I can t care about others, I can t chat, how can I change myself?

We can actually change ourselves through a little bit of life, everything is difficult at the beginning, but the real most difficult thing is the fear in our own hearts, when we try to take the first step to actively chat with each other on social software, success may not be far from us.

We can learn how to talk about what we should do next, don't always feel that we have nothing to say, in fact, we can share the bits and pieces of our lives, such as: the time we got up in the morning, the meals we ate at noon, the teachers we met in class, and the strange things we experienced in a school today.

Maybe in the process of chatting with each other like this, for no reason, you find that you have been chatting with each other for a long time, and occasionally you will talk about topics of interest all night, but we need to pay attention to the fact that when chatting with others, you must not be in a state of mind, and you don't know what you said when others finish talking and ask you.

Face life with gratitude"When we encounter some difficulties in life, the help given to us by others can really make us feel the beauty of this world, and we should be grateful to each other and enjoy the beauty of this world.

When others in the future are like me, they can try to take that step and lend a helping hand, saying, "Are you okay?" Spiritual satisfaction is enough, but isn't it enough for us to care about others and talk to them?

As long as we change ourselves in our hearts, everything is just time to make ourselves better.

I used to be someone who wanted to ask this question.

When I was in junior high school, I was short and thin, and I sat quietly in my place every day, and I couldn't play with the popular people in the class, and I felt very inferior.

It's not that I feel inferior for no reason, it's that I feel inferior to my loneliness and loneliness, there are so many friends with others, everything is done in groups, and there are people to accompany me in everything, at that time I really wanted to have friends, I really wanted someone to accompany me.

Later, a girl changed me and made me truly embark on a positive life.

That girl has good grades, she's cute, and she's a very active figure in the class. We were placed at the same table because of our similar grades. I was very nervous at the time, I didn't know how to get close to her, but she had a really good personality, she took the initiative to talk to me, told the boys in the class to take me to play basketball together, complained to me about what happened to her, and then the two of them laughed together, I gradually became cheerful and popular, I slowly grew taller and got in good shape.

Later I was very active and cheerful. I'm so grateful to her. I feel that it is very lonely and scary to be alone without friends, so I need to change myself.

Maybe you can't meet someone like her, but you can try to change yourself, to exercise, to move, to join everyone, to integrate into the organization, and try to match their topics, it may be difficult at first, but slowly everyone will understand your goodness and gradually accept you.

After that, in high school and college, I was always fun-loving, the man of the class who always got into trouble, had many friends, and was very popular with the people around me even when I got to work.

But they didn't know that I was once a cowardly little boy with no friends. They don't know how hard I worked to become the person I am and the person I am now. No one knows about the past.

I am very grateful to the girl who changed me, and I am also grateful to me for having the courage to change myself.

Seeing this question, I felt as if I had seen my old self.

I used to be a person who couldn't talk and didn't know how to care about people. But my friends around me are very considerate and very caring about people, and I am the kind of person who is protected and cared for, and naturally I have never learned how to care about others. When someone is unhappy and sad, I am at a loss, and I don't know how to comfort him.

I don't know how to express my feelings, and naturally I don't care about others.

Later I slowly changed because I met my current boyfriend. My boyfriend is a boy who lacks love, and when I am with him, I can't avoid giving him more care. But caring for others is not the ability to be acquired in a day or two, and this process is also very bumpy for me.

In fact, if you like someone, you will really want to love him well and care about him, this sentence is true. But if you don't have the ability to care about people, you can't express it well. For example, when the other person is sick, I will verbally tell him to pay attention to his body, and I don't think that I will do some practical actions.

Or when two people are separated, if he doesn't take the initiative to find me, I won't ask if he's home.

In fact, when I think back to that time, I really really liked each other, but I was the one who was cared for and taken care of from childhood to adulthood, so I didn't learn much about the ability to care for others. In fact, I think whether it is to treat relatives, friends or lovers, it is actually the same, you think you love them, but you have to express it. I can't hold it, I've been like this for a long time, and I don't care about other people's thoughts anymore.

Let yourself learn to care about others and learn to chat is a thing to force yourself, presumably you also know how to care about others, you just don't have this consciousness and don't have this ability to act. It is because of my boyfriend, my love for him, and his tolerance for me that I can become more and more concerned about someone. And you, perhaps, are exactly the one you need.

If you don't find such a person, then you have to learn to care about others, and maybe one day you will meet the person you want to really care about.

You know your own shortcomings so clearly, and if you want to change, you have to do it from the little details around you. If you don't care about others, then you start to pay attention to the things and emotions of the people around you, and even express your heart when you need help and care. If you don't know how to chat, you have to find friends to chat, try to communicate with others more, practice makes perfect, and you will naturally master the skills if you chat more.

I think you can try to give more greetings to others, say hello more when you meet, and usually watch variety shows like talk shows.

You should exercise yourself more, let yourself think more empathetically, consider the feelings of others more, chat with others more, and know what to say and what not to say.

Everyone's personality is different, I think you can start with your personality, get along with others more, listen to other people's opinions more on the same thing, and don't always stay on your own.

Why change, will you die if you don't change.

Everything is learned, just like we are born without walking or talking, so take small steps every day and take your time.

