Why do you sometimes seem unconfident, and what advice do you have?

I think it is likely that sometimes you lack a certain amount of self-confidence, most of them seem to have no confidence, because they are very inferior, and they do not believe in their own abilities, at this time, you need to give yourself this encouragement, to continuously improve your ability, can help you be more confident.

Because I am very inferior, I feel that I am not very good, not very good, have no advantages and no strengths, so I have no confidence; Improve yourself, make yourself better and better, better and better, enrich yourself, and cheer yourself up, so that you can make yourself very confident.

Most of the lack of confidence is because there is no capital, that is, there is no money, if you have the ability, you can make money, you have most of the confidence, and it may be a loss, so there is no confidence.

I've always wanted to figure out this question, why am I always unsure?

It's been the end of the third year since I graduated, but standing on the podium or communicating with parents, I still can't help but feel unconfident, I always feel that I am not capable enough, not bold enough, not firm enough to stand firm, do things forward, make decisions timidly, afraid that my decision is wrong, thus offending the anger ......of the publicI don't like myself like this!

On the one hand, there is modesty, but excessive modesty becomes a fact, and I subconsciously hypnotize myself: there is indeed some lack of confidence! On the other hand, it is to choose the wrong comparison object and increase the pressure on yourself!

Chinese culture pays attention to the golden mean, people can not be complacent, to be modest, we have received since childhood is "modesty makes people progress, pride makes people backward" education, but "correct assessment of oneself, know oneself" self-confidence education, for the late 80s generation is very scarce, appreciation education, love education is also in recent years popular on campus. When we were children, we admired scores, believed in talents under the stick, and envied you to see how you are like this, who is that. Dream of becoming the child of someone else's family in everyone's mouth!

But for a long time, such comparisons, such mentions, and such "modesty" have failed us to learn to understand ourselves correctly, or we lack the concept of facing ourselves squarely and believing in ourselves. Once we get out of the mountain village and enter the big city, we will be confused and have no confidence. We can't see the advantages of being "hardworking, self-reliant, able to do laundry, and can cook", and when we are praised for being so white and serious, we feel that we must not have done a good job, or that we are not smart enough, and ......Subconsciously denying ourselves for a long time makes us only see the good of others and not see the good of ourselves, so we often have no confidence.

In addition, when we were children, we were exposed to "other people's children", and when we grew up, we also habitually put our eyes on others, looking at the results of other classes, looking at the group messages sent by other teachers, and looking at the martial arts of other teachers. In such a comparison, we are even less confident and less confident!

In fact, if we calm down, we will find that such comparisons are not equal, and we have picked the wrong comparison! The excellent results we have seen, the decisiveness we have seen, and the various martial arts we have seen, those teachers have all been trained by "experienced in a hundred battles", and they have already encountered the problems we have encountered. Unequal comparisons are just adding to your own troubles!

So, my dear, when we lack confidence, when we are beating our chests again, please calm down, think about whether you are too modest, do not know yourself correctly, and think about whether you have picked the wrong comparison! Of course, lifelong learning is the best way to enhance self-confidence and always maintain confidence!