My family concept is very weak, and my parents always complain about me, what should I do?

I used to be like this, I often went out as soon as my friends called me, and my family always pushed me back. That's why my mom used to get angry about it, saying that they weren't as good as my friends.

Especially when my family sometimes asks me to do something or something, and I always refuse, they will feel that I don't care about this home at all, and say that I just treat my home as a hotel, and just come back to sleep.

Naturally, I have changed now, basically most of the time I stay at home, accompany my parents, and some friends will refuse to ask me to go out, not as on call as before.

Mainly because I think it's more important to be a family, and a few sincere friends between friends are enough, as for the fox friends who eat and drink in the sea, forget it.

Therefore, now I go home from work, accompany my mother to my sister's house on weekends to take my little nephew, or play cards as a family, eat and get together.

In fact, the reason for my weak family concept at the beginning was not what my parents thought, but because at that time, I felt that every time my parents asked me to do something, the tone was very like giving orders, and the tone was always very bad, just like I committed some serious crime and now I am asking me to make up for it.

I'm a person who eats soft rather than hard, so I'm sure I'll find a reason to flash in this situation, and this tone doesn't want me to do anything for them.

Sometimes my mother or my sister will let me accompany them to go shopping or something, this is also what I immediately refuse, mainly because I am really tired, they don't take a break after four or five trips back and forth on the pedestrian street, and they can't buy anything ......

So even if I still don't like it now, I will take the initiative to discuss with them, and everyone will take a step back, after all, the family needs to be managed, not just one or two people to pay.

So if your parents complain about you, wouldn't it be better if you could try to talk to them about the problem and explain the reason for the problem first, and then solve it together?

In my opinion, you don't need to take it too seriously, after all, you have your own code of conduct and ideas. Parents generally like to look at their children's problems from the perspective of their own ideological field, and we can't force parents to do anything about this.

There are two situations in the family concept that parents say, the first is that you are not married, and you will not put marriage in a very important position, at this time, parents may feel that your behavior violates a certain traditional idea, and then they will feel why you don't have an idea of forming a family in your heart? Is it normal? Do you have in your heart that you long for a family to live happily on their own?

Parents will think like this, after all, they are not you, and they can't take your mind into account.

It's true that I'm too selfish from my parents' point of view, but I still think it's okay to stick to my own ideas, don't be assimilated, and my parents complain about themselves, so find a suitable time to explain to my parents, don't keep piling up problems there, there will be big problems in the future. After all, you want your parents to know how you plan your so-called family.

The second situation is that I have been outside for a long time, and I have not gone home to see my parents, or I have very little time to greet my parents, in this case, my parents may be unhappy, of course, it will not be to the extent of complaining, and it is serious to the extent of complaining. They hope that we can care more about them and cherish the time together, because you are not good enough, so your parents will have such a complaining mentality.

We are not children, so don't take some of our parents' words to heart.

Chat with them more, send them QQ and WeChat more, contact them more, ask them more about their recent situation, the situation at home, what has changed at home, ask them more about what has happened to them recently, ask them more if they are happy, ask them more if they are happy, ask them more about what mood they are in now, say more I miss you, say more I love you, buy more gifts for dad and mom, coax them to be happy, try to follow them, filial piety, filial piety is not anything else, but shun. Following your parents and satisfying their ideas and needs is the greatest filial piety.

It's not because of filial piety that I asked you to do this, and it's not because I'm a traditional person, what I'm doing now is not to use traditional filial piety to pressure you and force you to do something you usually don't bother to do, but because your parents are actually the people who really love you in the world, young people don't love their families very much, and they don't know how to respond to their parents' love and miss is normal, because you are still young, and what occupies your mind the most is not filial piety to your parents, but other things.

For example, having fun, eating and drinking, and all kinds of things with friends, not parents anyway.

It's very unfair to parents, because you grow up, they get old, you start your youth, you start your indulgences, you start your new world and your new life, but they start more and more like to reminisce about the past, remember when you were younger, and start thinking about you more and more. Just when you and your friends are playing wildly, when you are alone watching movies, watching cartoons and watching comics, they are guarding the empty home and comforting each other, and while missing you, they say to each other that it's okay, you are doing well.

There is no way to do this kind of thing, you can only forcibly control it yourself, so you must always contact your parents, contact them more, and tell them that although I am outside, although I live a very free life, I always think about you, and I love you very much.

I think you should try to change, if you snub your parents too much, your parents will be very sad.

I don't know why you have a weak family concept, some people are born, some people are acquired, I belong to the kind of people who are born with a weak family concept, when I was very young, when other children couldn't leave their parents for a moment, I was sent by my mother to live at my grandmother's house for a week, I didn't cry or make trouble, and I didn't miss home at all, and I didn't want my mother or my father. When I grew up, I didn't want to go home, and I went out to study when I went out, and I didn't let my mother accompany me, I was alone outside, at that time, there were many girls in our dormitory who left home for the first time, and many people cried on the first night, but I didn't cry, because I didn't think there was anything to cry about, and I only called my mother after I arrived at the new school, and reported that I was safe, and I didn't hit ** for more than a month after that, and our other girls basically had to play a few times a week**, I didn't look at it, I just looked like a monster, and said I don't want to go home, and I said I didn't want to. And every time I hit **, it's basically my mom who beats it, and my mom doesn't dare to fight, my mom said that she was afraid that you wouldn't dare to disturb you in class.

