Love and materialism, do you think that love needs a material basis?

First love is not what love is. In addition, if you really want to get to know someone and marry them, it is best to live together for a period of time before you can understand it (don't say I'm nervous, it's normal to live together now).

Another point is that material things are the basis for good feelings. Good material helps in the development of feelings. You don't want to work hard for things like firewood, rice, oil, and salt in the future, so that your feelings become no communication, right?

Although parents nowadays are very realistic. But we also need to see the meaning of the practical side. I'm not making you materialistic.

If you really want to be together, you have to think about everything that goes after. Have a foresight and bear for the future. Otherwise, it will only make you uncomfortable with him and your families on both sides.

Do things and make decisions that must be done with thoughtful thought.

In addition, my ex-girlfriend, the one I love the most, is having a similar problem as yours. It's just that her family is very rich. Her father had always objected to us being together and later forced her to get married.

At first, I was sad and disgusted with his father's materialism. But I can now understand that the right people are necessary.

A good material base, or the potential for development, these are necessary.

Think it through for yourself.

I don't think you can see whether you like him or love for a long time, I think your parents are still good for you, after all, there is a response to the close, and I can't help you if I want to help you when I am far away, for example, he deceived you and sold what you can do, you can't do anything, you can only be at the mercy of others.

Why does he keep asking you to go to him, why can't he accommodate you to come to your city, it is understandable that his parents do not agree, but you have to think for yourself. Although it is difficult to choose, you can see whether you love him or like to be happy with him, if it is the latter, forget it, have you asked him, does he have a very positive version of you.

Judging from your description, the reason why you have a relationship is important is because this is your first love, but you ask yourself, can you give up what you have now for him or force yourself to accept what you don't like, or you calm down and ask yourself, is he worth it? Think about it, what if you make a sacrifice and the result is? Are you really happy, can he be good to you for the rest of your life?

Don't worry about getting married, it's a lifelong thing. Don't make irrational decisions just because it's your first love, and try to coordinate if you think he's worth it.

Parents all over the world are good for themselves. It's a hard question because you're meeting someone you really love. You can discuss with him whether you can really buy a house in Zhengzhou, even if you have to pay some money yourself.

In fact, material things are very important in real life. Let's just say that like you, he can bring you happiness spiritually, but materially? Maybe it's not satisfying.

And after all, it is still a life after being married, and the days are very realistic and practical.

Marx told us that the material base determines the superstructure. The same sentence is also very appropriate for emotional use, we all know that the reason why the ugly duckling in the fairy tale becomes a white swan is because it is originally a child of a swan; The reason why Cinderella was able to attend the ball and leave the crystal slipper to the prince was because her father was a nobleman.

The love in the fairy tale is also based on sufficient material conditions before it can be carried out, such a straightforwardness, there may be many people who say that such words are too utilitarian, but the reality is like this, from love to marriage. When two people in love are dating, it is impossible to be on the road forever, you always have to consume; If you enter into marriage, the house, car, and gift money need to be solved. Marriage is not just enough affection to be happy.

I've seen too many relationships myself, and the relationship is very good, but in the end, it can't resist the relationship between the rich and the poor that ends without a problem. If you can't do it, you can't even do it. Once the relationship is worn out, then such a relationship will only end after all, just the length of time.

To sum up, marriage or choose material door-to-door pairs better, longer, spiritual aspects can be slowly reconciled in the future, after all, marriage can not live only by thought, that is the whole day of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea trivialities, spiritual communication is only a prerequisite, material conditions are the basis for whether this relationship can be managed!