How can I change my shortcomings of not being able to chat, talking about being boring, and being ea

Chat is divided into several scenarios, non-face-to-face communication such as chat software or **, face-to-face communication.

The topic can focus on 5w1h, that is, when (when), where (where), what (what), who (who), what (why), what (how), grasp a few key words for extended communication.

If you talk about embarrassing issues, there are three ways, the first is to ignore them directly; The second way is to say that you reply "I am not very good at basketball, but I also like sports"; The third clever way to transform the topic is to give the other party a step.

Say a few key points for face-to-face communication: have a correct attitude, look directly at the eyes, and nod your head from time to time to show approval.

A way to show approval.

2. Pose the same action, the other party crosses Erlang's legs, and you can repeat the action.

3. Pay attention to the change of intonation, and identify from time to time.

High emotional intelligence in communication is important, but it's also important to have a reasonable extension of communication, but don't talk around one word for an hour or two, unless you're a fanatic.

Enrich yourself first, share something, or be a perfect listener.

So how is it now, will you chat.

Get along with colleagues and friends more, and improve your processing skills in the process.

Go out and walk more, you will find that the outside world is very big, exercise and exercise, or go to register for something (yoga, tai chi, painting and flower arrangement classes to enrich yourself.

I'm also an introvert, and I don't know how to chat with others, so I don't know what to say, but you can try to practice with the chat tool, and just play with it, and I'm much better.

Anyone should be able to chat, mainly there may be no common topic, common ground of interest.

Take it step by step, try to talk to your parents and talk about your thoughts, and then try to fit in with your best friends and take the initiative to speak, not always be a listener. If you think you've done a good job, try to communicate with friends you don't know well, learn to face strangers, and have a good chat with everyone, which is more than enough. If you want to be better, you have to try to communicate with strangers, which is a necessary skill for going out into society in the future.

Remember that smiling is the best place to start a conversation, which will put your friends in a good mood and put you at ease.

First of all, everyone has a lot of frustrations, just say it, it doesn't matter if it's wrong or wrong. Also, it's okay to read more books.

You can make some more extroverted friends

Take a good look at the reading and take a look at the more useful books.

This will take time to change.

1. Establish confidence and determination for self-change.

If you want to do anything, you have to have faith and determination to win. Only then will you be able to go all out to make a real difference.

2. Get in touch with people with cheerful personalities.

The environment can change a person, with a cheerful personality, his optimistic mood and humorous language will affect you, and over time, you will unconsciously learn from him and change yourself subtly.

3. Participate in more social activities.

Participate in a variety of activities and you will think about and open up some important things so that they are in a busy state and do not have time to think about some trivial things in life. If we do the activity well, our self-confidence will naturally increase, and the negativity will gradually disappear.

4. Stick to a hobby that suits you.

With hobbies, you can not only add fun to your life, but also increase your contact with society, which is conducive to the change of personality.

5. Eliminate the fear of life, strangers, unfamiliar surroundings and things that have not been done.

Introverts have a slightly worse psychological tolerance, are prone to anxiety and worry about things, and even dare not accept new things. If you want to change your character weaknesses, you must be strong, eliminate fear, and have a fearless spirit.

6. Adjust your mentality in real time.

When you feel a little frustrated, you have to adjust your thinking. Don't let this bad mindset affect your life. Let pleasure dominate all your emotions as much as possible.

7. Be self-motivated every day.

Every morning after waking up, say a few words of encouragement to yourself in the mirror: I am very happy today; I want to be optimistic, I want to be happy, etc. These are all great ways to change your introverted personality. Start changing now!

If you want to change you, you have to change your guts first, shy is timid, too concerned about what others think of you, so you are always cautious, for fear that you will do something wrong or say something wrong, and over time you will form a cowardly character. While changing your guts, you should participate in more social activities, and learn more about how others are speaking and handling things. You should also read more books to increase your knowledge reserves, and if necessary, you can also sign up for language training in language training institutions in the society.

Learn to listen, understand what others are saying, express your opinions at the right time, and have a sense of humor, so that you will get along well with your friends.

The personality is still not easy to change, so go with your acquaintances, find a topic that you are good at, and take your time.

Introverted and shy people, go out more to contact friends, don't be afraid of being shy, and after a long time, the skin will be thicker and less shy.

If this isn't the case with family or other people, then they don't fit you or you don't fit them.

Work chatting or communicating, and slowly thicken your skin!

I don't have such a friend around me, because I will keep asking him questions because of the person who doesn't speak in front of me, and then I will open the conversation box of others, and I will offend him, after all, I am bored to ask him so many questions, you can rest assured that you can brag b, just worry who he is!

Find a topic, find a common language. Read more books to enrich your knowledge.

This is an introverted personality, you should go out more, contact more with friends, often attend some gatherings, increase the opportunity to contact and communicate with others, and there will be changes over time.

Not being able to chat means that you don't have a common topic and are not looking for the right friends.

Nothing will not, learn more things, and slowly you will have a topic with everyone, and at the same time, don't be afraid, always afraid of saying the wrong thing, always afraid of what others think, thinking too much, the psychological burden will be heavy.

