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It is okay for a child to have any surname, but according to traditional Chinese culture, it is generally followed by the father's surname.

I think if your husband loves you very much, he will also agree to let the child take your surname, because after all, there is already a child with your husband's surname.

Of course not, many people are influenced by traditional concepts, so children must follow their father's surname, so even after the second child, our children will not follow their mother.

In fact, different people will have different practices, just like my husband, he feels that it doesn't matter, so my second child is my surname.

In most second-child families, the husband will be willing to let the child go with the mother, after all, the wife has paid a lot for the family, and this can also enhance the relationship between the two people.

Of course it will, my husband will let the second child take my surname, but I don't think it's good to have two children and two surnames, let them all follow their husband's family!

After 30 years, you will understand how big the difference is between a two-child family and a one-child family? The reason why many people don't want a second child is that the economy does not allow it, and the cost of having an extra child will be very large, and it will be very hard for themselves. In fact, this difference in the degree of hardship is not the main difference between the two families, the main difference will be infinitely magnified after 30 years, and this difference is divided into the difference between parents and children.

1. The difference between parents

30 years later, the current parents are almost 60 years old at that time, and even some parents who get married and have children late are nearly 70 years old. As they get older, these parents are not as healthy as they used to be, and they often suffer from some diseases. Moreover, the elderly at this stage have basically completed the marriage of their children, and have retired to care for their old age at home.

Because of physical reasons, most elderly people in this age group need to be cared for. Even if they don't need to be taken care of, the elderly at this age still have a strong sense of loneliness, and they need someone to come and talk to them from time to time.

At this time, the children are already in their 30s, most of them are married and have children, and they all have their own small families. Some children, for various reasons, do not stay in the same city with their parents, and some children even stay thousands of miles away, at this time, even if the children are very filial, taking care of the elderly is more than enough but not enough. At this time, it shows the advantage of having more children, even if one child is not around and the other child is around, the second-child family can also take care of the elderly, so compared with the single-child family, the probability of the elderly in the second-child family being taken care of and accompanied in their later years will be higher.

2. The difference between children

As mentioned above, parents need their children to take care of them when they are old, and this care costs money and time. Sometimes, a parent's illness may cost tens of thousands of medical expenses, and at the same time, you need to take care of it for a month or two. If it is a one-child family, this burden can only be borne by one person, but a two-child family can be shared by two people, who have the money to contribute and the time to take care of their parents.

At the same time, when encountering major decisions, the children of the two-child family can also discuss, while the only child can only make the decision by himself.

The above are the biggest differences between one-child families and two-child families after 30 years, and the differences are still relatively large. Dear friends, what do you think are the differences between them? Welcome to leave a message to add!

It is difficult for a family with one child to raise the elderly, because if there are many children, the pressure can also be shared, and the pressure on the elderly in the two-child family is relatively large for the children to get married and have children.

The difference is also quite large, especially when the two old people are older. I think the most important thing is that children should be filial.

The difference is still very big, if you give birth to a second child, your pension pressure will not be so great, and the children will also take care of each other, you will feel very happy.

Text丨Kapok mother.

Most of the post-80s and post-90s are only children, and there are more only children after the 90s, and many people like to label the post-90s, among which more independent and selfish are the most commonly used labels for the only children of the post-90s.

Now the two-child policy is fully opened, but there is a strange phenomenon that has come out, there are fewer post-80s and post-90s who have a second child, but the post-70s are competing to catch the last train to have a second child, so what is the difference between a one-child and a two-child family?

After ten years, it will become more and more obvious in terms of personality.

Everyone else envies me for having a good sister, my sister is 5 years older than me, my parents go out to work, they will let my sister take me to play, but sometimes my sister will think I am small and don't want to take me, if I cry, my sister will scare me and not let me tell my mother.

Of course, now that I'm older, I'm still very grateful to have a sister, my sister takes care of me too much, but I won't have a second child, my sister is very good, there are always people who compare me with my sister, since I was a child, I want to win my sister, I want to be better, but it's too good to be protected, only I know that I'm very timid, very introverted.

