My wife and mother in law always talk about my mother s fault

If your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not in harmony, you should advise your wife to tell her mother less about your mother's, after all, he is a junior and must respect your mother.

She should also know that you are a sandwich person.

If he loves you and respects you, he won't bring right and wrong home and make you embarrassed.

She should not let her mother know about her mother-in-law's affairs, her unhappiness with her mother-in-law is an additional matter, and when she returns to her mother's house, she must be a filial daughter, so as not to worry her mother because of her daughter.

Cantonese people often say: A good woman hides from both ends!

Brother, filial piety comes first! If you can bear it, you can bear it, and if you can't bear it, you should educate your wife and your mother-in-law well. It's best if you live alone with the younger couple, and the family will inevitably have some friction.

That's your mother, you should tell your wife to respect the elderly, and I won't say much else...The mother's starting point is always for the good of the child, and she should not be blamed for doing anything wrong, but should communicate...Think more from the mother's point of view, a woman who doesn't respect the elderly is not a good wife, hey....Wrath.

If it's your mother's mistake, people say that there is no way to do it, you can only keep silent, being a son is to be angry at both ends, coaxed at both ends, you are the key to solving the problem.

Oh, it's simple, you and your wife are doing things outside alone, don't go back for half a year, don't fight** Your mother-in-law knows it's wrong,

This is indeed the most difficult relationship ever, the most headache and the most difficult person to be, or the one who is a husband.

There is only one mother, and she should be respected, but not with you for the rest of her life. A wife is a person who wants to live with herself for the rest of her life, so she should love her well. Since you can't get along well, it's best not to live with your mother, and it is inevitable that there will be conflicts when you live together.

If you can't live separately, then you have to think about how to adjust, such as: try to listen to your mother's thoughts and opinions in front of your mother, don't go along with your mother's unreasonable things that cause conflicts between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and don't do things that embarrass your wife. Tell my mother how my wife thinks about my mother, is good to my mother, cares about my mother's health, and so on.

On the contrary, it is the same for the wife, saying what the mother has done for the wife, the mother is really good to the wife. My wife may sometimes misunderstand and so on.

If there is a conflict between your mother and wife and you on the scene, you can't ignore it in the middle, and you can't hurt the other party alone, which is sad and tortured for you. It's best to be right about things and not people, and you give them an analysis of the advantages and disadvantages in the middle, and patiently explain the difficulties such as empathy. No matter which side is wrong, you shouldn't blame, whatever is good, don't add fuel to the fire, then you will be miserable, after all, it is a family, and it is always bad to be hurt and angry.

Since my wife has returned to her parents' house, I should feel very aggrieved and feel uncomfortable; Of course, my mother was also sad. But the knot in their hearts is not untied, and the contradictions will be aggravated.

So I suggest that you do your mother's ideological work first, and tell her about your wife's goodness, which is very important to your son, because your son needs her very much, and if your mother is not good to your wife, your son will be very sad. Then go to pick up my wife back, remember to bring gifts to my father-in-law and mother-in-law, take the initiative to apologize, and protect my wife from being angry and wronged again in the future; Remember to buy a favorite gift for your wife, and the gift will give you extra points. Tell your wife that your mother misses you too, and your mother is also at fault, and she can't live with her wife, and she doesn't want to affect the relationship between her son and daughter-in-law because of her mother's affairs, etc.

also said that he didn't protect his wife well... They may not have thought or said so, but you can lie and say that family harmony is your responsibility!

This is an eternal problem, and it is not a problem to simply say that what is right or wrong, and it is the most difficult thing for a man to be a man at this time.

The ideological work of both sides must be done, and they are very important relatives, but things still have to be analyzed clearly, if you want to solve the problem, you must point out that their starting point is good, but there are problems with the methods and methods, and there are all need to be criticized, you can't be correct on both sides, if both sides are correct, both sides are very arrogant, and you will be even more unbearable in the future.

Let your wife understand that your parents are your bottom line, and in any case, you can't be offended, so to speak; Let the parents understand that the wife can't return the goods if they ask for it, and if you don't tolerate it, you are the hardest, and you can't beat them to make them angry. Persuade them not to go outside and talk. Also, if you can separate, you can separate yourself, and there will be fewer contradictions together.

Take your wife back first, and if you have the ability, you can live separately from your mother, and if you can't be separated, you will remain neutral in the event of a conflict, and then comfort them separately.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very difficult, but they are all together because they love the same man, so this man must do a good job on both sides

This matter can only depend on you to be round, coax on both sides, go and pick up your wife back, at this time the man should embody a big belly.

Both sides should be coaxed. Do your mother's work first, and pick up your wife back.

I can only be a little more tactful on my own and try to deal with the impasse.

Coax your mother first and then your wife.

Coax on both sides and make a double-sided tape.

You call ** to call your wife back, hey.

Bang bang is a few big ears.

Your wife knows if you're okay or not.

