How to be generous and patient?

Hello, when I was 21 years old, like you, I had a very bad temper, I would lose my temper because of a little thing, and I would stay up all night because of someone else's words, and I didn't like people to take care of me,。。 It's a lot, but, when I was 26 years old, when I was working in Singapore, a colleague said that she was going to celebrate her birthday and invite colleagues from the company to celebrate, and the day after tomorrow, no one had an invitation, only I didn't, because she didn't like me, because of that incident, I quit because I couldn't work with them, I thought that my colleagues who respected me all the way, it turned out that they hated me so much, I was so sad, I didn't have any appetite for that thing for most of the year. After returning to China, I didn't look for another job, I went to several countries, saw the customs, made a lot of friends, 2 years later, I came back, my family said that I was mature, grew up, and people were beautiful, haha.

I asked myself, have I changed? I was changed, as if the whole person had changed to a cataract, not only broadened my horizons, but I also.

I learned to open my heart to tolerate, understand, and forgive others, you are still young, and there is still a long way to go, learn. A little more understanding, a little more tolerance, more look at the good of others, think about the strengths of others, you will find, "She (he) is okay, not very bad" Naturally she (he) will also sense, you are okay, is a friend who can make friends...

The sea is inclusive, and tolerance is great!

There is no patience in doing things, which almost everyone will have a little bit of, but it depends on what kind of thing it is;

Most of the reasons for impatience are that you are not very interested in what you do, maybe you don't want to do it at all, then you have to find the kind of fun you want in it, and slowly you will find that you are more and more interested in it, so that you have the patience to finish it;

Another reason may be that doing the same thing every day will make you feel very annoying and have no patience to do it again, and often you will feel bored and bored after doing it for a while. Actually, it's not like this, when you do the same thing every day, have you found that you do it in a different mood every day, maybe you were very happy yesterday, but today you are in a bad mood, so you don't want to do it very annoying. At this time, you have to adjust your mood, be happy to do everything, think about doing this thing to bring you all the happiness, so that you will be in a good mood to do what you want to do, and you will finish it with your heart, as long as the first day is like this, there will be a second day, the third day, then, congratulations on your success.

Persistence, when you don't want to do it, do it to the end, and complete what the opinion can't do.

A process of perseverance to make yourself more resilient.

I'm also a little, my personality is a bit extreme, so I don't have much patience to do things, insist on exercising and reading books to cultivate my perseverance, and cultivate a positive psychological state, and look in a good direction for everything.

Don't worry about it, don't be confused about big things. It's not too principled, it's not something to take seriously. Magnanimity is a state of mind, which can be seen openly, seen through, and is a kind of cultivation.

It's an experience. Be generous, think about what you would do if you were him. Think of yourself as an outsider looking at things.

You don't care about the gains and losses, just do it!

Try not doing anything for a few months except eating and sleeping.

Then you have patience.

There is a difference between reasonableness and generosity.

If we are clear about the differences, we can distinguish between various mentalities, and we can grasp the essence of behaviors through the behavior of others, so that we will not just talk about things and look at problems from the surface. Instead, if we analyze the problem from the whole process of the occurrence of the event, we will find the reasons for the occurrence of (behavior) things, so that the starting point of solving the problem is not the thing (behavior) itself, but to solve the problem from the cause of the behavior, and to solve the problem from the cause of the thing (behavior), which is manifested in generosity and magnanimity. As mentioned above, archaeologists are very angry when they see farmers using bamboo slips to burn stoves, and if they investigate and analyze the reasons for the occurrence of events (behaviors), they know that the peasants are based on his original knowledge, through the inevitable behavior of the bamboo slips, accusing him, scolding him is useless, but should patiently explain to him.

And then we should think of the people who know this knowledge, why don't we spread it to them early?

To distinguish between the mentalities of various people, and to analyze problems from the aspect of the generation of behavioral motivations is to understand others. Only by understanding others can we handle our personal relations well and conform to the correct code of conduct.