Recently, I'm learning guitar, the guitar teacher is a sunny boy, just admitted to graduate school this year, is studying medicine, the guitar has been learning and practicing since the fifth grade of primary school, the personality is very gentle, and he is very patient in class.

Many people say that only children are spoiled, but in fact, only a small number of them are spoiled, and only children can be very good, and the burden of gall on only children may be heavier.

The advantage of having children is that there are no brothers and sisters to "grab" resources, all the resources in the family are their own, they will enjoy better treatment when they are young, they can also receive a better education, and they will become better, but on the contrary, the responsibility on the shoulders of the only child will be heavier when they grow up, and they can only work hard to take care of the two old people.

To put it bluntly, in fact, one-child and two-child families have their own benefits, and the successful experience of education cannot be replicated, and second-child families can also cultivate excellent children, such as Chen Meiling's three sons all went to Stanford University, and only children also have excellent ones, such as this year's Guangxi Provincial College Entrance Examination champion.

Too many people will argue about the difference between an only child and a two-child family, in fact, no matter what kind of family, as long as the parents are willing to work hard, then the child will become excellent in the future, and may not be very successful, but at least have the ability to live independently, and will become a responsible child.

What do you think about the second child?

It depends on the family situation, because the family situation is not good, and the second child is not able to raise it.

Of course, I won't be envious, because the burden on the family of two children is relatively heavy, and I also need to bear all the tuition fees and living expenses of the two children.

Of course it will, there must be a brother and sister in this activity, and the other party can help if you encounter any problems, and you will definitely envy such a family, and it feels very lively.

In the future, I will definitely envy those families with two children, but in fact, families with only one child will also have certain benefits.

Won't be envious. I am an only child, and I don't envy families with two children because I feel that the overall quality of life is very poor.

The economic cost of a one-child and two-child home is very different and largeI know that in today's surging Japanese goods, the money is too useless, and it has not been used yet, so it will be over. In addition, the current standard of living is relatively high, not like before, you can eat a full meal, today's children are stronger, see other people's children have some items, they also want to earn it, our children see that many of other people's classmates are what brand of mobile phones, she came back and told us, what about after?

Everyone adults also felt uncomfortable listening to it, "no matter how hard it is, you can't be a poor person's child, no matter how painful it is, you can't be bitter about cultural education", and finally gritted her teeth and bought her a copy, but asked her when to play, so as not to jeopardize her learning and training. But I think this mobile phone also has a certain function, now the second and third grade questions of middle school are not easy for us to do, and we will not teach, now the mobile phone shoots, a shot of the answer to the question is exhaustive, no mobile phone is really impossible, you say a little child is OK, two children need, where to eat.

For the only child, "which home to go back to for the Spring Festival" is very easy to become a contradiction, although the best solution is to receive the parents on both sides together, but there are many inconveniences in the actual operation, and the feasibility analysis is too small. Also in the two-child family, whether it is two daughters, two children, a son and a daughter, brothers and sisters can negotiate, which can not only make the children's small family happy, but also make the whole family happy.

For mom and dad, having a second child is a very typical "bitter and sweet" child happiness, that is, your greatest happiness may be at the beginning, a new baby in the family, the boss will have some disappointment in his heart, but in the process of growing up, the child's heart-to-heart talk is getting happier and happier because of the company of brothers and sisters, they will definitely thank you, but you will also be grateful for the choice at that timeLess GuWhen the health of the parents gradually declines, and the child is still so long in the future, you can have a dearest brother and sister with you, you can be more at ease.

The difference is that the atmosphere is relatively different, and single-child families are generally wealthier, but they are prone to spoiling their children. Life in a second-child family may be a bit chaotic, but it will be more peaceful. Parents can choose a family with two children.

Generally, single-child families are more caring for their children, and even spoil their children excessively. leads to special rebellion of children, but second-child families are generally relatively happy. I think you should choose a two-child family.

Parents in single-child families will give all their love to one child, and parents in second-child families will be partial, and then they will also make their children feel wronged. Parents should choose a one-child family and not let their children be wronged, because it is impossible for everyone to be even.

Different education methods, different behavioral habits, different ability to resist frustration, different later development, and different learning habits; Parents should effectively choose the management model that is suitable for their children according to their own inner needs and education methods.