the bride price?

If the man is really poor because he buys a marriage house or his family is really poor, he can't get the due bride price. And you still want to get married, which is true love, and you have to ask for bride price money at this time. The woman can prepare hundreds of thousands of cash for the man, and then the man's family will send an IOU to the woman's parents.

If the man's family doesn't give a bride price, will you get married?

My opinion is as follows:

1. The wedding bride price should be determined according to the man's economic conditions. If the man's family is very poor and he can't get the wedding bride price, then the girl should also be considerate. If there must be a bride price, it can be meant under the condition that the man can afford it.

2. If the other party has a certain financial ability, and the bride price amount said by the woman is within the scope of the man's responsibility, but the man is still unwilling to pay the bride price, the girl must not marry in this case. Although the wedding bride price cannot measure the feelings of the two people, the bride price can see the sincerity of the other party.

3. If the man's parents are unwilling to pay the bride price, but the boy is willing, and has been persuading his parents, and is even willing to spend his own money as a bride price to marry you, the girl needs to judge for herself. It's true that a boy loves you, but it's also true that the man's parents don't get along well, so it depends on whether he wants to.

As a woman, anyone will have the bride price, if you don't give it, it's not easy to say it at home, I feel that there is money in the south, and I am stuffed, this is deliberately not wanting to give the bride price, in the eyes of the woman, I will think that there are still customs, and the boyfriend doesn't really want to marry you, so you can lower the bride price.

Good luck in the end.

It is normal for men and women to give a bride price when they get married, if the man's family is very rich, but the basic bride price is not willing to give, it means that he does not really love you, you can consider whether to marry him.

This marriage must not be married, because the boyfriend obviously loves money more than you, and he will not be happy after marriage.

I don't think it should be knotted. Because your boyfriend doesn't pay much attention to you, he is reluctant to give this bride price.

It's best not to get married, because your boyfriend doesn't seem to respect you very much, and getting married rashly will only put you in a situation from which you will never recover.

If he wants to have money but is not willing to pay the bride price, then I don't think the marriage can be entered. In my opinion, he doesn't love you and doesn't spoil you. You won't be happy in the future.

Your boyfriend is obviously rich but is unwilling to give you a bride price, which proves that your boyfriend is hesitant about getting married, and you should determine your boyfriend's attitude before considering getting married!

It definitely can't be married, because such a boyfriend values money too much and doesn't value feelings, and sooner or later there will be problems together.

Of course not, because your boyfriend obviously values money more than you, and he won't treat you very hard in the future.

I don't think I can get married, I am obviously rich but I am not willing to give you a bride price, which shows that he doesn't pay much attention to you, he doesn't love you enough, and if he loves someone, he is willing to give everything for her.

You can't get married because your boyfriend doesn't love you that much, and getting married hastily is likely to put you in a situation from which you can't recover.

The wedding bride price must be given, give more and give less, always give a little, if the man has this economic condition, but is not willing to give, I think this marriage or don't get married.

It shows that he is not a hypocritical person, he is not willing to stick to these vulgar and bad habits, marriage is originally a matter of two people, why do you have to ask one party to give money? Buying and selling people? It's normal if you can't accept it, after all, most people are like this, and if you can get rid of prejudice, you can live a chic life.

If your boyfriend doesn't give you a bride price, there may be some reasons, try to find out, first confirm whether he really loves you, if it's just because he doesn't want to give you a bride price, and don't give you a bride price, then you have to pay attention to it, marry a man who loves to care, whether you will be happy, if it is because of an accident at home, and don't give you a bride price, you can think about it, don't give a bride price, less bride price, or the wedding will be held later.

I don't want to ...... it if you give it to me as a friend

The woman Xiaojing and her boyfriend have been together since college, and they have been in love for five years, and the two plan to get married on this year's love anniversary; If everything goes smoothly as they want, it will also be an enviable love story from school uniforms to wedding dresses.

But their relationship went wrong before marriage, because when two people talk about the bride price, they always talk about whether it is appropriate to be sleepy. The boyfriend thinks that Xiaojing's family is much more, he is from the countryside, and his parents are also farmers, so he is unwilling to dig out his parents' funds in order to get married; But Xiaojing's parents felt that their baby daughter had been rich for more than 20 years, and they were very afraid that their daughter would suffer after marriage, so they wanted to ask for more bride price so that their daughter would have a guarantee in the future, so the two families had been arguing over the bride price.

Although Xiao Jing and her boyfriend love each other, they are always unable to harmonize, and they each consider from the standpoint of their own family and do not back down from each other; The two also began to have a negative perception of each other in their hearts, Xiao Jing felt that her boyfriend's family did not respect her parents and did not value herself, and her boyfriend felt that Xiao Jing's family did not understand her, was embarrassed, and forced herself, and slowly the two began to quarrel, even to the point of breaking up, so Xiao Jing came to me for emotional counseling.