In China, the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a problem left over from history, but in fact, if there is a conflict between the wife and the mother-in-law, it is no less inferior. And for the husband, he has to pay more attention to the affairs of the mother-in-law, after all, the mother-in-law is not as big as his mother, and she must not be offended and cannot afford to offend!

So in this case, when we encounter such a thing as a wife saying bad things to her mother-in-law, can we only be in a hurry? No, of course not! Fools would make the decision to "let the passage of time dilute the contradictions between them", and as a witty man, we must learn to make good use of our identity!

First of all, it is definitely wrong for the wife to speak ill of the mother-in-law, but we can't say it clearly, after all, our hearts belong to the wife, and the body also belongs to the wife, which naturally belongs to the wife, so at this critical moment, we must not embarrass the wife, what is ......Go home and say!

Secondly, you have to try to reconcile the relationship between your wife and your mother-in-law, emmmmm......For example, if you send some supplements to your mother-in-law in the name of your wife, and send some clothes to your wife in the name of your mother-in-law, you have to believe that generally speaking, the anger between mother and daughter will not last long, even if they find out that you have deceived them after reconciling, they will not blame you, after all, ......Few people want to have a conflict with their family.

It must be dissuaded in time. This is a bad thing, the wife and mother-in-law are mother-daughter relationships, it stands to reason that it shouldn't be like this, if there is a situation, there must be a big contradiction, which has not been resolved, which leads to the addition of words, but no matter what the reason is, this situation should not happen, your dual identity as a husband and son-in-law, next to them, must be solved.

And you must try to be as impartial as possible, showing no partiality, so that they may listen to your advice and be willing to let you be the middleman. But you must pay attention to your attitude, that is, even if the mother-in-law is at fault first, you can't completely stand opposite the mother-in-law and help the wife say the mother-in-law, no matter what, the mother-in-law is an elder after all, if she makes a mistake.

You must also try to whisper as much as possible, not too loud and too much, after all, the old people want to save face, if you do too much, or the mother-in-law thinks that you are standing in your wife's position and bullying her together, it will be easy to make the mother-in-law unhappy, and you will have a hard life in the future, so no matter what, you must grasp the measure.

And if this kind of thing happens, you must also solve it as soon as possible, and you can't take it off for too long, otherwise it is easy to make the neighbors know about it, and it will have a great impact on your wife at this time, after all, no matter how the old man is, he can't say anything bad about it, and if you look for an opportunity, you must explain this truth to your wife, and ask him to change it, otherwise she can quarrel with her mother-in-law today, and she will definitely be able to quarrel with your parents tomorrow, what should you do then! So be sure to solve it well.

It's a conflict between their mother and daughter, and you can wait for them to calm down and persuade them to solve the problem. You should advise your wife to be respectful of your mother-in-law, after all, her mother is an elder. If your wife is sensible, she will follow your advice.

The most difficult thing to get along with in this world is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are like this and don't like to talk when they meet.

You have to guide your wife not to bring the grievances of adults into the child's world, no matter what happens between him and your mother, not to speak ill of grandma to your child, and not to let your child get close to grandma.

And then your question :

As an intermediary, you should mediate the contradictions between the two, instead of creating contradictions, go to other people's mother's house to beat your wife and other people's mother, you should reflect on yourself, what did your mother do wrong, instead of guessing that other people's wives instigated, no parents will instigate their daughters all day long, so that their children are unhappy, the problem has arisen, and we must find a way to solve it, in fact, the problem is on your side, not on people's side, you beat people like this, even other people's mothers also beat, this is not right, I don't have a good relationship with my mother-in-law, I don't want to see his mother, and I don't talk to his mother when I meet, but I never say bad things about my grandmother in front of my children, and I will let my children go to see my grandmother if I have nothing to do

It is easy to love someone's strengths, but it is difficult to tolerate someone's shortcomings, and if a person can tolerate each other's shortcomings all his life, it is the real feeling. Only the one who can tolerate himself the most is the one who loves himself the most.

The real relationship is the care and consideration of each other, the feeling of caring and cherishing each other, and the feeling of gratitude for your kindness to me and my better for you. I rub his shoulders when he's tired, and he listens patiently to my nagging when I'm in a bad mood. When it's cold, remind each other to put on more clothes, one person has a cough and a cold, and the other person can immediately serve water and medicine.

Silently remember what the other person likes to eat and leave it for him or her to eat ......

The real relationship is not a romantic flower and candlelight dinner, nor is it a sweet vow, it is a heartfelt care and thoughtfulness, and it is a real thoughtfulness and care in life! As long as you are genuinely caring and considerate, the other heart will definitely feel it!

Seriously go to her mother's house and talk to her, there is no knot that cannot be untied.

Your responsibility, why don't you chase when you're gone, you chase after so long, you have a little ninety-nine in your heart

Okay, ask a good friend who can teach you what to do...It's true!