What are some issues to pay attention to when asking children to do things?

Parents are also teachers to their children. It is the one who fastens the first button in the child's life. Parents' words and deeds are very important for the formation of a child's character.

The first is to establish a good family relationship between parents and children, and at the same time establish a friendship relationship to shorten the distance between each other. There are no barriers between conversations, no defensiveness. Second, when talking, do not use foul language or excessive language that hurts children's self-esteem, and do not use rough violence.

The third is to take heuristic guidance or suggestions in conversation, so that the children's minds have room for maneuver. There are some things that she can't think of, but she slowly understands.

For example, if you want your child to help you do something, you can't give it an order, but say what you want me to do, and if the child doesn't want to give his toys to others, then you can't persuade and force the child to give them, you should let the child decide for himself.

I think that while asking the child, we must pay attention to restraining ourselves, see if we have done it, set a good example for the child, speak to the child with a friendly and kind attitude, do not use the tone of command to let the child do things, and remember to praise the child after doing it.

First of all, I must be a good role model, and I see that many parents ask their children to do this and that, but they can't do it. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Don't force your child to do this, ask for your child's permission first.

Establish emotional communication in the family, choose to talk to the child in addition to leisure time, and at the same time, pay attention to the child's emotions, if the child is in a hurry to go out to play, do not force him to stay. Don't just watch TV and play with mobile phones, so that children are not used to communicating with family members and are not good at communicating with others. Establish a fixed habit and order in the family, generally about three, and parents should take the lead in complying with the regulations.

For certain things, it is necessary to distinguish priorities, do not give orders in everything, and do not speak verbosely. ‍‍

Although you are a parent, don't discipline your children condescendingly, and don't beat or scold them at every turn. It is best for parents to make their children fearful and loved, and sometimes they have to communicate with their children like friends. When children do something wrong, or when their children are at a crossroads, parents must take care of what they should manage, educate and educate, and help those who should help, and must correct their children's mistakes in time and let them correct them.

I think what parents and children need is communication. According to the age of the different, the way of communication is also different, before the age of 6, because the child is not sensible, so just teach him what you think is the right way. Between the ages of 6 and 13, the child already has his own way of thinking, and this is the time to communicate with him and tell him about the pros and cons of things.

After the age of 14, the child is in a rebellious period, so many things will have their own opinion, so first communicate with him to exchange his opinion, don't blame at the beginning, this will only become more and more rebellious. It is necessary to express doubts and point out the unreasonable. So everything, first of all, parents should do their own behavior well, you are your child's role model.

What kind of child you raise is up to you. Your child is the epitome of you.

When the child is in infancy. The method of educating children, generally, as long as, does not explode foul language. Don't scold at every turn.

Positive education with children. The child is very small, simple-minded. Not a small child, most of them like, quite positive, education, the so-called top hatter.

This method is generally acceptable to children. Once the child reaches the teenage stage, it has reached the rebellious stage. Real children, rebellious in thought.

It is not easy to discipline , it is the child whose mannerisms and words and deeds. I always think that it is more correct than adults. At this time, children are generally more stubborn.

The education of adults is very important. Parents at this time. Scolding and reprimanding.

It's exactly the opposite.

The child reaches adulthood. Especially if you have already started a family. The sons already have sons.

At this time, my parents were already old. People are old and sick. A small number of older people.

Personality, some changes. Becoming more verbose and stubborn than when he was younger. That's the case with that old man in my family.

He talked to his eldest son. Sometimes it's always a sentence to raise the bar! Oh, always play, the role of a mediator.

I said old guy. Have you changed your temper? You don't always be, as a father.

You change your perspective. You know that he is now in his 50s, not after an hour, you should also leave him some dignity, our children, from childhood to adulthood, have never talked back to their parents. Until now.

I'm okay as a mediator, and his father and son still listen to me, especially the old man. He felt that he had indeed gone too far. Afterwards, he took the initiative to communicate with his son.

As a parent, talk to your children. Don't be all the time. Appears as a parent.

Transform roles. You're a colleague, friend. In this way, the atmosphere is more lively.

The conversation also has an effect.

My daughter is just over two months old, and she can't even burp herself, and she is already imitating the emotional processing of adults. Every time she changed her diaper, she looked at me, opened her mouth and was about to cry, and as long as I was laughing, she would probably turn crying into laughter after hesitating. And if I show nervousness or disregard for her crying, she will cry 100%.

From her, I deeply understood why children are a mirror of parents. The so-called teaching by word and deed is probably what we show ourselves in front of our children.

When I was in junior high school, I typed my essay on my computer and forgot what was going on, and my dad turned it off before I could save it. I was angry, but my dad refused to apologize to me and turned around and scolded me. And my mom knew that it wasn't my fault, but she scolded my dad together.

I can't remember a lot of it, I just remember what my mother told me, "Your dad is the pillar of the family". Since then, I have remembered the idea that "money determines status" and have become more and more indifferent. My current three views are all influenced by them.

During the most important time when my three views in junior high school and high school were formed, they would only beat and scold me rudely, saying contradictory views and messy logic. But I don't remember so many things, I'm used to it.

1. Don't care too much about your child, which is easy to make your child overly self-centered. Thinking that everyone should respect him, he ended up being a person who was arrogant.

2. Don't bribe children, let children know the relationship between rights and obligations from an early age, and they can't enjoy rights if they don't fulfill their obligations.

Third, don't get too close to your child, you should encourage your child to live, learn, and play with his peers, so that he can learn how to get along with others.

Fourth, don't force your children to do something they can't do, most of your child's self-confidence comes from doing things successfully, and forcing them to do things that they can't do will only hit their self-confidence.

