My mother kept complaining to me, what should I do?

I also received a request for help from my father to Zhihu.

Let's see if there are netizens who can answer my family's questions, but it seems to be unsuccessful.

My family is like this, my mother is now complaining more and more about my father, feeling that my father does not care enough about her and does not understand her handling the small things at home, but in fact, I objectively say that my father's character is changing, but it is impossible to change my father's character to my mother's thought.

Actually, I think the main reason is.

1. Mom doesn't have her own circle of friends, and most of her life is with her dad I'm also in college, and I can't accompany her when I don't go to class like before, she doesn't have any special little sisters, only the family can complain. So, I've been trying to find something to do for my mom lately to expand my circle of friends.

Something. 2. Once you complain, you can only see the shortcomings, and magnify them infinitely. This can only be done by chatting with my mother and enlightening her, and stabilize my father, don't worry about her!

3. There is probably a possibility of menopause.

up....Hey....I didn't expect that when I grew up, I would start to deal with the relationship between my parents, and I also hoped that my mother would not complain too much and return to the broad-minded and open-minded mother she used to have.

Then you have to give more positive energy and positive thoughts to your mother, sometimes you complain too much, that's because of his bad mentality, so you just need to be able to change his mentality.

In fact, there is no money, that is, the poorer the person, the more tired, the more aggrieved, and complaining. If you have money, you definitely don't have to do housework, you can solve it by spending money, and you don't have to complain when you lie at home every day. The point is, isn't that a lack of money?

My mother said that I envy those who don't care about housework and go out to play mahjong every day, and I also envy the family situation of my classmates, whose family conditions are better than mine, and my parents never complain about these.

Your mother is going to complain to you, and he may be thinking from his point of view. There are times when we may feel that we are going against one of our wishes and intentions, but after all, he is your mother, and what should be respected is still respected.

Complaining to you all the time means that they have high expectations of you, so sometimes you should read about it.

The first is what to complain about. How can you solve it. What can be done to solve this problem?

It's understandable to talk to the people closest to you, your mother wants to get your understanding and help, and it's normal to vent your troubles, I hope you encounter this situation, then listen to her quietly, don't dislike her, she can feel more comfortable and feel better, because you are her only.

Old people will nag and complain. Because you are old and there are few people to talk to, you can also understand your mother and your confidant, and complain to you about things that you can't say to others, which is also to release his heart, and you have to understand and use your heart to guide your mother, so that he can gradually live happily every day.

Then you can have a good talk with your mother, if you have any dissatisfaction, let's try to solve it, complaining can't solve the problem.

It's that people are under pressure, and my mother is the same, I need to find someone to talk to, what I do is just listen quietly, in other words, you are the closest person to your mother, don't tell you who you want to talk to.

In fact, complaining to you, on the one hand, is to talk to you, and on the other hand, I hope you give her some advice, but she can't take it. Of course, if you love to complain about the mentality, you can properly guide it from other aspects, and it will be fine.

Because your mom uses you as an emotional vent, you should be a good role and help mom find an emotional outlet.

Treat you as a confidant, believe in you very much, you can't shirk, how good it is for someone to be your confidant, you have to cherish it, don't lose it.

Menopause, children, you have to learn to tolerate it now, and you won't be wrong in the future, talk to your mother well, and there will be a solution to what you are not afraid of.

It may be that you are very busy and don't have time to talk to your mother, so the old man feels aggrieved and complains, and has time to cheer her up.

It shows that they have used you as a target to vent.

Only when the nagging is over, can you speak calmly.

Mom, when you are a little padded jacket, talk to you about your heart.

Don't pay attention to her, my mother too, what psychological garbage is poured to me, when I was a child, I thought my mother was really wronged, and when I grew up, I realized that I did it myself, and if I could solve it, I would solve it, and if I couldn't solve it, I would see how I could change it, what was the use of telling others, and giving the pain to my children, I felt that such parents were not worthy of being parents at all, and now I just need to hear her sigh and sigh with me, what is there to sigh.

Whenever your mother complains to you, you put yourself in her shoes and think about it, maybe you won't be so annoying to her. Think about it, your mother is not young anymore, and there are no very close friends of the same age around her to complain, even if it is her own relatives, it is impossible to pour bitter water all day long, so she must be very painful and very sad every day, it is really the kind of suffering that can't be said, only when she really can't bear it, she will find you, the person who is closest and most trusted to her, to complain about her pain and release her pressure. In fact, you don't always complain, what you should do is to comfort her and enlighten her, after all, when a person has no one to care about in this world anymore, and there are no relatives, it is very pitiful.

Talk to your mother so that she may be better, because she hopes not only for your father, but also for you! So you have to work hard, go out with her properly, communicate more, and at the same time be sure to understand her, nothing to make her happy, and at the same time, secretly find out your father... The reason, try to talk to him or something, try to reconcile them.

So, don't let things come to a conclusion.

Communicate with you and your father about the identity of the adults he said.

Hopefully you can teach, not supported as a child, then he should respect that you can calm down and listen to your thoughts, even if the ideas are not mature.

You are an adult, your father should not be too young, you can tell him that human life has many identities, in his mother, son, in front of his wife, husband, father's child in front, in front of the unit of colleagues leader, subordinate or colleague on the same level, a successful person, in the course of each role, to determine the capacity of a barrel is not the longest of the plank, but the shortest. For years, your father neglected the family, not that he went out to help others to get a sense of fulfillment, but he neglected many of his responsibilities. He can't give you the job you have confidence in yourself to do better, but he ignores the feelings of his wife and children.

