No faith! I m always a little scared! What to do if you don t feel secure

1. Find out what makes you feel insecure, find out what you're afraid of, and then overcome it.

2. Every time you are worried or scared, take a deep breath and close your eyes, try to calm yourself down and adjust your mentality.

3. Learn the spirit of Ah Q, and go to read books and watch the news when you have nothing to do.

4. Learn to increase your confidence.

Try to calm your mind!

Hello, are you a girl, please.

What do you mean by lack of confidence and security?

What blows have you received, what is there to be afraid of, there are so many people on the earth with you.

Go with the flow, believe in fate, what are you afraid of? When you feel that you can't use rational analysis in love, listen to your heart and don't force yourself.

One word thinks: ......Confidence: Let's say you're going to make a million...Don't have faith!

What about ten dollars? Have faith! ......Earn ten dollars and earn another hundred dollars!

Summarize the experience of earning ten dollars last time! 100 dollars are confident! And so on.........Think of Li Ka-shing .........Afraid:

What are you afraid of when you have faith? Don't be afraid! ......A sense of security:

This is what makes you feel insecure! Like men....You're going to be in a relationship with him but you don't feel safe about him....You just feel ......You have to confirm him! You won't feel it when you get to know him!

If he has it, he doesn't...If you have it, you will have a relationship, and if you don't, you will be divided....Because you understand ......Do you understand? ...For example, I feel insecure...Know yourself! Find out why.

to change .........There's nothing that can't be done! You know?

What are you afraid of before you die!!

Some people have inexplicable palpitations and feel very frightened, which is actually caused by excessive stress. At this time of year, there are more children in the third year of high school.

So, if you find the stressor, it's easy to solve the problem. Face your fears and ask yourself: What are you afraid of? Is it really that scary? Or are you cocooning yourself and mediocrity disturbing yourself?

You may be more sensitive and vulnerable, or even have low self-esteem and are introverted?

It is recommended that you exercise more, jogging is a magic weapon against anxiety and stress. Secondly, do psychological counseling in a timely manner.

Yes, your problem is a psychological problem!

You are always worried about this in your heart, worried about that, afraid that this person will lose, afraid that person will change, and finally choose to leave me, and then use your own psychological hints in life to think cranky (because there is no factual basis), see that he or she has a little bit of attitude towards himself, tone, eyes, and language, just verify according to that psychological suggestion, strengthen that psychological suggestion, and think in my heart that this is really the case, I guessed correctly, he really changed, she is really going to leave me! In fact, this is self-deception and self-torture!!

In life, you are no one (except your friends and your parents), you will not be the center of this world, everyone has his own world behind him! You have your confusion. He doesn't have his troubles yet!

It's normal for others to be in a bad mood and change their behavior! There's no need to be too sensitive, or even suspicious, it doesn't have anything to do with me! The crux of the problem is that you are too self-centered, do not consider the problem from the perspective of others, and regard the good of others to you as a habit.

This is the psychological problem of OCD!

So, question, you should get the idea!

To solve it, it is simple, that is, in the future life, think more from the perspective of others, do not be self-centered, care about others, communicate with others, and do not guess other people's behavior with your own thoughts!! You can ask your close friends for help!!

It is necessary to pay attention to a regular life, and appropriate exercise, especially running, yoga and other exercises every day, can reduce stress, tension, depression and other emotions, and effectively remove the problem of crankiness.

It can be alleviated by the above methods.

I tried asking questions but it didn't work.

Is your surroundings or the atmosphere affected?

I think most people feel insecure because of their family environment, lack of parental care since childhood, develop a relatively autistic mood, coupled with the day after tomorrow because someone or something is hit again, it is easy to lose confidence in life.

LZ is afraid of being alone, but he doesn't dare to trust anyone, this is very contradictory, please give yourself a little confidence, but also give others a little trust, try to slowly accept the friends and family around you who care about you.

Again, the insecurity you mentioned seems to have a lot of most people, curled up, like black and white, innocent smile, go to bed late, cold war, don't like to talk, put your heart in the most tender place in your heart, wear clothes without pockets, you don't know where to put your hands, eat a lot or don't eat: always like the same place: eat always do the same place in the restaurant, miss the old, hug your arms, afraid of the dark, I have these, I believe many people have, don't think so much, others have not lost confidence in you, Don't lose confidence in yourself, you're like most people.

Like to talk to yourself, like to role-play, that's because you're so lonely, what about your friends? Didn't you? If you don't have it, look for it, and if you have it, talk to them more, friends, often the people who can tolerate you the most.

Every child wants to grow up under the care of his mother, but if the mother's parenting style is unscientific, it is not conducive to the formation of a secure attachment to the child, which will affect the child's life, so the mother's embrace is the warmest and safest, and the mother should pay special attention.

Lively and cheerful. If you are a lively and cheerful person, then you are less likely to be an insecure person, so if you are an introvert, you might as well try to learn to be cheerful, maybe the personality is not so easy to change, you might as well learn to laugh more, laugh more, and be happy.

Be brave to love. If you love, you should love boldly and be truly good to each other. I believe that the other party will feel your sincerity, if you worry about being rejected and hurt all day long and don't love, it is the biggest regret and loss.

Autosuggestion. Always make positive self-suggestions to yourself: for example, I'm happy, I'm in a good mood today, I'm very accomplished, and I'm going to do it well. If you hint too much, you will naturally become confident, so that you don't have to worry about being entangled and entangled, and you won't always hide yourself.

5. Ask for help.

If you feel that you really can't overcome it, you are really insecure, but you have tried autosuggestion and self-change but you still don't know the bottom of your heart, you might as well try it with a psychological counselor, or a professional will make you feel much more comfortable and no longer entangled.

