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The child goes to kindergarten and fights.
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But kindergarten children are prone to conflicts, and this parent does not need to intervene
1.Take care of your child's mood.
If the child is pushed down and cries, parents should go over to care for the child as soon as possible, calm the child's emotions, let him know that he is not alone, and that there are parents who support him at all times and give him more security.
Secondly, we need to help them understand the scene "he wants to run over here, not to bully you", so that the child can understand the other person's behavior.
If the child is pushed down, the parents will "stand out" for the child, and the child can easily understand that "I was bullied and wronged." "There are factors that are not good for the development of children.
2.Try not to interfere in the children's world of conflict.
The world of children is so simple, and children's games have rules that belong to children. Let them find solutions to problems in conflict management, and grow in problem solving.
3.Specific analysis of the specific situation of children's one-day activities.
When children are playing around, you may find that some children are relatively introverted and tend to be more passive; Some children can be reasonable, which can play a role in easing conflicts; And there are also some children who have been doted on by their families since they were young and have a certain degree of aggression.
Sometimes, conflicts between children can also "escalate". That's when the adults have to intervene. The first thing to do is to understand the situation; secondly, specific analysis; Finally, reason with the child.
The most undesirable thing is that parents bring in their children or criticize or scold them for the sake of face. This can easily hurt their self-esteem and also ruin everyone's good mood.
4.Teach your child to protect himself in moderation.
1) If the conflict is a small friction in normal life, children can learn to be tolerant and not unforgiving.
2) If the vested rights and interests belonging to the child are violated, the child should be allowed to fight on the basis of reason, not blindly retreat, and learn to defend and resist appropriately in the case of equal strength.
3) If the other party has a large number of people or a disparity in strength with you, don't blindly go head-to-head. You can ask your parents or police uncle for help afterwards.
5.The final solution to the problem: the child.
This is a crucial point that is often overlooked. When children have conflicts, adults often come forward to solve them, and even small things are turned into big things! What we do most often is go straight to the answer:
It's not right for you to do that, you should ......So, when can a child learn to think for himself and really learn the skills to interact and get along with others?
The correct way is to guide the child to express Chan Li's own views through communication with the child: what caused the conflict, how he and the other party felt, what the consequences would be, and what ways to solve it. The purpose is to allow children to solve problems independently by practicing trouble.
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1. Learn more, it is normal for babies to play a little in kindergarten. So don't be too surprised when the babies say they quarrel in kindergarten. And you should ask the babies, why did they fight?
After the babies have described the situation in detail, if it is the baby's fault, then tell the baby that they have done wrong, and if it is other dolls who have done wrong, then parents should tell the baby how to forgive others.
2. Talk to the kindergarten teacher, if the parents come home and find that the child has obvious scars, or the child's personality has changed a lot, then as a parent, you should first let the child tell the truth. If other children in the kindergarten are causing serious psychological and physical harm to their children, then parents should find out the details of the situation. If the circumstances are serious, communicate with the teacher and the parents of other children.
If his child has been seriously harmed, then the school and other parents should be given appropriate explanations, and hopefully there will be no recurrence of harm to the child in the future.
3. Cultivate children's good character, children's personality may also affect children's life in kindergarten. If children are withdrawn, arrogant, and difficult to get along with, then at this time, they may be snubbed by other children in kindergarten, and they may not be able to make friends. Therefore, parents remember to cultivate their children to have a good character.
If it is found that the conflict between children in kindergarten is related to personality, then parents should cultivate children's good character as early as possible.
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1. Parents should learn to lead by example, and if children like to beat people when they are young, then they must stop these behaviors in time. When parents get along with their children, they must learn to lead by example and not always use beating and scolding to solve problems. Let your child know his own shortcomings, so that he can better correct his mistakes.
If parents don't beat and scold their children, children won't imitate their parents, and then children won't have the habit of hitting people.
2. Learn to restrain children, and some children will stay away from this child when they fight with other classmates in school. Therefore, in order for children to be able to make friends in school, everyone must also learn to restrain themselves. And parents should not think that the younger the child is, the more he can let the child go, let the child understand the impact of hitting from an early age.
In order to coax their children, many parents will pretend to praise their children when they hit others, which is wrong, don't let your children grow up in the wrong environment, and don't let your children experience the wrong education.
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1. Find out what happened and what happened.
Before intervening in the conflict between children, parents should first understand the cause and process of the incident, so as to better deal with the conflict for the child, resolve the conflict, and better clarify who is right and who is wrong.
If parents indiscriminately favor one child, it is easy to chill other children.
