Splendid Stars describes the contradictions in ancient family education, how to correctly resolve

The costume drama "Splendid Stars" starring Wu Lei and Zhao Lusi is on the air, in addition to telling the love story between Cheng Shaoshang played by Zhao Lusi and Ling Budo played by Wu Lei, it also involves family affection, friendship, etc. For example, in Xinghan Splendid, the contradiction of ancient family education is depicted, Cheng Shaoshang has lacked the company of his mother since he was a child, and when he grew up, he had many contradictions because his values were different from his mother, and there was an obvious mother-daughter conflict in this drama. In this drama, the way to resolve the conflict between mother and daughter is that when there is a conflict between Cheng Shaoshang and his mother, he will resolve it through communication, and the mother also realizes words and deeds in the process.

Although the background of the drama is ancient China, some of the concepts it embodies can be used for reference even in modern and contemporary society, such as the perspective of family education. This drama makes people see the importance of family education, to learn to communicate with children, to make time to accompany children's growth, children's growth is not only school education, but also family education, and the impact of family education on students is more lifelong.

When children enter adolescence, they will become rebellious and feel that some of their parents' views are different from their own, and then they will have conflicts. At this time, if parents only impose their own views on their children, it will not only aggravate the child's rebellious psychology, but also destroy the parent-child relationship. What parents should do is to regulate their own words and deeds, so that children can realize the correctness of their parents' views, so as to change their behavior.

One of the obvious characteristics of Chinese parents is that they habitually belittle their children, which is in fact undesirable. Parents should learn to encourage their children, and children sometimes have conflicts with their parents because they want to get their parents' attention and approval in this way. Therefore, parents should try to create a warm and encouraging family environment for their children.

If you want to resolve the conflict between mother and daughter, the most important thing is to understand the other party and communicate with the other party with a little more tolerance. When you communicate more, you will understand his thoughts and be able to resolve conflicts.

Two people can't be hard-hitting, they should sit down and express their true thoughts, so that both people can realize their mistakes, take a step back, and let the relationship between the two people be eased and harmonious.

You should know how to put yourself in each other's shoes, you should find a suitable time to have a good chat, and you should have the courage to express the truest thoughts in the hearts of the two.

Parents should communicate more with their children when educating their children, should learn to respect their children, and understand their children's inner thoughts, and interact more with orange pants Zen children, especially during the growth period of children, parents must accompany their children, so as to develop a good character for children.

For contemporary family education has brought some enlightenment, for the family education, it should still be carried out according to the characteristics of the children's stool, it should be based on gentle education, not to insult children, and the ruler brigade should also respect the opinions of children.

It can make us understand family education better, it can make us find a suitable education party, it can make us better treat our children, we can change our attitude towards children, and we can treat children more gently.

In the TV series "Splendid Stars", there are a lot of plots that are worth discussing and thinking about, and you can learn a lot of ways to get along with husbands and wives and family education in this TV series. From Cheng Shaoshang's family, it can be seen that the education of parents is very important, if parents do not educate their children very well, their children will be very impolite and educated. This point is also shown in the heroine Cheng Shaoshang, if the parents are very good, the children must learn and carry forward.

If the parents are not behaving well, the child should use this as a warning to change and develop himself. <>

Different families will educate different children, and in the Cheng family, it can be seen that Cheng Shaoshang's cousin is very polite and humble, which meets the requirements for girls in that era. It's completely a lady who is picky, and there is no pickiness in behavior and speech. This is also because my cousin grew up in her uncle's house, and her aunt taught her very well.

And Cheng Shaoshang's mother came back to re-educate Cheng Shaoshang after he grew up, but it was a little too late. At the same time, the methods adopted are also too forceful and do not meet the needs and needs of the child, achieving the opposite result. <>

It can also be seen that family education should analyze specific problems in detail, teach students according to their aptitude, and adopt different educational methods according to the different personalities of each child. At the same time, you can also see the way husband and wife get along in the Cheng family, and they should appreciate and worship each other very much. You can see Cheng Shaoshang's third uncle and third aunt, the two of them are very affectionate and are a fairy couple.

This is also because they both respect each other very much, and they have each other's results in their eyes and hearts. And although her parents have different personalities, they are also very affectionate, and it is also because they have experienced a lot of things and have been in love for a long time. <>

Husbands and wives should be very aware of each other's shortcomings, and at the same time, they should be very recognizable or acceptable to each other. You have to find someone you like with all your heart and eyes in order to get married. Treat marriage very carefully, and husband and wife must learn to tolerate each other and accommodate each other in order to be harmonious.

"Splendid Stars" should be the biggest winner of the whole summer vacation, and the volume and reputation are unbeatable. In addition to the very good-looking emotional line, this drama also contains a lot of ways to get along and family education. For example, educating children needs to be relaxed, do not compare children, leave dignity for children in front of outsiders, and get along with husband and wife need to respect and understand each other.

In the play, Xiao Yuanyi is too strong and causes Shaoshang to rebel, especially when they have been away from home for a long time, the two sides are very strange. At this time, you should establish a connection with each other first, and then you can slowly correct each other's bad habits. Although she is for Shao Shang, she is too authoritarian and independent, which will make the other party feel repulsed.

