Why can you only share sorrows and not share joys?

The word "sharing weal and woe" is a word to describe two people who endure hardships together and enjoy the joy of success together. You can only share sorrows, not joys, because everyone is selfish, and when you have a good thing, it is difficult for you to think of sharing it with others. But when you are struggling, the first thing you think of is to seek help from others.

For example, when you encounter a problem that you can't solve by yourself, and you need to seek help from others, you will definitely think of the buddy with whom you have the best relationship. When that buddy doesn't want to help, you'll say we're going to have to do it together. When this buddy helps you solve the difficulties, you get something to gain.

But you don't think of sharing these things with the people who have helped you in the past. The reason for this psychology is that people don't know how to share. We can only share sorrows, but we can't share joys, because when everyone feels that they don't need help, they can only think of themselves.

Generally speaking, it is a psychological manifestation of selfishness, but there are some true friends, whether they encounter setbacks or enjoy the fruits of success, two people will share the burden. If you can't enjoy the joy of success with someone, then it means that he is not very important in your heart. If you can share sorrows and sorrows, it means that there is no real friendship between the two of you.

In fact, this is a common social phenomenon, some people are able to go through a lot of hardships together, but once life becomes better, there will be all kinds of contradictions and frictions. In fact, I think it is a misunderstanding caused by the lack of trust between the two parties and the lack of honesty with each other. We need to do a good job of effective communication in a timely manner.

Strengthening exchanges will also enable us to share both weal and woe.

The reason is very simple, because the current society is too realistic, when a person is poor, there may be a woman who is willing to suffer with him, and then when he is developed, he feels that he is now like the king of heaven, and he can have whatever he wants, so he doesn't care about the woman who shares the weal and woe with him. Then he will dump this woman who has experienced hard times with him when he is especially rich and wealthy.

In ancient discourse, there are many descriptions of husband and wife, such as poor and lowly couples mourning, or flying separately when disaster comes. Either way, I believe there are always good relationships, but there are also bad relationships. No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, husband and wife can share weal and woe.

It means that we can bear it together when we have difficulties, but we can't enjoy it together when we live well and when we are blessed. Because the pressure from the outside world is too great, whether a person shares weal and woe requires practice and time to test, and it is not easy to see.

People who pay attention to status cannot be happy, people who are willing to calculate cannot be happy, and people who are carried away cannot be happy. Because they like to be held up by others, to be served by others, to be surrounded by others. This kind of person can't see it when he suffers together, and only when he can enjoy the status of the same person, will he jump out and show his ugly face.

Particularly calculating, often weighing who is suitable and who is not. When everyone suffers together and others suffer more than they do, they don't complain. Of course they also suffer, but they are all the easiest sufferings.

When they suffer, they weigh in their hearts, and when they see others suffering, their hearts are balanced.

This sentence is very simple, sharing joys and sorrows, generally means that I can enjoy happiness with you, I can give you sweet and beautiful days, but there is no way to endure hardships with you and live difficult days together.

You can enjoy it together, you can't struggle it together.

Why do some people share joys and sorrows? It should not be difficult to understand the meaning of sharing happiness but not suffering together. If everything can be boiled down to human nature, then the human nature behind the same happiness but inability to share the pain is the easiest for us to understand.

After all, everyone loves to have fun, and no one wants to go through pain. Husbands and wives are birds of the same forest, and when disaster strikes, it is natural for people to fly separately. Of course, there are also people who get through the difficulties together and support each other, and there are not too many.

Behind the suffering is the instinct to seek advantage and avoid disadvantage. Behind the persistence of being in the same boat through thick and thin is the inner feelings and conscience. Is it instinct that overwhelms feelings, or does feeling control instinct?

Different people are different. It can be said that the catastrophe is coming, plastic love, wine and meat friendship, of course, it can also be said that the bottom line of conscience of this group of people is relatively low, and it is easy to break through.

Of course, in the general environment, the economic base determines the superstructure. In the same era, people with a relatively high level of education and those with a better economic foundation from their ancestors will have a higher proportion of conscience. In different eras, of course, when people are economically prosperous, their conscience and moral bottom line will be higher.

Looking at our development over the past 30 years, we can also see that the outlook of the whole society has changed, and the overall quality has generally improved. Maybe you will say that capital is blood, and the rich have black hearts. There is also a saying that the mountains and rivers are evil, and the people are annoying.

In the final analysis, the economic base determines the superstructure under big data statistics. This statement is based on statistics. On the ladder.

So people are complicated, and the world is more complicated. In different eras, whether different people can share joys, sorrows, and sorrows is a variable.

Human nature is very complex. It has many facets. When struggling, as long as the character and strength are good, everyone works together, and everything else can be ignored

Difficulties stimulate your side of struggle, stimulate your wolf nature, and make you work hard, cooperate, and grow. In other words, human nature is repressed in an environment of scarcity and can only show a limited side, just as honest people are not honest and kind, but capital without surrender and deterioration. It's not the same as not being able to share the pain.

The reason for not being able to share the glory after working together is mainly related to the clarity of the rules for sharing money, and it is also mainly related to the personal cultivation of both parties. When a person has enough wisdom and character to control power and wealth, or when he has practiced both in afflictions, then glory can still be enjoyed in the same way, and even greater glory can be attained.

So the nagging came and went, and in the end it still returned to wisdom and character, which seemed to be tall, but in fact there was no concept of dry goods。Smart people understand the long-term benefits and the importance of peace of mind, so they can share joys and sorrows, and then share joys. Of course, the same is true for people of good taste, who always treat themselves with sincerity and treat every relationship.

Whether it's an intimate relationship or a partnership.

There is a difference between sharing happiness and suffering, because for sharing sweetness, it is to share sweetness, and for sharing suffering, it is to share pain, if you want to compare happiness and suffering, who will choose to share suffering, if two people experience pain and then experience happiness, then this is equal to each other, if only one party bears the same happiness or one side bears the suffering, then it is very unfair.

If two people enjoy life together, then it is a kind of mutual happiness, and if two people suffer together, it is the latter.

Tonggan is to be able to enjoy the glory and wealth together, and always accompany you when you are good, but this is something that anyone can do, after all, who doesn't like to enjoy happiness, and Gonggang is the person who is still with you when you are at the lowest point in your life, which means that she really likes you.