Knowing that you know yourself is a big step forward, a slow change

It's easy to do, you can find some strangers to chat with on the Internet to train yourself.

First of all, read more books and discover your own fun.

In addition, it is to find friends who are more like-minded, and everyone will not have something to say to everyone.

TV series is all about saving time.

If you're interested, it's easy to talk and chat! It's together, it's not that hard.

Check out some of Carnegie's books. Enrich your life experience in other ways. Some of the weaknesses inherent in human beings, each person is different, go their own way ... I'm passing through.

Increase your experience, insight, taste, knowledge. Travel more, or learn more.

Take a walk outside, learn more, and see how others behave in the world.

You can't go to school, you can learn it. Don't be in a hurry, and don't have a negative opinion of yourself because of it.

I don't think it's that you can't talk and don't care about people, but you haven't met the person who can make you open your heart and communicate, as long as it's the person you love in your heart, you will naturally care about him. Caring is something that needs to be felt by the other party.

Just be your true self, not very good at talking, many times just don't want to be as fickle as others, or don't want to compliment others, you won't care about people because that person doesn't particularly care about you, caring about others is actually from the heart, if you only do superficial work, don't do it.

You can raise your salary more, pay attention, Xixi can care about him a little bit, you don't have to do too much.

Everyone's personality and temper are natural, for sure, you don't communicate with people, others don't know what you think. Of course it's not likeable. Slowly learn the skills of speaking, talk to people more, and naturally someone will like you. As long as you are sincere, it is much better than being hypocritical on your face.

You know that these problems are good, everyone has shortcomings, you can change slowly, after all, you can't live in a self-centered circle, others can't always accommodate you in everything, as long as you want to change slowly will always get better, you must have confidence in yourself!

No one is born to speak, which requires more study and practice, read more similar books, and caring for people requires more empathy to look at problems from the perspective of others, so as to know what others need. You'll care.

In addition to language, we communicate with each other in addition to language, but the most commonly used and most common is language, in fact, when we communicate, we communicate three points and seven points of attitude, we first look at our own attitude. Just put your mind to it.

You can learn slowly, because when you grow up, you have to pay attention to your words and deeds, don't offend others because you don't speak properly, it's an instinct to care about others, you have to see if it's your relatives or the people you care about, others can care about it properly, because there is no need for people who are not familiar with it. You can learn more about this and communicate more with the elders in your family.

A woman must learn to be gentle and considerate, express what she does, and let the other person know that you will care about the other person.

Personality is like this, you can't change it much, and you control the way you speak. Don't be too direct and learn to care about people.

In this life, I still look back a lot.

In this life, I still don't drink Meng Po soup.

I will in the afterlife.

Thousands of miles will find you.

I will in the afterlife.

Hand in hand with you, look for the five-petal cloves.

Speaking the right thing at the right time is what you can say. There are several points in the performance of not being able to speak, one is that he is verbose and unfocused, the second is to say everything and not to say anything, and the third is that the bull head does not say to the horse's mouth. Not being able to talk or talking a lot doesn't mean you can't speak, the key is to say the key points when it's time to speak.

The second problem is that you don't care about people, this has to have a degree, ignoring other people's feelings, indifferent is not caring about people at all, this is called selfishness, greetings countless times a day, this is called harassment, if you want to care and don't know what to do, this is called not caring about people, in fact, this is not a problem, no matter how you show concern when you meet a fool, it's useless to meet a kind smart person, as long as you are kind, he can naturally feel it, maybe a look knows your attitude. Therefore, as long as you have good intentions, it is not a question whether you will care about people, and if you care about hypocritical people, you can only temporarily confuse others.

Take your time, usually have nothing to do to participate in more social activities, communicate with people more, learn to do more housework by yourself, especially barbecue, slowly exercise yourself, start from life, every little thing can exercise people, you have nothing to do to go to the supermarket, or even the vegetable market, and slowly your courage will be practiced. People need to be cultivated, but they can't be too gentle. Otherwise, it will always be unsociable in crowded situations.

Let it be! It is a good medicine that can solve any troubles in the world!

No one is perfect. Everyone has their own characteristics. You can realize that you don't know how to say and you don't care about people, so you need to change yourself by thinking about what to say and what not to say before you speak, so that you don't say the wrong thing.

Try to care more about the people around you, and it will be better in the future.

The reason why I can't speak is because I don't talk too much, I communicate with people too little, I have less knowledge, I feel unfamiliar with the matter of talking, and I naturally don't know what to say when I meet people. Therefore, if you want to change yourself, you have to read more books, cultivate some of your hobbies, participate in more activities, and experience more things to increase your knowledge. When you speak, you need to think about it a little bit and don't say things that hurt others, so as not to cause misunderstandings.

If you are really not good at speaking and expressing, then don't force it, do things in a down-to-earth manner, and make up for yourself with hard work to win the respect and favor of others.

This person mainly relies on emotional intelligence to communicate in society, if the emotional intelligence is relatively low, then there will be a performance similar to what you said, knowing that you can't speak, and you don't care about people but don't want to let yourself change, just want to change yourself by asking questions? So it's better to start reading more books by changing your mind, open your eyes more, be influenced by more beneficial people, and don't go to the top of the bull's horns.