What is it like to know that roommates can t be best friends ?

I think it's good to get along with each other, the edge is deep and shallow, the fate is gathered and scattered, and everything goes naturally. Don't force it, let it go.

I always feel a little pity, a little sad, and people who live in the same house with themselves can't be best friends.

It's enough to have a few good friends, and there's nothing wrong with being a regular friend.

It's nothing, there are so many people in the school in the class, you don't necessarily have to be good friends with your roommates.

Living with him every day is really self-torture, and I don't know what to do.

It doesn't matter, your roommate is just a passerby in your life, even if you can't be your best friend, it doesn't matter.

There will be a lot of helplessness, after all, living together for several years, but there will be misunderstandings and contradictions due to various small events, and these are inevitable.

I talk about it together every day, but I never share my true thoughts, I digest my troubles by myself, I don't want to trouble my roommates and I don't want my roommates to see my jokes.

I used to be full of expectations for college life, and the kind of performance of my roommate was very sad.

It's so sad, eating and playing together every day, not being able to be best friends, feeling sad.

If you encounter such a thing in your college life, I think it's really bad, because the friendship between college classmates is still relatively simple, but once it involves monetary interests, it may make the relationship between two people very strange, just like helping your roommate bring 20 yuan of things, once you ask for money with the other party, it shows the most essential relationship between the two people, although there may be some times when the other party doesn't care, but in the long run, it will hurt the feelings of the two people very much, so it is. It must be a friend, which means telling us an experience, we must keep a good distance when we are friends with college students, and only in this way can we better interact with other people.

I remember that I also encountered such a thing when I was in college, I had a roommate in the south, the other party's family was relatively good, but in our dormitory it was very picky, once we went out to buy clothes together, the other party did not bring money, and then we paid each other in advance. After returning to the dormitory, my dormitory roommate didn't say a word about buying clothes and paying for it, and was forced to take out the money under pressure from everyone. Therefore, the other party is still very angry, thinking that we don't talk about brotherhood at all.

Since then, there has been a certain gap in the relationship between us and this college classmate, and it is not as close as it used to be. When I stepped into society, I slowly understood a lot. Because university is also a society, we can only know how to get along with others after we have experienced it.

After experiencing this incident, I have also grown a lot, because the university is a meeting between me, and I don't have a lot of contact with my college classmates after graduating from college, but I slowly have new friends to integrate in, and my circle of friends is also changing and alternating. Therefore. Everyone should look at themselves on the mature side, because only in this way can we grow better.

Nowadays, many college students tend to be more impulsive when dealing with this kind of problem, and they do not know how to use language to protect their rights and interests. Two people have a very serious conflict because of a little money problem. Personally, I think it's very bad, because this will not only make you less able to do things, but most importantly, your relationship will become very cold.

To sum up, we must be fair and just when facing the issue of interests, and then make changes. You also have to learn to calm down your mentality. Because in this way, I can slowly learn to grow.

Because when people are young, they must try to make some mistakes more, so that they can slowly accumulate experience.

In the university, we are most common in the four-person dormitory and six-person dormitory, so the collective life inevitably needs to run in with each other, some students are usually pampered at home, so there are many places that need to be considerate and humble, but now every college student is basically the little princess and prince at home, and the mutual humility has caused contradictions.

If there is a conflict between each other, they will form gangs, and they are not used to each other's lifestyles and experiences, and it is difficult to get along, just like some classmates like to stay up late and play games to make noise, and some students do not pay attention to the hygiene of the dormitory, which will cause dissatisfaction among other roommates, and there is no way to establish a friendship of height.

The three views are different. The roommates in each dormitory are not assigned according to grades, they are basically random, so they are not selected by themselves, and it is normal for the three views to be different, especially the inconsistent outlook on life and values, which leads to different ways of looking at problems and solving them, so disagreements will often occur when encountering problems.

In fact, to put it bluntly, it means "different ways do not conspire with each other", the ideas are different, the views are different, and discussing problems together is not the same as playing the piano to the horse, so many roommates will choose not to interfere with each other and ignore the affairs of their roommates, which is also the reason why many roommates have a low relationship and cannot become friends.

Knowing too many secrets about each other.

In addition to the non-interference roommates, many dormitories are still relatively open, everyone has lived together for a long time, and they also know the situation of the dormitory roommates about the same, what major, what personality, so that many dormitory roommates will discuss some girls' things and class things together at night.

Over time, the other party's secrets know more, and the relationship is not good, many classmates have blacked out their college roommates when they graduate, in fact, in addition to everyone looking for jobs after graduation and rarely contacting, the most important thing is that many dormitory roommates don't want their "black history" in school to be dug up, so they block their roommates decisively!

Personalities are not the same.

Everyone's personality is different, some people are enthusiastic, some people are withdrawn, and some people are not right-minded, especially in the dormitory, everyone's personality is different, and it is difficult for everyone to reach a consensus, so naturally they will not become good friends, especially some roommates are not right-minded.

Often borrow money from the roommates in the dormitory, borrow things and don't pay them back, for such roommates, everyone avoids them, let alone being friends, even the most basic trust between people can't be reached, everyone can almost not talk without talking, otherwise living in a dormitory all day long, extremely embarrassing.

The economic conditions of the families are not the same.

Each member of the dormitory has different family conditions, and some classmates with family conditions have different status in the dormitory, and they don't consider other people's emotions when they speak, and they always like to call and drink to their roommates, so this type of roommate, everyone is not willing to make friends with her.

