How can we keep love and family affection at the same time

Why didn't I promise you to be together? Unless selfish parents tend to think more about their children, for the good of their children, and want to solve this problem.

...Are you resolute enough?

If you give up the relationship because of your mother.

I think. You're so tragic.

This kind of thing is more extreme, there are only two options, either compromise or resist, since ancient times, loyalty and filial piety are difficult to achieve! For your own happiness in the future, think about it! It would be cruel to you to give him up.

That's just you insisting.

You have to show your mother that you are happy.

I think your mom will understand you eventually.

Love and affection though parents are very important. It is difficult to choose between this, even if your family stops you in every possible way, as long as you still insist on love, it proves that it is not wrong for your family to choose him.

I feel the same way as you. In the past, I ruined everything with my own hands. But I'm trying very hard to prove it.

If you choose love.

I think the people who love you will be very competitive about the choices you make.

Won't let your family figure out why you're wrong.

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Loved ones are supposed to be the ones we love the most, but if your loved ones are manipulators with narcissistic personalities, we will inevitably be hurt as well.

The Manipulator is a book on the subject of manipulators that helps us find answers that puzzle us. The author of this book, Isabel. Nazaré Aga received his national degree in psychokinesiology in 1986 from the prestigious saltpeter hospital in France.

Since 1990 he has opened a private clinic in Paris, focusing on cognitive-behavioral ** and training. Her research and work practice focuses on issues related to personal dignity, personal worth, interpersonal communication, and stress management.

1. Manipulators.

Manipulators have destructive relationships in relationships with people. These relationships involve love, family, friendship, or the workplace.

For example, some families have a controlling father or a controlling mother. In psychiatry, we call the controlling personality a narcissistic personality.

Controlling parents.

How does a long-term controlling parent affect a child? And how can we weaken or counteract the influence of controlling parents? Controlling parents will use some means to subtly belittle their children in order to achieve the goal of manipulating and using him.

For example, they will make the child believe in the superiority and authority of their parents, and the child will feel guilty. It's a slightly aggressive way to make people feel insecure.

Are manipulators pathological?

Narcissistic personality is a personality disorder. However, narcissistic personalities will not admit to having a mental disorder in any way. The manipulator's pathology, his distortion of reality, and the words he utters have a bad effect on the group he is a member of. Most of this group is family.

2. The influence of manipulative personality.

1. Parents with a manipulative personality will make their children doubt themselves.

An 11-year-old boy tries to explain to his father a petty altercation with his younger brother. But the father kept reprimanding: "Shut up!

You're wrong! It's you wrong! In any case, it's your fault!

The child stopped arguing and cried helplessly in a chair. In the process of getting along with the father and son, the father's attitude was always: "I don't care, I don't want to hear your explanation."

For a long time, the boy, tired of the struggle to express himself, may doubt his own knowledge of things. Maybe he grew up with this kind of doubt.

2. The manipulator will transmit a huge amount of negative energy.

Tatiana had never had a positive energy with his father. As long as his father was present, the atmosphere would be solemn. She and her mother felt that they were falling into a trap, because they were not allowed to make sounds, and they had to follow his rhythm.

When he's around, people always have negative emotions, and in order to keep him from getting angry, Tatiana and her mother need to constantly control their behavior. The father was present, and the whole psychology was tormented. His complaints, his temper, can always be passed on to other family members.

If it is a family guardian in life, I personally feel that if I want to get rid of it, it is better to talk to my family and tell them that I have grown up and some things can be solved independently.

By dealing with these problems independently, you can also improve your ability to make yourself stronger, after your parents hear their explanation, they will definitely be very relieved in their hearts, and they will also feel very gratified, I believe that their family protection of you will become a little less than the original, and you will also feel particularly free.

At this time, because you are not sensible, you will feel that it is not good for you to protect your family, and when they are not able to protect you, you will feel very cold.

In fact, it is a very happy thing to have relatives to protect it, in fact, if you are far away from your relatives, you can get rid of this kind of protection, but it is recommended not to.

It's good to have the protection of relatives, and with the love of your family, it's really safe.

Love is willing to pay and sacrifice unconditionally for each other, love a person does not need to be hungry for any reason, just hope that the other party will always be happy and never worry about the other party, because the other party is happy and happy, because the other party is happy and feel happy.

We all know that love represents a kind of responsibility, love is a kind of unconditional giving and sacrifice, love is endless and never lost, love is not not to reciprocate, and the return of love is the eternal joy and happiness of the other party. And the happiness of the other party is your happiness, and the happiness of the other party is your happiness, and you should be happy with her happiness and happiness with her.

There is no right or wrong in love, only whether it is suitable or not, willing or not, happy or not. When you can't be together anymore, it's not that she didn't choose you, it's not that you abandoned her, it's that happiness didn't choose you, happiness didn't choose you, and love didn't choose you. So don't be troubled, don't be sad, you should bless each other and hope that each of you will find your true love.

If you feel pain when you lose the other person, then it proves that you don't love her at all, you just want to possess her, and you will only suffer when your possessiveness cannot be satisfied. When you love someone, what you should think about is not what the other person can give you, but what you can give her, can you give her the affection she needs? Can you give her joy and happiness?

Can you be happy with her happiness, happy with her happiness? Only this kind of love is true love, and only this kind of love can be happy.

Friend, there is no reason for love.

I hope you can be happy, please be happy...

A new year has a new beginning. Don't think so much, it's important to be happy. 》

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