The same is true in homeschooling,The more authoritarian it is, the more rebellious it may be. Therefore, you must be patient when communicating with children and learn to teach them according to their aptitude, there are different ways to deal with different children, don't use the strongest one, it's your child not a soldier.

always says that other people's children are the best, and this sentence has a very big psychological impact on children. It can be seen from the play that Xiao Yuanyi has always praised Shao Shang, which makes Shaoshang very fragile in his relationship. Never believing that her mother is approved of herself, which also leads to being at a disadvantage in later interactions with others, If the other party treats her a little better, she thinks that the other party is a good person, this is all due to Xiao Yuanyi's wrong teaching, and at the same time, don't scold children in front of outsiders, every child has self-esteem.

There are also many ways for husband and wife to get along in this drama, such as the way Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng's father get along. Although she knew some of Mrs. Cheng's bad habits, she still gave enough face in front of outsiders. The same is true for Ling Budo and Shaoshang, Ling Budo is a general who is used to not eating for lunch, but he meetsShaoshang was willing to compromise and change his life for her.

The same is true of married lifeThere will definitely be a lot of contradictions between two people, and the system will make both parties adapt to each other through continuous running-in.

Therefore, it is not without reason that this drama is successful, in fact, there are still many details in the play, which will be left for everyone to discuss next time.

First of all, two people must respect each other, understand, and solve problems in a timely manner.

First, to take care of each other, second, to think about the whole family, third, to have a sense of responsibility, fourth, to let children learn etiquette, and fifth, to let children feel loved.

From the TV series "Splendid Stars", we see a strict mother's suppressive education of her daughter, and her way of making the family conflict less intensified, makes us have to think about how we get along in the family. Affection is fostered by communication that is beneficial in family relationships, and the importance of communication lies in patience and listening, and the importance of affection lies in love.

1. The importance of family affection is love and trust.

It is not easy to be a family, a family does not speak two words, so in the family relationship, we must unconditionally trust the family members, and learn to love. Only trust and love can make children feel the warmth of their parents, increase the affection between parents and children, and thus promote family harmony. In this TV series, Cheng Shaoshang's mother did not do this, he felt that the child had not been by his side since he was a child, so the child's character was not good, and his mind was not pure, so he treated her education very strictly, and always distrusted her, which led to an estrangement between Cheng Shaoshang and his mother, and a bad relationship between mother and daughter.

2. The importance of communication is listening and patience.

The most taboo thing we are most afraid of when communicating is that the other party is an anxious person, because such a person has no patience to listen to your words, which leads to the communication between the two of you is not on the same channel, so the formation of ineffective communication. Therefore, if we want to have a good communication in a relationship, we must learn to listen to each other's voices and listen patiently. In this TV series, Cheng Shaoshang's mother did not do this, he always subjectively judged his daughter's thoughts, did not listen carefully to his daughter's words, and had no patience with his daughter, which caused her daughter to feel that she cared about others and did not care about herself, so the relationship between mother and daughter became worse and worse.

To sum up, we can know that in the family relationship, no matter whether Hengchang is a parent or a child, he must learn to trust his family, listen patiently, and care for his family members quickly, not to learn the mother's behavior in the play.

"Splendid Stars" illustrates the importance of family affection and communication through family conflicts, and I think there are three points. First of all, family affection and communication can bring parents and children closer. Secondly, family affection and communication will affect the formation of a child's good character.

Also, it can affect a person's perception of the world.

In this drama, it mainly tells about family conflicts, presents the theme of family parenting in the form of costume dramas, and explains the importance of family affection and communication to the audience by resolving mother-daughter conflicts. Personally, I believe that the importance of family affection and communication can be divided into three main aspects.

First of all, family affection and communication can bring parents and children closer. The protagonist Cheng Shaoshang has lacked the company of his parents since he was a child, they feel strange to each other, they don't even understand each other, they misunderstand each other, and it is difficult to achieve the most basic communication. Although they are related by blood, there is no real family affection, because there is no companionship and no communication, and there is a very distant feeling between them.

The relationship between people is so wonderful, family affection is slowly cultivated through time, and if there is no family affection and no communication, the relationship between parents and children will feel like strangers.

Secondly, family affection and communication will affect the formation of a child's good character. It is precisely because of the lack of parental care since he was a child that Cheng Shaoshang has his own survival guidelines, and he must learn to protect himself since he was a child. In such an environment, it is difficult for his personality to achieve the general knowledge required by his mother, so he will form a strong conflict with his mother.

Fundamentally, Cheng Shaoshang is not wrong, it is the environment that has turned him into this. In life, if a child lacks the companionship and care of his parents, then his personality is often more rebellious.

Also, it can affect a person's perception of the world. Cheng Shaoshang felt that his parents didn't like him, so he abandoned him at the beginning, and even if he came back now, he was still so partial to himself. In his opinion, the world is sinister, and only by protecting himself all the time can he live safely.

Including his own parents, he must also be wary, those maternal love that others take for granted, is an expectation and luxury for him. Children who are not accompanied by their parents will also have their worldview affected to some extent.

That's what I think is the importance of family and communication.

Family affection will become deeper and deeper through communication, and family affection and communication are very important.

Empathy. Family affection also needs to be maintained, family members must know how to understand and be tolerant, empathize with the process of the first sale, and be able to fully understand each other, so that the cherry blossoms can be better handed over to Jianqin.