Sometimes you don't need to deliberately change yourself, everyone has their own personality, making friends can slowly cooperate with each other, sometimes talk about what the other party makes you uncomfortable, and be considerate of each other.

The key is to talk less when encountering problems, say too much and lose, observe words and looks, and say nice things.

Be humble, praise others more, and speak in a natural tone, neither humble nor arrogant, so that you don't seem very deliberate.

Communication, growth in practice.

This requires a high level of equipment!

Many introverts want to be more extroverted, because it seems that only extroverts are more suitable for today's society and are more conducive to interacting with others. But in fact, many extroverts also have a lot of dissatisfaction with their personality.

Each personality has its own strengths and weaknesses. Introverts actually have many advantages, such as being conscientious, down-to-earth and steady. Introverts want to be more cheerful, mostly because they are more likely to get along with others and participate in activities more actively, but these are not the "characteristics" of extroverts, they are just accessories of extroverts.

Master the skills of interacting with people, make your enthusiasm bold, and introverts can do the same! So, sometimes it's not.

It is a question of whether personality can be changed, but whether ability can be improved, and I think I don't need to say anything more about the answer to this question at this time.

After the above discussion, I think you may no longer struggle with wanting to change your personality. But you may still be wondering, is your personality set in stone? In fact, we can only say that in a sense, personality can be changed.

For example, a person's personality changes with age or circumstances. But if you want to change your personality in a short period of time, even through psychological ** and counseling, it is not easy.

It can be seen that sometimes we do not need to deliberately change our character, there is no superiority or inferiority in character, as long as we improve our ability and improve our own quality to make up for the shortcomings in some aspect of our character, it is enough to make us impeccable people. Talk to people more, be bold, don't be afraid, no one will talk about you, let alone eat you, talk to friends more, find your most proud side, have confidence in yourself, everything is so beautiful

Changing oneself is easier said than done, everyone has their own personality, and they have all formed a way and method of dealing with things. To change yourself, you should first change your attitude towards things. The attitude has changed, just like you in the mirror, what you do to him, he will do to you, so how do you want to treat yourself in the mirror?

I think everybody is going to smile at themselves. We treat things the same way, if you want to accept new things, then new things will accept you, you want to change things, things will change you, the two are complementary to each other, the key is to change your attitude.

Secondly, if you change your thinking and behavior patterns, and your attitude towards things has changed, then your thinking and behavior patterns should also change, only in this way can you completely change yourself, control things, and change your current situation.

Finally, to change oneself, we must continue to absorb all aspects of knowledge, improve our self-cultivation and quality, and have more knowledge in all aspects, so that we can better look at problems, find problems, and solve problems.

What kind of environment creates what kind of people, all day long, facing their own living environment, constantly make themselves specialize in life, think too much.

There are many natural generaries, and their own thinking is also involved in the formation of character, and it is inconvenient for outsiders to put themselves in your shoes on the questions you raise, and the practicality of their words is not high, and you don't pay much attention to what others say, you are still familiar with the old road, and the old embryonic position is naturally generated, which can be easily lost, and if you really lose it, you will be at a loss, and your words and deeds will be unnatural, and there will be many clumsiness. A little flexibility doesn't get in the way, it's doable.

Have the courage to challenge what you dare not do.

Go to more crowded places.

I'm just a copy introvert.

And I'm also pulling.

I used to often not say bai

And mom is the kind of person who can't speak.

So I'm almost every day

Slowly, it became more and more pulled, but only a little bit.

The real change should be in the past few years.

I work as a salesperson, and I have to be able to speak when I meet customers, isn't it, it's probably this division of labor that changes me.

You can also give it a try.

1.Evaluate yourself correctly and build self-confidence.

2.Be good at letting go of tension.

3. Learn to restrain your worries.

4.Actively express your opinions and opinions at work, and have no scruples to open your mouth and say what you think is necessary.

Get involved in more activities. Make more friends

In fact, being introverted is not necessarily a bad thing. But don't feel inferior.

I belong to the kind of extroverted people, and the friends I am with are also more introverts, and my personality begins to gradually extrovert after playing with me often, so it is recommended that you get along with your extroverted friends more, don't feel that you can't get close to them, and try to get close to them

Actually, I have the same personality as you, I'm 18 years old now, let me tell you about my experience! My hometown is in the countryside, belongs to the left-behind children, grandparents take care of me, since I started the first year of junior high school, I don't like to go out and don't like to talk, I disassemble the mobile phone at home alone to play, now I think about it, I think it was not a psychological problem at that time, it was a change in the process of a person's growth. I can't type so many words, if you want, you can chat privately, I hope it can help you, thank you!

You can go to sales, one has a lot of contacts (you just lack this), and secondly, you are forced to speak every day, and slowly you find that in the eyes of others, it is not what you imagined.

Hehe, if you want to change, you have to learn. Everybody learns. Not something you were born with. It's boring because you don't have it in your head, so you can't say it! You can only ask others.