What are the ways of getting along with husbands and wives in ancient times?

Introducing you to these four pairs, I hope it can help you.

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Jiang Ziya and Ma's: According to legend, Jiang Ziya has been in the middle of the family since he was born, and has been relying on people to get by, until he is 72 years old and has not married. The friends who helped Jiang Ziya all the year round told him a family affair, so Jiang Ziya married the 68-year-old Ma.

However, after marriage, the two did not get along and often quarreled. Ma always complained that Jiang Ziya was unproductive, and he was even more disgusted to see him go out fishing with a hookless fishing rod every day. Because he couldn't bear the poverty life after marriage, Ma finally abandoned Jiang Ziya and remarried.

Later, Jiang Ziya assisted King Wu of Zhou to become the emperor, and you became the minister of state, and the Ma family came back to him. Jiang Ziya didn't say anything, just poured a basin of water on the ground, telling the truth that it was difficult to collect the water, and Ma was also remorseful, and she could only blame her for not having a vision.

2.Liu Bang and Lu Pheasant: Liu Bang was just a small Surabaya pavilion chief at first, shy and embarrassed, but his brain was very flexible.

When Duke Lu celebrated his birthday, Liu Bang also rushed to celebrate his birthday, but because he had no money to buy gifts, he could only report a fake gift list and mix in. The matter was revealed, and Lu Gong originally wanted to see which scoundrel dared to do such a thing, but he and Liu Bang hit it off at first sight. This time, Liu Bang not only ate a big meal for nothing, but Lu Gong also ignored his wife's obstruction, and insisted on marrying his daughter Lu Pheasant to Liu Bang, who was later famous Lu Hou.

After Liu Bang married the daughter of a rich family, he rose to the top and finally achieved an imperial career. We have to sigh that Liu Bang's father-in-law, Lu Gonghui, has a good eye!

3 Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun: Sima Xiangru was originally a talented but depressed poor scholar. Once he went to the rich Zhuo Wangsun's house for a banquet, Zhuo Wangsun had a daughter named Zhuo Wenjun, Sima Xiangru won the heart of the "first beauty in Bashu" with a song "Phoenix Seeking Phoenix".

4 Zhu Yuanzhang and Ma Xiuying: Zhu Yuanzhang was poor since he was a child, his parents died of the plague, he was lonely, and he was forced to enter the temple as a small novice at a young age, and later left his hometown and traveled all over the world. When Zhu Yuanzhang was 25 years old, he joined the Red Turban Army led by Guo Zixing.

Because of his repeated miraculous achievements, Guo Zixing married his adopted daughter Ma Xiuying to him. After Guo Zixing's death, Zhu Yuanzhang became the leader of the rebel army, and later he led the army to overthrow the rule of the Yuan Dynasty and establish the Ming Dynasty. His virtuous wife, Ma, is known as the "Queen of Bigfoot", who was born in troubled times, has courage and knowledge, and does her best to help her husband achieve great things in difficult situations.

After the mother of the world, she never forgot the sufferings of the people, and often used her words and deeds to persuade Zhu Yuanzhang. Zhu Yuanzhang once said that "there is a good wife in the family, and the good face of the Jewish country".

In the life of husband and wife, we must learn to be considerate of each other, tolerate each other, do not blame each other, have something to say, put aside complaints, and find ways to solve problems.

This will allow you to take care of things without hurting others or ruining your intimate relationship.

How rare is a man who doesn't blame you in trouble, knows how to appease your emotions, and is willing to take the mess on himself. Similarly, if your girlfriend is gentle and generous, she will never complain and blame you when she encounters difficulties and troubles, but knows how to soothe the emotions of both parties and actively solve problems with you.

A good-looking appearance will pass by, and no amount of money will be spent, but a partner with a broad pattern and a generous heart will make you feel sweet and warm for the rest of your life.

Everyone will have flaws, but the people who love you will tolerate your imperfections. He thinks it's cute when you make a little mistake, and he won't hold on to your little shortcomings, and when he causes him a little trouble, he also pampered and said: "Eh, there's really nothing I can do about you."

Even when they quarrel, he is reasonable, and he is not willing to murder you domineeringly, but just gently takes your hand and reasones with you.

Of course, tolerance is a two-way street, you can't ask the other party to unconditionally tolerate your vexatiousness, but you do whatever you want.

You can't ask the other party to be virtuous and patronize the mother and son of the family, but you smoke and drink like an uncle.

If you really want to manage your relationship well, don't be so mean to your partner, after all, after walking out of the house every day, the world you have to face is barren and cruel.

When you go home, you can be comforted by warmth, you can be warmly embraced, and you can draw strength from each other, and the hardships of life will be much lighter.

Husbands and wives work hard and struggle to live their lives well and nurture their children to thrive.

1. Get along with each other honestly Love is a kind of force that makes people work hard, and the husband and wife are first of all a kind of harmony between the thoughts and feelings of both parties, and it is a kind of mutual compensation in psychological activities, so that both parties can produce a warm and coordinated healthy psychology. Therefore, it is more pleasing for husbands and wives to be honest with each other, to respect and love each other, and to take care of each other than to give gifts. 2. Communicate frequently Husbands and wives should often sit down to exchange opinions, communicate ideas, and pour out the joys and hardships in their hearts.

Especially in times of adversity, what you need most is the comfort of your loved ones. A word of sympathy and an encouraging look will reduce the psychological pressure of the other party, enhance the confidence and strength to overcome difficulties, and truly see the truth in the midst of adversity. 3. Respect each other's personality traits A couple, even if they are childhood sweethearts, still have their own personality traits.

Some husbands are active and have been wandering outside for many years, and they can't stay at home. And the wife is quiet and has a narrow social surface, and hopes that her husband will be at home with her all day long. Every time the husband returns, the wife is unhappy, and sometimes she is a little petty, and if the husband can't stand it, there may be a quarrel.

An empathetic wife or husband should respect the personality of the other person, do not impose her will on the other person, and reserve a certain amount of freedom for the other person to allow the other person to have their own social circle. In this way, marriage is not a kind of confinement, but not only to give full play to their individual characteristics, but also to be a warm home for mutual attachment. 4. Learn to be patient Husbands and wives must learn to be patient, Chekov said

The most important thing in married life is patience. "When the other person loses his temper or sends a provocative signal, it is best to take a patient and avoid the feast, or put yourself in the position of understanding the cause to help relief, rather than being influenced by the other person's emotions and putting yourself in a bad emotional state. 5. Take the initiative to undertake housework After getting married, there are major matters that need to be negotiated together, but more often are the daily chores of firewood, rice, oil and salt.

The equal interaction between husband and wife is manifested in the joint sharing of housework, and taking the initiative to undertake a part of the housework is a concrete manifestation of the husband's love for his wife and the wife's consideration for her husband. If you need the other person's help, it's best to replace the commanding "you do it" with a friendly "help". 6. Influence the other party Use your own warmth to make the other party get probation.

For example, on a rainy day, the husband takes the initiative to take an umbrella to meet his wife at the station; The husband reads or writes at night under the lamp, and the wife quietly brings a cup of hot tea and hot milk. This kind of practice of enhancing feelings often makes the other party resentful.