Why do people always wait until they lose to know how to cherish it?

People always have to lose before they know that cherishing is precious, alas, when he was good to me, I didn't know how to cherish and felt that he would always be like this to me, so he was always very willful to make him angry, and now he doesn't treat me like that, only to know that he regrets it, and only then does he understand that he will not always be by my side.

You may not think it will be like when you have it, but when you lose it, you will know what heartache is. Most people get used to doing something or accepting someone's feelings for a few days, but one day when you stop what you have done and accept from people, you feel as if something is missing. Actually, nothing is missing, it's just that you're starting to get used to that life, that feeling.

Therefore, when you lose him (her), you will think that he (she) is valuable, if you cherish him (her) at the beginning, he (her) will not leave you now. Cherish what you have now, and don't wait until everything is gone from you, all you have left is regret and self-blame.

Because people like things they can't get, do they think that what they can't get is the most precious? So do people have to learn to cherish the people in front of them and learn to grasp happiness?

When you have it, you feel that it doesn't matter, anyway, now when you lose it, you feel precious, because there will be no more.

The fundamental reason why we know how to cherish after loss is that the fact of "loss" breaks the conventional state of "possession" and can no longer return to the original point, which damages people's habitual life pattern and makes people feel disgusted and anxious. So instinctively began to struggle to find their own safe territory, and the brain thinking system will continue to send signals, telling the most practical happiness after the cost performance, so the more you lose, the more you will think of the people and things that you have ignored. Often these cause a series of crux of the problem, that is, because people have a dependency psychology to a certain extent, so there is a lack of adaptation.

When you have it, you may feel dissatisfied or even disgusted, but the habits that have been formed will be tacitly accepted as dependence instincts. In other words, it is not that people suddenly know how to cherish, but that they know how to recognize the emotions caused by the fact that the loss and cost have been correlated. Distance produces beauty, the more you lose, the easier it is to remember and play back, all the dissatisfaction of the past is blocked, and it is replaced by the good and happy bits and pieces of the other party in the past, those memory fragments let us rekindle the sense of satisfaction and need, when there is no thing that can replace this habit, people will unconsciously produce confused, helpless and panicked emotional changes.

People's innate possessiveness also plays a big role, there are many couples in life, obviously no longer love, but still reluctant to give away to others, although the heart is gone, but the hand has been tightly grasped, and she is not really so disgusted in her heart, but she doesn't know how to maintain, I don't know how to make this relationship that has begun to be sick to return to its former health, so as to continue to lose itself in the sinking without direction, stalemate relationship. Until the other party left first, he felt painful and sad, and even lamented that he didn't cherish it when he had it, but in fact, he had already thought about breaking from prison thousands of times. In the final analysis, it is the innate domineering psychology and selfishness of human beings that control emotions.

People have analytical ability and premonition, and under the immediate loss, they will unconsciously calculate the possible encounters and happiness probabilities in their future life, such as whether the next partner will mind if they have been with him for so long, or the best youth has been given to each other, and whether it is possible to find a more suitable partner under the current conditions, etc., will be included in the scope of their sensitivity and analysis. The risk of gambling seems to be something that the older you get, the more you can't afford it.

Therefore, for those who know how to cherish when they have lost, the purest feelings or more ingredients are not to know the good of the other party, but to realize that they may suffer from various crises in their future life.

In fact, when a person gives you love, you will feel that it is deserved. Once you notice that this love is gone, you will feel very confused. I don't know what to do next.

That's when you think of the happy times and feel sorry. But I would like to advise everyone not to lose it before cherishing it.

What you can't get is always the best. What is lost is always the most precious! Time is gone, and there is no regret!

What you don't get is always the best – so, when you get it, you don't want to have it as much as you used to, because you already have it, and you may put them aside, far less fresh and possessive than you had at the beginning. When you already have, or have possessed, maybe you will be satisfied, because you feel that you have it, and there is no need to cherish it, because it belongs to you. But if you lose it, your feelings are so strong, just because you still miss his original beauty.

Only when you lose can you know how important he is, and only when you lose will you know what it means to cherish.

So, maybe we are always chasing those things that are out of reach, those things that are beautiful but may not belong to us, and we don't care about the people who are always by our side, we don't care about what we already have, and we don't know how to be self-sufficient. But you don't know that while you keep looking ahead, you don't pay attention to those that belong to you, and let them slip away from your fingertips in vain. Lose it and want to have it again, but the odds are slim.

It's because we didn't think of the consequences before they happened, or didn't imagine it to that extent. But it doesn't matter, you can talk to him very honestly, admit your mistakes or mistakes, and hope to get his forgiveness. If he doesn't forgive, it means that he is not generous enough, or he still has thoughts about you, so it's okay if such a friend doesn't do it.

Yes, some things or some things some people, when people have it, they don't know how to cherish it, love it, once they lose it, they feel the preciousness of its existence and the value of use, but all regrets are irretrievable.

The cup is lonely, being poured boiling water, the feeling of being hot, so the cup thinks this is the feeling of love, when the water becomes warmer, the cup feels very comfortable, I think this is the feeling of life, the water is cold, the cup is very scared, I think maybe this is the feeling of being afraid of losing, the water becomes cold again, the feeling of the cup is also very uncomfortable, I don't want to have a tasteless feeling, so I want to pour the water out、、、 the water is finally poured out, at this time the cup feels very comfortable, but it is also poured to the ground at the same time, Broken into pieces, the cup found that on every fragment, there will be traces of water, it knows that it still loves water in its heart, it wants to love water again but it is impossible, is it only lost will know how to cherish? Only when everything has passed does you know the happiness of the past? The facts have warned us to cherish what we have now, and not to regret it until we lose it, but it's too late.

Reality is always cruel, it doesn't give us that chance, some things are missed and won't come back.