Relying on yourself is the greatest confidence, can you talk about it?

When did you become a real adult? Is it to decide to rely on yourself for the rest of your life and have the courage to take on your own responsibilities? Ideologically and spiritually, I want to find dependence in the outside world at this time, people will show a state, called the outside strong in the middle, the mouth flaunts their independence and is strong, in fact, the heart is very fragile people will be in a state of inconsistency between words and deeds, it is easy to live as a hedgehog, the heart is obviously very bitter, but to look hum on the face, old lady, it doesn't matter.

In the past few years, this mentality of relying entirely on my own has brought great changes to my life. Share a few points.

First, build real self-confidence. The establishment of self-confidence must be based on the acceptance of all of yourself, which has nothing to do with whether you are in good shape, whether your original family has money, whether you have a high education, etc. If your self-confidence needs these supports, it's not really self-confidence.

A change in conditions can shatter these superficial self-confidence in an instant. The reason for many negative emotions is the rejection and denial of objective facts. This part of the content is mentioned in the book Zhuangzi, and if you are interested, you can learn it yourself.

True self-confidence is the acceptance and recognition of oneself from the inside out. Powerful people like to associate with confident people, because when you interact with those who are not confident, you have to take care of these people's fragile self-confidence all the time, and when you are confident, the circle will change.

Second, the power of words and deeds. A person who can't truly express his inner self is weak and powerless in behavior, afraid that he will say something wrong, afraid that he will do something inappropriately, think too much and do less. When a person is confident, words and deeds are combined, the ability to act will be super strong, and he will do whatever he wants.

So in the past few years, my friends around me will feel that I am trying new things every year or two, and I also obviously feel that I am more sensitive to the trend of social development, and I can see more opportunities.

Third, when everything is used by me, when my heart is weak, I will think about who will give me a chance and who will lead me. When I'm strong inside, I'm thinking about what exactly I want? What are the conditions and resources needed to make this happen?

What do I have now, and what do I lack? In short, everything around you can be used for you and can be turned into a resource to help you succeed.

In real life, we will inevitably encounter difficulties and expect someone to help us, but the reality is that we are useless, and even if someone comes to help you, you may not be able to seize the opportunity. Opportunity, rely on your own to fight, fate, rely on your own grasp, only down-to-earth to improve yourself, with your own strength to become strong, than relying on anyone else. It is better to seek others than to seek yourself, and relying on yourself in everything is the greatest confidence.

I agree with this sentence, only when we get what we want through our own efforts, the happiness at that time is very fulfilling, and we can also be more confident, more confident, and very fulfilling, such a life is very meaningful and worthwhile.

For adults, the greatest confidence should be themselves, and what they want should be fought for and worked hard by themselves, not relying on others to achieve it.

No matter who you rely on, it is unreliable, only by really relying on yourself can you bring yourself a lot of security, only by yourself will not have accidents, and only by yourself will make your life particularly stable and will not be affected in any way.

There is a sentence in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" that says:

The road has to be walked step by step, and it is hard to stutter by yourself, cramps and peel the skin to be reborn, and there is no shortcut. ”

In this life, people rely on people, and people will leave at any time; Relying on feelings, feelings may change; Only by relying on oneself can we become stronger and stronger.

I remember a little story about a young man who crossed the shore by boat and accidentally fell into the water on the way.

At this time, a boat passed by and asked if he needed help.

But he said, "No, God will come to his rescue."

After a while, another boat passed by, and the young man refused to be rescued for the same reason.

Later, when the young man was drowned and went to heaven, he immediately ran to God and asked, "God, why didn't you come and save me?" ”

God replied hatefully, "I have already sent two ships to save you, fool!" ”

In life, we will inevitably be like this, when we encounter difficulties, we expect someone to help us.

However, the reality is that you are useless, and even if someone comes to help you, you may not be able to seize the opportunity.

I like a passage that Wang Guozhen said: "Opportunity, rely on yourself to fight, fate, rely on yourself to grasp; Life is your own drawing board, why rely on others to color? ”

Down-to-earth to improve yourself and become strong with your own strength, stronger than relying on anyone else. It is better to seek others than to seek yourself, and relying on yourself in everything is the greatest confidence.