There are also some families with good family conditions, roommates are more fond of vanity, do not pay attention to academics, often buy some luxury goods, and spend all the money on buying clothes and accessories, which is what we often call money worship, and the social circle is also relatively chaotic, in this case, it is difficult for roommates to become friends with this kind of person.

We are often indoctrinated with the idea that "being gregarious is the beginning of depravity" and "good people are lonely", as if only one person is right. But the world is never black and white, and these views are too absolute. Being with a group of people does not mean being degenerate, blindly fitting in, following the pace of the masses unprincipledly and without self-consciousness, that should not be.

Loneliness can make a person grow faster, but if you have a group of like-minded friends around you, I think that's another kind of happiness. You can like to be quiet, you can like to read and do your homework alone; You can also have a circle that you feel comfortable with, and occasionally make an appointment to get together a few times to frolic and enjoy the time. I guess it's not a contradiction, it's not a conflict.

Being ostracized by your roommates isn't necessarily your fault.

In our dormitory, the phenomenon of "huddles" is more serious, they are in a group of three, and I am in a group. I hadn't spoken to them for a year, because I used to get their cynicism for the slightest overture. It's even common to hear them orchestrate their own bad words behind their backs.

And the relationship between the three of them is quite like the legendary "plastic sisters", laughing and laughing on the surface, but behind the scenes, they always chew each other's tongues.

This depressing dormitory life made me depressed for two years, and I didn't know where to go if I wanted to move out. Fortunately, I have been divided into dorms in my senior year, and now I am with my new roommates, and my surroundings are gradually becoming clearer. In my mind, my former roommates may never be friends, and I don't even think they're roommates.

Anonymity. How many people have experienced roommate relationships that have shared beds, traveled, and had dinner together, but have never made friends? Sometimes it's really not your fault that you're excluded, different ways don't conspire with each other, and different circles really don't have to be compatible.

If everyone understands you, then the world isn't cool at all.

If one day you find yourself unable to be friends with your roommate, it is not necessarily your fault.

For a dormitory relationship to be handled well, the concept they pursue must not deviate too much. If you can't run in because of the deviation value, don't force it, it's probably just because your thoughts and friends are no longer at the same level.

Roommates are randomly assigned, and friends are handpicked by themselves. If your roommate has brought you a lot of unpleasant memories, don't worry too much about it, because these are not worth mentioning compared to your bright life in the future.

It was a great, warm experience. The six of us come from different places, but we have a great time getting along every day, and here are some of our tips for getting along.

Learn to share and help everyone in an easy-going and inclusive manner. Helping with groceries, bringing food, and printing materials is often a matter of small hands, but as long as it is agreed in advance, it is also a mutually beneficial thing. The latest school activities, competitions, lectures, exams and homework, everyone can also remind each other, urge each other, cherish each other, it is not easy to meet.

Sharing is a small thing, I hope you are just out of concern, not for the sake of asking, I hope you can live more comfortably and chic because of sharing. Learn to respect and have equal dialogue from the heartIn the public space of the dormitory, we should respect the personal space and personal belongings of our roommates, and we should also pay attention to the collective living habits, respect each other's existence, and respect for dedication and labor.

Speak softly when your roommates are resting, try not to disturb your roommates when they are studying, pay attention to hygiene, and keep them clean, which are the minimum respects in public spaces. Roommates help bring meals and buy things, even if they don't spend much, they must settle the accounts and pay them back in time, after all, the money of college students who are not yet financially independent is also earned by their parents, learn to respect, and take into account all aspects.

And as a reliable roommate, not using other people's belongings without permission is the most basic etiquette. When using other people's things, you should communicate in advance and use them after getting permission. Whether it's a big computer or a small shampoo, you have to pay attention.

In the space of more than ten square meters in the bedroom, it is indeed fate for several people to get together, but the feelings are based on each other's equality.

If there are contradictions, they should be dealt with in a timely manner. It's not terrible to have conflicts in the dormitory, whether it's unpleasant words or small frictions in life. The scary thing is that you don't want to solve it, but keep running away, thinking that it's a small problem, and let it keep accumulating, expanding, and finally exploding.

What should I do if something goes wrong? Some people may choose to swallow their anger, or they can't help but erupt, and some will protect themselves and watch the fire from the other side.

Take a step back and let the distractions calm down. Roommates should be like this, not to hang up on their own business, not to add fuel and vinegar behind their backs, but to tolerate each other's shortcomings, to understand each other's difficulties, to help each other in the same boat, to share joy and sorrow, but also to learn and progress together, to be each other's mirrors, and to become a better version of themselves together.

Four years of college, roommates are a valuable asset, there may be a tacit understanding of hitting it off, maybe there will be the warmth of mutual care, from the strangeness of the first meeting to the later acquaintance, from the initial embarrassment to the later intimacy, happiness is similar, you and I have our own stories, the warm dormitory is like home, the cold dormitory is like a prison, and the real temperature is those people, those things, and that time.

When your roommates are very easy to get along with, you feel very relaxed. I feel that I am very happy every day and have no worries.

That's very good, if it's the same city, it's good friends in the future, unlike us who all fought in the college dorms at the beginning.

You will be smiling all day long, and you will be able to integrate into a big family with various roommates, with the warmth of home, the sweetness of home, the laughter of home, and the true feelings of home!

It's amazing. They get along very well and always bring themselves a sense of ease.

Quoting the lyrics of a song that is currently more popular, I feel that my life has reached its peak.