And this kind of fair partiality can easily attract the dissatisfaction of other children, not only can not solve the conflicts between children, but also lay the groundwork for the next quarrel and action.
Therefore, when parents encounter children who are in dispute, they should listen to the two children explain what happened fairly and impartially, and then consider whether they need to intervene in the children's conflicts, and if they need to intervene, they need to help the children resolve the conflicts from an objective point of view.
2. Be clear about whether you should intervene or not.
If the conflict between children is just ordinary fighting, pushing and shouting, then parents can let their children solve it, which can not only allow children to exercise their ability to interact with others, but also help them grow better.
If you intervene in the disputes between children, it is easy for children to develop the mentality of finding parents when they encounter problems, which is not conducive to the independent growth of children, and is not conducive to children's future life development.
When parents teach their children, they should clearly tell their children that they are not afraid of things, and if they encounter other children bullying them at will, they should also resist boldly and cannot tolerate the bullying of the other party.
If you can't resist, you can seek the help of your parents and ask them to help find the other parent to deal with the matter.
In this way, not only can the child develop a strong character, but also better help the child grow.
If the child often fights, then the parents need to intervene urgently, and they also need to contact the parents of the other party to deal with the fight together.
If the child is seriously injured, the seriously injured child should be sent to the hospital in time**, and then various medical expenses and so on will be discussed according to the extent of the child's injury.
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<>1. Find out the reason why the baby is moving. Is it because of the competition for toys, or because the other party makes the first move, the baby fights back? Make things clear first, don't be in a hurry to criticize the baby, maybe the baby is wronged.
I thought to myself, why was I hurt too, my mother just criticized me, why didn't the other party's mother criticize him?
2. Let the baby apologize in person. If the baby takes the initiative to hit other children for some reason, then you must immediately ask the teacher to arrange for the baby to make a formal apology at that time, so that the baby realizes that his words and deeds are wrong, and he must stand up and apologize if he does something wrong. And back at home, mom and dad have to communicate and educate to a certain extent.
3. Appropriate punishment. If you are very naughty and only hit the child today, the apology is an apology, and the next day or a few days later, you forget it and start hitting someone again. This time it's not just about apologizing, adults should set some punishments for babies who behave badly or do bad things.
For example, the snacks of the day are canceled, and of course, the time to watch cartoons is canceled. Make your baby aware of the seriousness of the problem.
4. Adhere to principles and punish in place. You can't give up because the baby is crying, and the set punishment must be carried out according to the plan, otherwise the next time you start to hit someone, and then you have to carry out your punishment system, and the baby's crying will be even worse, because she remembers that last time you regressed because of her crying.
5. Make a special punishment plan. If the above punishments have no real effect on the baby, then it is time to think of some special punishment plan. For example, after the baby hits someone, the next day bring the baby's favorite toy, give it to the child who was beaten and apologize in person.
Next time, the baby is expected not to do it again. Of course, you can't use this method for a long time, otherwise the baby will feel that it doesn't matter, and there will be new toys anyway.
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Parents should not intervene and interfere too much, let the children deal with the conflicts between them, and let the children deal with the conflicts between them, which is also to exercise the children's social and problem-dealing adaptability, and it is also the child's establishment and formation of their own social model. Therefore, parents should give their children more initiative and autonomy, and do not interfere too much.
But this is entirely based on the relationship between the child and the child, and if one of the children is bullying the other by virtue of physical or other strengths, the parents must take action to correct the child's behavior.
If you are a parent of a strong child, you should properly restrain your child's behavior, teach your child to be equal and discerning, not rely on your own advantages to bully other children, and set an example of humility and politeness for your child at ordinary times. If the child is a parent who is deceived and closed, the first thing is to review whether he is usually too strict with the child, resulting in the child's timid and timid character, and it is recommended that parents create an equal and warm living atmosphere for the child, encourage the child to express his wishes, and dare to say no to unfair treatment.
If there is a physical altercation between the children and injuries are caused, the parent as the child's guardian needs to intervene. However, parents on both sides must deal with this matter calmly, objectively and rationally, and adopt mediation and negotiation methods to deal with it. Understand who is at fault and how to minimize the damage to the other party.
In fact, the child's world is simple, the heart is pure, and the contradictions between them are often inadvertent, so parents don't have to pay too much attention to it. It should be from the child's point of view and let them figure it out on their own. Objectivity, rationality, and calmness should be the principles that parents should follow.
In fact, the children were still in trouble about something one second, and the next second they forgot the previous contradictions and unhappiness, and they played Jane intimately together. This is a psychological characteristic of children during this period, a process of exercising and improving their interpersonal skills, and a growth process of life.
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