I always thought that my mother just didn't care so much, and then he told me that he missed me very much and wanted to call me **, but he didn't know my time, and he was afraid that he would call, and I wouldn't be able to pick it up, and it would disturb me again. My mom sometimes asks me if I want them, and I say I don't want to, and then my mom gets angry, and my mom says you don't want me like that? And then after a few times I know, my parents are actually very complaining about me beating them **, but I do belong to the kind of people who are born with a weak sense of family, and sometimes I really can't remember, I beat them **.

But then as you get older, you know that there are some things you should do, such as saying a ** hello a week, there is nothing difficult, your parents will complain about you, but because they love you, they don't feel the love of others in you, so say give them a **, or sometimes take the time to come back to accompany them, there is really nothing difficult.

Now that you know that the problem is wrong, you should know how to correct your shortcomings, you should take the initiative to adjust your own concepts, you can usually care more about the situation at home, and you can often go home to see when you have time, so that your parents will not complain about you.

My parents also often complain that I don't beat them, and that I always focus on my career and ignore them. Some time ago, I went home for a little while, and found that my parents were old, and their gray hair was whiter than snow, and I couldn't take my eyes off it, and I vowed to make up for the years I had missed.

If parents who don't even have family affection are of course going to complain, you should think about how to give your own love to this family.

I guess you rarely go home, you have to spend more time with your family, and don't know how to cherish it until you lose it.

There are many possibilities for children to complain about their parents.

The first is pampered since childhood, and the clothes come to reach out for food to open their mouths. This kind of child has been satisfied with whatever he wants since he was a child, and he has not been taught to be grateful, nor has he been taught to have a degree in everything, so when he grows up, in the eyes of this kind of child, his parents will naturally satisfy him with what he wants. Even for the people around him, he took it for granted, and this kind of child is what we now call "bear children".

The second is that many needs have not been met since childhood, and they are often ignored by their parents, thus forming an unbalanced psychology, always feeling that their parents do not care about themselves, do not care about themselves, and their hearts cannot be opened.

The third is a bit more complicated. It is what we often say "stupid birds fly first", there is one of the most annoying, they can't fly, lay an egg in the nest, and want the next generation to fly hard. Due to long-term repression and control, the psychological imbalance leads to resentment.

The last option may be less common. It is the so-called "fighting parent" in psychology, and this type of parent itself has serious psychological problems, and may even be a person with a personality disorder. They are not "hoping that their sons will become dragons" or "hoping that their daughters will become phoenixes", nor are they asking for their children to be safe.

Rather, it is a vigorous tinkering, interfering in the lives of children, having three wrong views, and taking it as fun to destroy their children's lives and reflect their own values (such as the parents of some celebrities). Then, it is normal for some of the children of the last type to complain about their parents.

Judging from the above situations, except for the first type of bear children who are ungrateful, the other ones mainly lie in how to untie the knot and live a good life. After all, complaining too much is not good for physical and mental health.

I think people who always complain about their parents are psychologically extreme, your birth, your parents have no choice, you have to recognize the facts, accept the facts. If complaining won't solve anything, why bother. Time flies, we have grown up, but our parents have become old, we used to think that our parents can always accompany us to the end, but time waits for no one, and parents are no longer what they were then, I hope we can grow up faster than the speed of aging of our parents, so when you have time to complain about your parents, it is better to think about how you should work hard, find the right way, goal, and work towards the goal.

Such children must be pampered since childhood, and have developed the psychology of loving comparison, and once their parents cannot meet their expectations, they will complain. He only knows how to blindly take, he doesn't know how to fight for himself, he thinks that what his parents give is natural, and he never knows gratitude.

This is also inseparable from the parents' home education, and the wrong guidance of the education method is also an important factor in the current situation.

As the saying goes, if you don't raise your godfather, both parents and children are at fault.

It's a bit escapist, growing up means that you have to take responsibility for yourself, the world of adults is not easy, and your parents are out to blame.

I think people who always complain about their parents have a more extreme personality.

Causes of formation. 1. Parents neglect to educate their children about their families. Some parents do not tell their children about the actual situation of the family, including their parents' work, economic income, main assets, etc., but they do not say bad because of their face, and the family conditions are not good.

He also puffed up and said, "There will be bread, and there will be a big house and a good car." What other people have, we will have.

>2. The child's comparison psychology is too strong. The main business of the students is studying, and because of the unfavorable guidance, they do not focus on their studies, but on their material living conditions. What compares others is not learning and progress, but enjoying life.

3. There is not enough education for children's difficult experience. Parents work hard to start a business, so that children do not know; Life is rough and difficult, and I don't tell my children. Parents do not allow their children to participate in the work they can; Everything is carried and wrapped by parents.

Children don't experience it, and naturally they don't understand their parents.