Which should I choose between marriage and breakup?

After getting married, his parents have to urge you to have a child and want to hold a grandchild. It's a simple reality that you have to face ... You ask him.

With a son next year, do you have the ability to make the whole family worry about food and clothing? Including both parents! Of course, a woman must also have the ability to be financially independent, and ask herself the same questions.

After getting married, the children and both parents are the responsibility of the two of you. It's not like now.,Stay around your parents and don't worry about food and clothing.。。 When the same question can be answered in the affirmative after two people have thought about it, it is time for you to make a promise to each other. Beg.

1. Generally speaking, I will not break up because of the subject's family. People often learn from their own experiences, and we also have more respect for others' family backgrounds. In my opinion, a relationship does not end because of one party's family, but because the relationship between the two parties cannot continue.

2. Of course, everyone's situation is different, and maybe some people will break up because of each other's family reasons. For example, if the other party's family background is very poor, they not only have no financial strength, but also may cause you trouble, at this time you may collapse and consider breaking up.

3. In addition, if you find that there are many discordant situations in your partner's family, such as domestic violence, alcoholism, etc., you may also consider breaking up at this time. Because you don't want to let yourself be involved, and you don't want the other party to be hurt unnecessarily.

1. The bride price is the first challenge for each other to face reality.

When falling in love, the conflict with each other does not involve interests, and it is often a matter of who accommodates whom. At this time, as long as one side is willing to bow its head, the contradiction will not expand.

Therefore, before getting married, the two people did not suffer from the challenges of the real world. But the bride price will become the first real challenge faced by two people, because it involves the interests of each other's families and involves complex interpersonal relationships.

At this time, the shortcomings of many couples were exposed: immaturity. You don't have a "conflict resolution mechanism" in getting along, you don't empathize with each other, you will deal with problems from your own perspective, and this immaturity will expand the conflict to the level of the two families, resulting in your ultimate inability to solve the problem.

2. Fall into your own inner feelings.

The establishment of a family is the formation of a community of interests between two people, and you and I have become "we".

However, at the stage of talking about the bride price, the two people represent the interests of the two families, and "we" are split into "your family" and "my family", and at this time, there is a conflict of interests.

If two people can see each other's feelings and mediate from them, instead of asking each other from their own perspective, it is easy to reach an agreement, but often many people will care about their own interests, the man will emphasize his self-esteem and do not want his parents to be affected by this, and the woman will emphasize that her parents care about herself, and feel that her parents are afraid of being bullied, so she will want the attention of the man's family.

If two people are caught up in their own feelings and ignore each other's feelings, it will lead to problems in each other's troubled relationships and disappointment with each other.

3. Family involvement.

Things can get complicated when two families are mixed into two people's feelings. Each party will consider their own children from the perspective of their own children and emphasize the interests of their own children.

But in doing so, the emotions and attitudes of your parents will become the key elements, and the focus of both of you will shift to the emotions and attitudes of your parents, caught in the middle, and you don't know how to deal with them.

In fact, the essence of breaking up before marriage is not caused by external pressure, but the immaturity of the relationship between the two people, which makes the conflict expand again and again, and the relationship is affected, so they break up.

This is a sign that the foundation on which your relationship is built is not stable enough to cope with the challenges of reality. If you are reluctant, the core is still to repair each other's feelings and make it internally stable; And if you have let go of the other person, in the next relationship, you need to learn to build a stable relationship so that it is enough to face the ups and downs of the real world.