Why do some husbands and wives share sorrows, but they can t share joys?

Sharing weal and woe is what husband and wife should do! When two people choose to be together, they have to understand the meaning of these four words. Those couples who can't be happy with each other are cherished people who don't understand, and they don't know how to be grateful, that is, people who have nothing to do.

Once a person's desires are triggered, they will never end. Greed is human nature, and I believe that everyone is more or less like that. Some know how to be restrained, to change, to restrict, some have poor self-control ability, weak restraint ability, and when various desires and requirements cannot be satisfied, the personality and temper will be **.

Therefore, some people feel that he (she) has changed? It wasn't like that before......Actually, people haven't changed! It's just that the disguise is peeled off, and the true nature is revealed.

Therefore, couples who can choose to share hardships may not be able to enjoy the beauty together.

Sharing weal and woe is a beautiful vision, and of course there are many such weal and woe, but more of it is just shared weal and woe. Why can we share suffering? In my personal opinion, it is because everyone knows the current situation, only by working together can we get better and better, and in the hard time, everyone knows that the situation is not good, and there is no heart, just bury your head and work hard, all for the future!

Why can't we be together? The economy is good, life is nourishing, everyone has their own intestines, men have their own ideas, women also have their own ideas, and slowly there will be disagreements, disagreements and frictions will become more and more, and contradictions will break out over time! In addition to that, the individual will slowly swell, you will feel that today's achievements are your credit, she will feel that she has made a lot of efforts, and everyone will feel that they have worked hard.

I think it's the old people in the fifties, sixties and seventies! I admire the elders of those days! At that time, there was no food, no clothing, the relationship between husband and wife was still very harmonious, there was a bun to think that there was a large family at home who did not eat, and they were reluctant to eat by themselves, and tried their best to do more work outside, earn some wages, and let the family share rations to eat, without too many selfish thoughts, everything was for life, even if every family with a good life later, they were basically accompanied to old age, until now, sometimes when I went out on the road outside, I saw a lot of old grandfathers pushing wheelchairs and sitting on their wives, Or the grandmother pushing the wheelchair to sit with her wife, or even the honor of the two walking together in the park, really envious.

Although it has nothing to do with me, I feel happy. I admire them in my heart and bless them. Those are indeed the same ups and downs for a lifetime.

It is rare to see a man who abandons his wife and children because he is rich. Because their concept is that it is not easy for a daughter-in-law to suffer with herself, and when she is the saddest, her wife has not left, and she is still struggling together, how can he abandon his wife. The current society is different, and there are models like elders, and those are successful people.

If you want to clarify this issue, you can't just talk about the relationship between husband and wife, I think you have to start with the weakness of human nature. Otherwise, it will make us feel that even husband and wife are like this, so who else can we trust in a complicated society! Therefore, I will tear this matter apart, and if you understand, you will naturally understand why this is the case between husband and wife!

The reason why many Chinese can share hardships but not prosperity is because in times of adversity, everyone is equal, has a stable mentality, and does not distinguish between master and subordinate. And once you get rich, the mentality will change, there will always be someone who tries to ride to the other person's neck, whether you let him ride or not, the friendship relationship no longer exists. Therefore, the person who can become a long-term friend must be a person with a sense of equality.

When two people work hard to live a good life, the living conditions are improved through hard work. People are demanding more and more, the level of life is different, and the thinking is not the same. You will find that the beautiful wife used to be ugly, and you will also find that the originally capable and handsome man has become lazy, socializes more, and spends less time with himself.

Slowly, the need for the spirit will become greater and greater, and the contradictions will become more and more, and the happiness index will become lower and lower. Much ado about nothing, this sentence is too true. When people have too much leisure time, they will think about what is wrong, and if they are not satisfied, they will be dissatisfied.

Because when you encounter difficulties, you can feel that you need some old problems with each other, and when your living conditions are good, you don't need each other so much. There will be a lot of quarrels.

Many people have a savior complex, hoping to be needed, and when these are gone, all they see is comparison, picky and disgusting. Slowly, it is difficult to maintain the relationship, and then all kinds of problems arise. There are a few ways to change the initial problems in a relationship.

Come to think of it, there should be many such cases in life. It's that these two people worked very hard when they first started to struggle together, but the conditions were slightly better.

Because in the process of social development and progress, as well as their own achievements and wealth accumulation, they have slowly become more and more complex from the simplicity of consciousness, and from the simplicity of life to slowly becoming more and more colorful...

<>1.Can share the pain but can not be happy, in fact, is hidden in human nature in a malignant gene, not only husband and wife, friends, business partners, it can be said that any kind of cooperative relationship, can be shared but can not be happy ending, such a phenomenon, in fact, unveiled the most real side of human nature. You must know that the spirit of cooperation of human beings is born based on adversity such as danger and disaster, because it is difficult for individuals to survive in such an environment, and only by cooperating with each other and taking care of each other can we move forward hand in hand, whether it is natural disasters.

Or war and plague.

Victory is possible only through mutual cooperation. The same is true for husbands and wives, who, in difficult times, rely on each other to work together, both psychologically and emotionally, as well as practical needs resulting from the realities of their existence.

2.This is because when our quality of life changes, so do everyone's needs and desires. However, if the husband and wife are not able to adapt to such changes and respond and deal with them in a timely manner, their marriage can easily deteriorate slowly.

When people are poor, they feel that the most important thing is to meet their material needs. People in this period are generally more innocent and less ambitious, and couples will work more together to make money. But many people start thinking about other things when they are bittersweet and don't like the people around them.

3.When you're poor, most of your attention is spent on survival. They share a common ideology.

Target. They think in one place and work in the same direction. They are not very materialistic in their pursuit.