The five mentality of generosity: In order to make one's behavior show generosity and tolerance, Confucius proposed to work hard from five aspects. These five aspects are: respect, generosity, faithfulness, sensitivity, and benevolence.

Gong: Only do things, there is no presumptuous mentality. Always be strict with yourself, maintain a good mind, not arrogant, not impatient or angry, understand others, treat others with respect first, so that you will inevitably get the respect of others. As the old proverb goes: If you respect me for a foot, I respect you for a foot.

Wide: refers to the absence of a narrow mentality. A gentleman is thoughtful but not comparable, with a public heart, and can look at problems comprehensively, so as to be clear and reasonable, and his behavior naturally shows a quality of treating people leniently.

In particular, when dealing with the relationship of interests, it is manifested as magnanimity and taking advantage of profits. The response to this kind of behavior is, of course, the reputation of being kind to others and fighting for righteousness over wealth.

Letter: refers to the absence of a deceitful mindset. Be an honest person and do honest things. According to the analysis of the mentality of others, grasp the laws of others' behavior, and trust others. It is this kind of trust that enables others to do things without suspicion and single-mindedly, so that they can do the task well.

Min: It refers to the mentality of not slacking off. Life is less than 100 years old, hard-working, always thinking about doing more for yourself. Its environmental impact is naturally to drive others to be industrious, and the result is that they are meritorious, brave, and able to lead thousands of troops to charge into battle.

This kind of benefit is not to benefit others with money, but to benefit others with wisdom, and there is no need to be harsh on others, and others will automatically benefit.

In short: if there is a difference between reason and reason, you can be generous and tolerant, and you can make your own behavior conform to the norms of respect, generosity, trust, sensitivity, and benevolence. If we act according to this norm, we will receive a response that is respectful and sensitive, lenient and humane, trustworthy and responsible, sensitive and meritorious, and benevolent and moving.

Respect, generosity, faith, sensitivity, and favor are in the practice of unspoken teaching, and the respect, people (all), merit, and movement obtained are the rule of inaction.

This has a lot to do with the family environment and the social environment.

You can realize that the instructions have done a good job, hehe.

Academics have specializations. Everyone has something they are good at, so don't push for it. Some things are about quality, not speed.

Do things in an organized way, what to do first, and what to do later. After a long time, it has become a habit, and it will be fast, see more and think more about the same thing why others will do it faster than themselves, the reason is in **, find it and there will be improvement.

Everyone has their own characteristics.

And the effect will naturally be different.

If you want to do better than others, it's just an analogy.

As long as you use your own enthusiasm and confidence, you will most likely succeed in making good use of the limited conditions.

Are you dumber than others? Don't you have the heart of others?

If you are not stupid and do it with your heart, and you still can't do it well, it means that you are not suitable for this. Change what you're good at.

If you do it for a long time, it will definitely shorten the time.

It will take a long time to get this done.

You should do it sooner.

I don't believe much in talent.

Maybe there is.

But practice makes perfect.

Say that IQ is not as good as people, do you believe it?

There is an article in junior high school that seems to be called "overall planning method", go and see if you can realize something.

The reason for this is that there is no plan for the process of doing things because of the fear that the outcome is unknown.

Patience, the most effective way is:

1. Forward-looking results: Before doing things, after analysis, see what the results of this thing look like.

2. Planning process: After thinking about the results, how many steps and how long will it take to complete the planning process?

3. Prescribed margin: how much time will be advanced to complete the thing if it goes well, and how long it will be delayed if it doesn't go well.

After careful planning like this, and even during the planning process, your patience has already begun to develop. After three or two things, you'll be patient!

Before doing something, cultivate your interest in it, and try to choose what you like to do.

Since you don't have stamina, then stand up and do what you have to do. Find something you have the stamina to accomplish! Why can't you let go of that thing?