Find a job that you love and have confidence in yourself.

You know your problems very well, and your problems are the problems of many people.

Do you know why your parents do this to you? Because they are also insecure, they must turn you into a cowardly and obedient child, such a child will obediently not leave them and listen to their commands, which is a completely insecure relationship. So insecurity is not only you, most people in this society are like this.

Now that you know the reason, you have to break free from it. You see, in today's society, almost all people can't trust each other, that is, we all live in an environment where we blame each other and have no love. These are what you call the cause of insecurity.

The more a person seeks security, the more cowardly he will live, and he will be afraid of danger or harm, but this is also an opportunity to hinder the upward improvement of our lives, and we cannot open up our lives more, which is also the problem you encounter today.

Now that you know what the problem is, you have to take a brave step. Don't hide in the dark, interact with others and trust each other, rest assured that others will not hurt you, only you will hurt you.

The more you interact with others, the more you will find a sense of security. It turns out that the acquisition of a sense of security is in that complete trust, and that experience is incomparably beautiful.

Try it, you won't have anything to lose, but you'll get a lot of friendships.

Care more about the people around you, and what you give out is your own. Finding a reliable man to fall in love with is not a problem.

Hello, generally speaking, this is a psychological problem, and the cause may be related to the environment in daily life and one's own personality and behavioral factors. It is necessary to pay attention to maintaining a good attitude and self-regulation and inhibition. If the symptoms are severe and cannot be relieved by self-regulation, it is advisable to consult a psychologist in person.

Belong to the psychological shadow, participate in some activities organized by the school; Don't get old and think about the past.

Since you are at ease in learning, you can enhance your own quality while learning, where there is no grass in the world, why bother with a green onion! I wish you all the best if you find yourself soon! Happiness always belongs to the prepared strongman!

Now the social pressure is high, everyone is talking about the problem of security, everyone is actually insecure, in fact, is not confident, to build their own self-confidence, if you do not correct the mentality in time, it is really to be included in the mental disorder, there is a borderline personality disorder, now people's common psychological disorders, lack of security, loneliness will be depressed,,, mentality to adjust themselves.

Nothing is impossible.,Be cheerful yourself.,Look for a boy who really loves you.,A boy who can really be responsible.。。 You'll be a lot happier, but first you have to be happy. Tell yourself every day, "I will definitely find the person who loves me the most in my life!!

In the later years of Jordan's career, he admitted that he was insecure when he was a child, because he had attractive ears and a receding hairline, and no one loved him, so he could only protect himself by laughing at objects with dance partners with his friends; After arriving in college and becoming a nationally recognized basketball player, he soared to the sky, and since then, he has worked hard to protect his perfect image. In 1991, when his shortcomings were exposed by the book "Jordan's Law", he was furious.

In 1993, he retired from the army tired of being constantly attacked by New York.

Actually, you can see a similar example from most competitive guys. The general journey is as follows:

Insecurity - longing for the comfort and approval of others - working hard - paranoid and competitive - creating a perfect image of yourself - giving back to the heart to give yourself a sense of security.

Of course, this is positive. The negative may also become:

Insecurity—the desire to gain a sense of strength and satisfaction from hurting others—leads to trying to radiate negative emotions towards the world around them.

In fact, Jordan also has this side, of course, compared to his front, a little less noticed).

What I want to say is:

Insecurity is not too bad. Any of your flaws and concerns can be your motivation. Find something you like, and then use the lack of security as a fuel, go for something, give feedback to your heart, and enhance your sense of security - you have the opportunity to do something great in the process.

Finally, the most well-known words:

Mencius said, trapped in the heart, weighed in the worry, and then done. Sign in color, make in sound, and then metaphor. Born in sorrow, and died in peace.

Generally speaking, the strong are full of self-confidence, because the strong are superior to others in some way. Most ordinary people are also full of self-confidence, because ordinary people will have a Q mentality, always thinking that they are superior to others in some aspects. It is precisely people who have no self-confidence who feel that they are inferior to others in everything, and are afraid of being ridiculed by others, resulting in an inferiority complex, which makes them lack self-confidence and a sense of security.

Most of the time, people with such a personality are generally more extreme, and because they are often based on such self-psychological suggestion, once they break out, they may be extreme.

In fact, you don't have to be afraid, it's a normal psychological situation!

Face the mirror every morning and do autosuggestion, telling yourself in the mirror, "I'm going to do well today, I'm going to be good today, I'm going to make a new friend today," and so on.

Slowly find your self-confidence!

Get strong on your own, or find a reliable boyfriend.

If you don't feel secure, you can only give up.

1；"Sense of security" is a premonition of possible physical or psychological danger or risk, as well as an individual's sense of strength or powerlessness in coping with things, which is mainly manifested as a sense of certainty and control. The specific manifestation of the lack of security requirements is the "lack of security".

2；Things that can make people feel secure are often easy to lose, such as money, youth and face, position, etc., when we have these, we have a sense of security, but these are unstable. You are insecure because you don't believe in yourself at all.

3；Your personality is not independent enough, you live in a self-constructed world, and even you have been living in the past, living in childhood trauma. People who don't have a sense of security spend their whole lives pursuing a sense of security, racing against time and never stopping.

4；Everyone's sense of security is different, which is also a very normal situation. Those who spend tens of thousands of Chinese suspicious people every month will definitely feel that the savings of three or four hundred thousand yuan have no sense of security at all, after all, it will not take long to spend it. However, for people who spend less than 1,000 yuan per month, a deposit of three or four hundred thousand yuan can indeed provide a considerable sense of security.