5. Don't be too harsh and harsh on your child, or even beat and scold, which will make your child develop an unhealthy psychology such as low self-esteem and timidity and avoidance. or lead to rebellion, brutality, lying, running away from home, etc.

6. Don't deceive and intimidate your child needlessly, scaring your child will lose your parents' authority in your child's mind.

7. Do not criticize or ridicule your child in front of your friends in public, which will cause your child to be resentful and shy, and damage your child's self-esteem.

8. Don't praise the child too much, the child has made achievements in doing things, just praise a little, excessive praise will make the child contaminated with the bad psychology of selling fame and reputation.

9. Don't be moody with your child, which will make your child sensitive and suspicious, emotionally unstable, timid and timid.

10. To help children analyze their environment and help them solve difficulties, rather than solving problems for them, children should be taught to analyze and solve problems.

Don't swear in front of your children, don't quarrel in front of your children, don't say bad things about your children in front of your children, don't say that your children are inferior to other people's children in front of your children, but I think the most important thing is that you must pay attention to ways and means when educating your children, and don't beat and scold your children at will.

It is important to pay attention to the fact that when educating children, they should also take into account their self-esteem and the feelings of the children. When talking to children, you should also use that kind of communication style, and don't face them directly.

Don't be overly concerned about your child, so that your child is prone to being overly self-centered. The person who thinks that everyone should respect him turns out to be a character. Don't bribe your children, know the relationship between rights and obligations from an early age, and you can't enjoy rights if you don't fulfill your obligations.

Don't get too close to your child, encourage your peers to live and learn to play together, so that you can learn to get along with others. Don't force your child to do things they can't do. Much of a child's self-confidence comes from successful work.

Forcing them to do what they can't do will only take a toll on their self-confidence. Don't be too harsh or swearful to your child. In this way, children can cultivate unhealthy psychology such as low self-esteem, timidity and avoidance.

It may lead to rebellion against the authority in the heart of the atrocity lie. Do not publicly criticize or ridicule your child in front of your peers. This can lead to resentment and shyness, which can damage your child's self-esteem.

Don't praise your child too much, just praise your child a little bit for his work achievements. Excessive praise can make children suffer from the bad psychology of selling fame and reputation.

Don't get angry with your child, this will make him sensitive and suspicious. Emotionally unstable, timid and withdrawn. Analyze your child's environment and teach him how to analyze the problem, not solve it for him.

Some people say that when we become parents, we forget that we were also children. We also longed for our parents to respect us when they spoke to us, rather than acting condescending. But when we become parents, we begin to unconsciously repeat what our parents did.

The child looked up at us, begging and shouting for mom to hug me. When my mother plays with me for a while, how do we do it, are we often impatient or angry because we are busy with other things, telling them to wait for a while, obediently to play by themselves, parents don't know, our practices, our emotions and attitudes have invisibly left an imprint in the children's young hearts, just like when we were afraid of our parents. Squatting down, adults will see the world through the eyes of children.

When educating children, you must not shout loudly, and you must not insult children, because at this time, the child's heart will be greatly shadowed, and the child will be very unhealthy. When educating children, we must be very patient, we must guide children more, and we must also have children from an early age to develop good living habits.

The first thing is to observe the child's responsiveness, and also to observe the child's dynamics, and then to adjust the way of education, but also to protect the child's hobbies and interests, and then parents should join in the process of education.

You need to pay special attention to the details of the child's state and emotions, the child's thoughts and problems, and the practicality of your own education.

It is especially important to note that the relationship between the parents, the tone of voice when the parents communicate, and the self-discipline problems of the parents are all details that affect the child.

When educating children, we must encourage more than criticize, and we must think from the child's perspective and be friends with the child.

When educating children, special attention should be paid to telling the truth to the children, not lying to the children, and doing what they say, and not criticizing the education of each group The children should talk to him before they can talk to him.

What details do you need to pay attention to in your child's education? This question is a bit big, maybe a thousand people will have a thousand answers, and I'll talk about my opinion. First, let's talk about how we can be parents.

When deciding to become parents, we should prepare some knowledge about this. When parents are more aware and knowledgeably prepared, the better, and the more prepared, the better. When we are parents, we must learn to take responsibility and learn to give love.

We want to be learning parents. As parents, we have to keep learning and want our children to grow together. We must understand the law of children's growth and children's psychology.

Only in this way can we be the guide of children and give them the right guidance. Education is style, the way we see the world, the attitude of dealing with people, and the way we interact with others will subtly affect our children.

When we as parents have the right educational philosophy, we understand the thoughts behind the psychology and behavior of our children, and it will be much easier for us to educate our children. The most important thing in teaching children is to have a good parent-child relationship. We have a good relationship with our children, so that we can communicate effectively with our children.

Children will only be willing to listen to what we say. If your child is willing to listen to you, we can give your child the right guidance and guidance.

Educate children to develop their independence. We can't spend a lifetime with our children. We must cultivate children's independence.

You can't do everything and deprive your child of the right to experience his or her own life. If you don't let your child do anything, you will make your child feel incompetent, without a sense of worth and existence. The key to developing children's independence is to learn to let go.

We don't dare to let go, we don't let our children dare to try and make mistakes, and in the end we may raise a giant baby who doesn't know how to be grateful.

We need to develop resilience in children. It is not easy for children to grow up. There will always be difficulties, big and small.

We must guide children to learn to face difficulties, and when difficulties arise, we must find ways to overcome them, and at the same time, we must teach children to learn to endure. We can also look at the problem from a different angle, and when there is pressure, there will be motivation. Guide your child with a positive attitude.