When they are rich, their selfish nature is revealed. They have higher spiritual pursuits for each other, and they also have leisure time to look at each other. However, the person in front of you may not be what you want, so you keep expanding the other party's shortcomings, constantly quarreling, just enjoying and comparing.

If they have self-control. No matter what position you are in or what rights you have, please cherish the person around you who is willing to endure hardships with you, and please take more care of this person after you succeed.

The reason why they can't share weal and woe in a couple is because they don't really love each other, and these two people are also selfish, and at all times they first consider personal interests, so if one party has difficulties, they are not willing to help, in such a love life, the relationship between husband and wife is very fragile, and a little wind and waves will destroy the marital relationship.

Most couples can only share the joys and sorrows, mainly for these reasons.

The first reason is human nature! In the face of difficulties or tribulations, it is difficult to bear the pressure alone with the help of external forces, and most of them have no energy to calculate who pays more and who pays less; And when the conditions improve and there is no pressure, there is relatively sufficient time and energy to consider their own efforts and returns, but the positions and standards are different, the calculation results are different, it is easy to disagree, and in the end we cannot share the fruits of victory together!

The second reason, although I have not experienced such a thing, but my friend Ms. Wang has experienced, I and Ms. Wang are very good friends, she used to work in a department store, the family is happy, although life is a little difficult, but her husband loves her very much, and has been with each other for decades, which is enviable for a family. The two started a clothing business, and it was a big success, and the two of them made a lot of money. Later, Ms. Wang's husband began to have women outside, and at first he was a little secretly playing, and then he took it out publicly, and then filed for divorce with his wife, which made Ms. Wang grief-stricken and couldn't accept this fact, we were so loving when we were poor, how could you change if you were rich, and the husband didn't care what you said that divorce was necessary, because she was pregnant with my child, Ms. Wang saw that her husband's heart could not change, so she couldn't bear to go through the divorce procedures.

The third reason, because in the face of great difficulties, the main contradiction between two people is to twist into a rope to solve difficulties, people's potential is great, as the saying goes, there is no unbearable suffering, husband and wife support each other, encourage each other, accompany each other, as long as two people work together, many difficulties can be overcome. However, with the days of prosperity, it is completely different for couples in distress. When they used to endure hardships together, they were more concerned about how to overcome difficulties, and whether two people had similar personalities was put in the second place.

When there is money, the secondary contradiction rises to the main contradiction, then the problem comes, the bitterness is eaten together, the money is two people's, how to dispose of it has become a touchstone to test the compatibility of two people's personalities, and it has also become a ruler to test whether the other party is selfish.

Mainly because they may only enjoy together. And then if one party is in trouble, the other party will not help, and the other party will just walk away, also because of human nature.

Because in everyday life, there are many people who are very realistic, and there are some couples whose feelings are very discordant, so this happens.

Because many couples can enjoy happiness together, but they can't share hardships, and they will choose to give up in the face of difficulties and setbacks, so this situation will occur.

Some husbands and wives can share sorrows, but not joys.

Many times, what we think of as pure love is nothing more than self-righteous delusion.

We once made a promise to the person we loved, and said to Zicheng. The hand of the son made an oath with him and entered the marriage hall.

At first, the husband and wife had a common goal and a common pursuit, so no matter how big the difficulties and how big the wind and rain were, the two of them could be in the same boat through thick and thin, rely on each other, and help each other in the ordinary.

Once wealth comes, when material things reach a certain accumulation, people's minds will be different.

In marriage, women care more about one person for a lifetime, because there are too many things in marriage, and it is impossible to have only love.

The men were eager to try. Love the new and hate the old, abandon his wife and children.

Therefore, although some couples are wealthy, they cannot be happy together.

The greatest meaning of marriage is to share joys and sorrows!

<> most couples can only share joys and sorrows, how should they be resolved? A marriage that can only share joys and sorrows? Have you heard a word, you don't accompany the sunset, who are you when the sun rises?

Since your partner can't get through difficult times with you, why don't you give up? For the sake of the children, or for the sake of the family? When you are working hard to pay off your debts and earn money to support your family, maybe she is looking for a rich partner outside.

Do you still have hope? Is your heart cold? If it is a child, such a significant other is not worth setting an example for the child.

On the contrary, the child will understand, and when the child is older, the child will understand the reason. I don't know if you parents know it, but you're still precocious for these reasons.

You love him, so you are reluctant to leave her. When such a person you love her words, it means that you have the reason for your failure. You are doomed to fail, and you want a beauty not a country.

Really, it's true that behind every successful man there is a good woman. This woman is his wife, mother, and even daughter. And what can't be shared with you, do you think you can cherish it?

Brother, give up, raise one less, and you will be better for the other, your daughter, your parents. In today's society, after going through so much, no one should believe it except yourself, only money is the most important thing. You are still here hesitating, soft-hearted, you are afraid that you will not be able to turn over for the rest of your life.

I'm still asking what you should do if I can't share your ups and downs. Those who understand already know. Don't think about anything else, now think about how you can spend it better.

Since husband and wife can get married together, it means that they should have feelings for each other, and they should have more common pursuits and goals, and the three views between each other should also be more compatible, so that it is easy to be happy and harmonious together. The road to marriage is originally uneven, even full of hardships and twists and turns, and it is necessary to share responsibility with each other, and create a happy life that belongs to you through common efforts, otherwise it will be no different from being single. Since we work hard to create a happy life, of course, we have to experience ups and downs, happiness is originally a rainbow after the wind and rain, only after experiencing hardship, it is easy to taste sweetness, if happiness is so easy to get, then it is not happiness, that is not sweet.