I would like to consult an expert on how to be a good stepmother

Actually, what you think is good, but your husband is too nervous about the child, you should find a time to talk to him, if he still doesn't listen as usual, that is Xiucai meets the soldier It is reasonable to say that you are close to your responsibility to the child!In all conscience! Later you have another one with your husband to educate them in your own way, who doesn't like to listen to who pulls it to this is their own business.

Your original intention may be good Your kindness can't stand the test Your kindness is your kindness You just do your kindness Don't pay too much attention to other people's reactions to your kindness For example, others don't support you What's wrong With the passage of time, you don't change other people's minds But first change your own mind It means that your kindness is fake and can't stand the test How can others believe you and listen to you Friends are idle and look at things about Buddhism on the Internet Not necessarily you have to chant sutras or anything But Buddhism is about improving marriage Understand cause and effect Developing people's minds does have a lot of benefits, and you can see it when you're free, and it's definitely good for you.

This does take time, because after all, the child is so big, if you are a child, you may call your mother directly, but after all, she understands a lot of things, and many times, you may be in an awkward situation, or in a dilemma, or have a good talk with your husband, calm down.

His ex-wife may have just asked about the child's condition.

Actually, there is no need to do this deliberately.

If I remarry, I will love each other's children as if I were my own children, because since I have chosen each other, I will tolerate and understand everything about her, and I am willing to give everything.

1. First of all, we must treat it sincerely.

Don't think that the other party is a stepchild, so you don't dare to express your true self, dare not cause conflict, and swallow your anger in exchange for a smooth interpersonal relationship. A good interpersonal relationship is based on the "exposure of the true self" of both parties, and telling the truth is the most powerful and "low-harmful" at the same time. Don't think that you only need to do better than your biological parents to establish a good stepchild relationship, this kind of comparison hidden under words and deeds is often more likely to hurt the hearts of stepchildren.

Instead, it is better to face the problem head-on and admit frankly that you will never be able to compare with your own parents, but will try your best to provide what you can do as a stepparent. In this way, the child will also let go of "demanding" and "hostile", and give each other a chance to truly build a relationship.

2. Be accurate in your own positioning.

Stepparents should not try to replace their parents, in the child's psychology will always give the parents an unshakable position and space, children can give their parents love from their parents, and at the same time they can give stepparents love from their stepson, which is not contradictory.

Because from a psychological point of view, no one can "betray" their parents, and this practice of falling in love with stepparents, cutting off the relationship with their parents, or avoiding talking about their parents' relationship will put the child in a strong psychological conflict. A child will be willing to enter into a new family relationship with his or her stepparents only if the stepparents fully respect the ex and allow the child to maintain a close and solid bond with the biological parents.

The reason why they can get along in harmony is that both husband and wife can lead by example and deal with everything fairly and fairly, quarrels are inevitable, but the children must be let know what they have done wrong, so that they can learn to be tolerant, learn to apologize, learn to be considerate of each other, and the role models for children are their parents.