There are many places, the only place where the family is absent today, he did not help his friends, they can find help from others, including the unit, he immediately left the top of the home page on the can not be absent, he should think carefully about his responsibilities as a man.

Your mother should have left your dad a few years ago, your dad was emotionally indifferent and had no sense of family responsibility, which caused your mother to always feel unsatisfactory and insecure in life, so she always complained, and the root cause was that she didn't marry a good husband.

Kid, your family is really bad. Actually, you should be considerate of your mother, she is also bitter. Think about it, your parents are really divorced, what will she do in the future?

I think sometimes you're really selfish, and what does your mom mean by complaining to you? It shows that she is really lonely, really lonely, think about it, your parents have no feelings as you say, so who can she talk to about the depression in her life?..Be a little more understanding mom, you need to know:

Your birthday is your mother's hard day.

It's understandable that you have negative emotions, but if you become more and more depressed, it will cause mental tension, and it is best to see a psychologist.

If he always confides in you negative emotions, it will always affect you to become more and more depressed, so first of all, your mother must be cheerful.

Talk to her often about happy things, avoid those topics, have time to go shopping with her, go to play, eat delicious food, drive her out, tell her not to get old and think about those bad things, now I am with you.

Then you can communicate with your mother, and hope that he will not always pass on these negative emotions to you, saying that it will affect your mood very much, and it will also make you very pessimistic.

I think it's normal for adults to confide in you about negative emotions, and you have to face them positively and try to find a way to solve them.

My mother always confides in me about negative emotions, which causes me to become more and more depressed, what should I do? Then don't be guided by this emotion.

Use your positive thoughts and theories to communicate with her more and guide her.

You have to be yourself, communicate with your parents, and don't always blame yourself.

In the face of complaining, children are the most powerless to fight back, and you may not know how much your complaining hurts your children.

Many families have had the experience of having a quarrel that could have been avoided, but allowed the beast in their hearts to roar out. Maybe it's often the children who both feel and hurt each other.

In the harm again and again, the image of parents in the hearts of children is no longer bright, and children will definitely become people who love to complain in the face of disobedience, repeating the muddy road of parents.

That's what those parents keep saying for their children. I beg you for the sake of the child, but don't say that again, you're going to destroy me for me.

Choosing to have a child is to take responsibility, it is not important whether the material life is good or not, what children need is for their parents to get along in harmony, and responsible parents will not shout because of one thing, so that the whole family is not at peace, and the child's heart is uneasy.

A great writer once said: It takes us two years to learn to speak, but it takes us 60 years to learn to shut up. Most of the time, the more we talk, the farther away we are from each other, and the more contradictions there become. Don't let your emotions control you, know that you are supporting the brilliant sky of your child.

We often complain, complain about the other half of the marriage, complain about the trivial things in the family, and complain about the children's incompetence.

Are we complaining for the sake of complaining? In fact, it is just to relieve your sullenness, and you want your other half or parents or children to understand your hardships, and the other party understands your demands from complaining, so as to improve.

But we chose the wrong method, there are many ways to vent, and there are a lot of things that make you feel good, and complaining is the least deserved.

In fact, parents are very lucky, there are children who can make you fight for it, which makes you more motivated than anything else, what else is there to complain about?

This shows that your parents don't understand you, which requires you to communicate with your parents frequently so that they understand your thoughts so that they don't complain.

Communicate more with your parents, so that they can understand their own thoughts, and at the same time understand why they always complain about you, and then you need to correct them.

If it's true that you're not doing well enough, accept it humbly, and if it's a complaint for no reason, you can find an opportunity to have a good chat with your parents and say what you think.

If it is indeed your own reason, then you have to accept your parents' words with an open mind. If it's not your fault, then you have to talk to your parents and talk about your opinion.

If your parents always complain about you, it means that you are not working hard enough, so you have to work harder to make yourself better, so that your parents can't find a place to complain about you.

If your parents always complain about you, then it is possible that you have really done something wrong, and you need to find your own shortcomings and shortcomings, and work hard to correct them, so as not to complain about you.

Parents complaining about you means you're not good enough. You have to work hard all the time to make progress and give your parents a better life, you have to get better and better, so that they feel very proud and don't blame you.

It shows that you don't know your parents very well, and you don't have to communicate with your parents more. It's good to talk about the point of complaining and make it clear.

Explain that you still have a lot of things that dissatisfy your parents, and you have to work hard to become a better person, so that your parents will not complain about you, and it is best for your parents to understand you.

Then you should make it clear to your parents, so that they don't always complain about themselves, and if you really can't do it, you should stay away from your parents first.

Actually, you don't blame your parents, source.

Old kids, old kids. It's all like this. When people get old, the cerebellum atrophies, and their thinking is not very normal.

What a normal person asks you to do, what an abnormal person does. Just take their words, and go in the left ear and out the right ear. Don't take their words too seriously, but care for the elderly.

I'm just talking about when they chatter. You say that you talk to people with cerebellar atrophy about the truth, can you talk about it? Hehe.

Don't take it personally, or consider moving away from where you live. Good luck!!

As a child, there is always something wrong with your parents' faces, and no matter which parent loves their children the most. You have to know why your parents complain about putting on a face, and you should have something that you have to correct. As a mother, no matter how much you have to respect her first, whatever you do, communicate with her more, she must be the one who wants your life to be fulfilled the most.

When you arrive, she will know the hardships of being a parent at that age.