Their situation seems to be a problem that the man can't come up with; But in fact, it is far more than just a question of money, it is also a question of communication patterns, trust, problem-solving skills, and whether the two families agree with each other.

Let's start with the question of communication patterns. When the two sides discussed the bride price, they did not communicate in the spirit of looking for a solution, but stood in their respective positions, trying to persuade each other and let the other party satisfy themselves, which led to their failure to see the original intention of the two families clearly, and regarded the objective Zheng Nian's difficulties as the other party's deliberate embarrassment, which also led to a crisis of trust between the two.

But in fact, even if there is no bride price, maybe the level of trust between the two is not strong enough, because when they are involved in the issue of interests, they think of "you" and "me", not us, and do not regard each other as their own family. It can be said that their crisis of confidence has always been latent.

Let's talk about the problem-solving skills of two people. After analyzing their situation, I found that although they have been together for five years, their relationship has been going smoothly without any major setbacks. But it may be because they are living too smoothly that they lack communication skills, coordination skills and emotional management skills to argue with each other, which leads to their lack of problem-solving ability, and the bride price has naturally become a hurdle before their marriage.

Finally, I would like to turn to the issue of two families. There is no doubt that there is a big gap between the original families of the two, one is a phoenix man in the countryside, and the other is an only daughter in the city, and the families of the two are not only poor in economic level, but also in ideology, family model and way of doing things. Looking at it separately, there is nothing wrong with Xiaojing's parents wanting to give their daughter a guarantee, and her boyfriend's parents have worked hard all their lives and can't come up with money, which is also worth forgiving, but it will be very difficult for such two families to achieve mutual recognition.

Your boyfriend's family really can't get the wedding bride price, you can directly ask your boyfriend about the situation in his family, and see if your boyfriend has any financial difficulties in his family, if he loses money in business, you can celebrate the stool and marry your boyfriend, and you can also accompany your boyfriend to make a comeback.

Not counted. Marriage fraud is the act of defrauding money for the purpose of marriage, and obtaining a certificate without giving a bride price, most of which is the act of a man kidnapping a woman. Anyway, the two have become husband and wife legally, and when the time comes, no matter how demanding the woman's parents are, they will have to admit it.

However, those who accept the bride price and do not get married are suspected of cheating marriage. If you deliberately accept the bride price from the man, and then you are unwilling to register the marriage, it is a fraudulent marriage. The court will find that the woman is marrying under the pretense of taking possession of the man's bride price for the purpose of illegally taking possession of the bride price.

1. Should the bride price be refunded after the divorce, and what are the conditions for the return of the bride price?

Where the legally-prescribed requirements for a bride price need to be returned or exchanged, and the parties request the return of the bride price paid in accordance with custom, the people's court shall support it if it is ascertained that it falls under the following circumstances:

1) The parties have not gone through the marriage registration formalities;

2) The parties have gone through marriage registration formalities but do not live together;

3) Payments made before marriage that cause hardship to the payor.

The application of the provisions of items (2) and (3) of the preceding paragraph shall be conditional on the divorce of both parties.

Circumstances in which the amount of the refund is reduced.

1. If the marriage contract is dissolved due to the reasons of the party who paid the bride price, the amount of the bride price to be returned may be reduced according to the degree of its fault, the economic situation of both parties, and other factors."

2. Where a man and a woman have lived together for more than one year and less than two years without going through the marriage registration formalities, and one party requests the other party to return the bride price, the amount to be returned shall generally not exceed 30% of the total amount of the bride price; If they have lived together for less than one year and for more than three months, the amount to be returned shall generally not exceed 50% of the total amount of the bride price; If they have lived together for less than three months, the amount to be returned shall generally not exceed 70% of the total amount of the bride price; Where the relationship of cohabitation and filial piety is dissolved due to the reasons of the party paying the bride price, and where the woman becomes pregnant or has a miscarriage during the period of living together, it can generally be reduced by 5% to 20% on the basis of the preceding paragraph.

The basic principle of the restriction on the return of the bride price.

In addition to the judicial interpretation of the Supreme Court, the restrictive provisions on the return of the bride price also follow the following principles:

1. Follow the principles of local customs and habits. In the application of the law, there is such a rule, that is, "there is a law according to the law, there is no policy according to the policy, and there is no policy according to custom". Therefore, local customs and habits should be followed in the determination of the bride price, the scope of the bride price, whether the bride price is returned, and the proportion of the bride price returned.

2. Take care of the principle of the innocent party.

3. The principle of fairness. In the process of resolving such disputes, the balance of interests between the two parties should be used to determine whether it is fair.