It s easy to get tired of your friends, and sometimes you hate the friends around you

In fact, when everyone knows each other, they have a good impression of each other because two people have similarities, and at the beginning everyone sees each other's good, only after a long time, the other party's defects will be slowly exposed, you will find out how this person is different from the beginning, in fact, everyone has two sides, just like the preconscious and subconscious, to learn to tolerate friends, and the relationship between friends is simple and simple, difficult to say, depending on how you look at it, send you a word: light friends for the longest time.

This is because the two of you are too close, how can you not be annoyed when you are together every day, how normal, friends can see each other in a few days, and the feeling of being separated is the best.

In fact, many of us have had this experience, but each person's experience and degree are different. In the beginning, everyone appreciated and identified with each other for many reasons, probably because of concepts, hobbies, habits, similar stories in the past, etc., and everyone hated seeing each other late. At first, we all respected each other very much and cared about each other's feelings, but at this time, we basically saw each other more on the good side of each other.

However, as the later deep friendship slowly discovers some of the shortcomings of the other party, coupled with the lack of attention to details when getting along at this time, problems often occur. Because when the relationship is familiar to a certain extent, we will get up very casually, and hurt the other party's self-esteem in unconsciously behavior, for example, we sometimes joke too much, but we don't know it yet (because we think the relationship is too good, we think it's okay), but we don't know that the other party is okay on the surface, but it's actually very sad in my heart, etc., after such an incident makes the other party tolerate more, it often erupts into the situation you said, it was originally a pair of very iron friends, and in the end it will become a mutual complaint that the other party doesn't understand, A situation where you want to avoid even when you meet. My suggestion is:

First, before making friends, know that everyone cannot be without flaws. No one is perfect, once you have determined that he is your good friend, you must be able to tolerate his shortcomings; Second, you also need to be objective about your friends' strengths and weaknesses. For example, which aspect of his (her) advantages and disadvantages is the majority, if it is the advantages that are the majority, then you can consider continuing to have a deep relationship; If it is the other party's shortcomings that you can't stand that account for most of the time you get along, you spend most of your time in forbearance and interact with him, so it will be very unpleasant.

Third, we must know how to empathize and respect others. This is also something that many of us tend to overlook, often because we hurt our friends casually and carelessly without noticing.

Let go of your heart and learn to exercise restraint... Whether you like it or not, learn to restrain yourself and control your emotions. Don't put everything on your face.

Psychologically, you're tired after excitement. It's like a child who cries a lot after laughing happily. Because I laughed too hard.

We must learn to face everything plainly, and be rational in everything we do and speak.

Maybe it's because all of them actually hate you in their hearts, and they have shown it when you don't know it, and you only suddenly realize it now.

Maybe it's because some of the shortcomings of friends are intolerable to themselves. That's why it's going to be annoying.

I also have the same trouble.,A true friend is enough to get along with me for a long time.,I can't be anxious to change the circle for a while.,And even if you barely fit into others, you're very aggrieved and can't maintain much.,My personal feeling is that you must keep your distance from other people.,It's really not easy to meet a confidant.,You must insist on not being affected.。

Friends are not forced, but as you said, this kind of friend is absolutely not sincere, you also have to pay attention to your own performance empathy, I have a very half-hearted girl in elementary school, sticking to you and embarrassed to say, very hateful to say,

Everyone is imperfect, you hate someone because he is different from you, try to find friends of the same kind.

You can only be an ordinary friend with him, and continue to look for a confidant on the other side.

A true confidant is hard to find. However, ordinary friends can also help you. You can put up with your current friends, but you also have to actively seek out your true soulmate, and maybe you can find it.

Endure tolerance, waiting for the chance of a confidant appearing, I also feel this way, but... I can't help it, bear with me

In fact, when you hate others, others also hate you.

If you are with your friends, it will make you feel more bored, then it proves that the two of you can not be regarded as real friends, but can only be regarded as passable on face, and the two have not said the truth to each other.

Since it's not really relative, it can't be said to be a friend, and it's okay to maintain a state of being able to get by in the future, when you're with your real friends, you can only feel physically and mentally relaxed, even if two people don't speak, you won't feel embarrassed, what you want to say can be? You don't have to beat around the bush, such people can be considered your friends when they are together.

If you don't have the slightest feeling when you're with this friend you're talking about now, but it's the opposite, then it's recommended that the two of you keep a distance, and don't go out together often, because both of you are tired of each other, or you are tired of him, and the two of you together will only make you feel more awkward in your heart.

Instead of torturing your heart like this, why don't you just deny this friend and do whatever you want? He will do whatever he wants? Two people, just don't interfere with each other, there is no need to have friends to fellowship.

I'm this kind of person with a more straightforward personality, if my friend feels like this when I'm with me, then I think I will never go out alone with him again in the future, and I won't be very close to her, because I think such a person may, I don't know if I like it and can't be friends with him, there is no need to bother with such a person.

Answer: If the other party dislikes you, first see if he is worth it for you to redeem If it's not worth it, forget it If it's worth it, don't cause him to be disgusted First let it go After a while, he communicates Usually meet and talk about it It's good to make an effort in this regard, in fact, this is like marriage, two people will get along for a long time, there will be a lot of contradictions, no matter what, it depends on how your mentality is adjusted.

Question: We are junior high school students and often get together together.

It's okay to ask questions, mainly because she always wants to be angry with me.

When I asked questions, I felt that she always said my shortcomings, but the aspects she said were changed by two people together, and she only knew my shortcomings.

Answer that this is your fault, since you know your shortcomings and let you change, say that you are interested in you, and really treat you as a friend, you can also have a good chat with her, and force her to change with you, isn't it just mutual support between friends.

Question: She wasn't like this before, and after getting along for a long time, she would rather care about others than about me.

I feel like I always have to do things according to her wishes, or she will pull her face down.

Question: But last week my feet hurt, and instead of caring about me, she told me to go faster.

Let me ask you what kind of character she is in life.

In the process of getting along with friends, it is inevitable that there will be some small friction, and even feel bored, that kind of boredom, is the feeling of longing to break off the relationship between the two, I have a deep experience, the relationship with a few friends before is particularly good, after a long time, there will be a feeling of irritability, but I did not think about leaving, but in three ways to resolve this embarrassment.

One is to take the initiative to talk to a friend about things between the two, and a true friend should tell the truth, no matter how sharp the words are. I would tell my friend how I felt about him, what I felt he was not doing well and causing me to be bored with him, and I would tell him that I hoped he would correct some of his shortcomings, and of course I would ask him what I was not doing well, and I would be able to correct it. Both people can sincerely point out the strengths and weaknesses of the other, and if there are others, only the hearts of two people want to get better, and this feeling of boredom will disappear soon.

The third is to reflect on oneself, try to be able to tolerate each other, rather than blindly bored with each other, reflect on their own problems in everything, no matter what others are, they must change themselves first, only when they change, can they really make progress and better integrate with others. Don't be self-centered, but think more about your own shortcomings, how can you turn your shortcomings into your own strengths, as long as you continue to improve yourself, you will be able to figure out many problems that you don't understand, and you won't have that bad feeling about your friends.

It is normal for you to feel very tired and bored after spending a long time with your friends. But you have to understand that friends are not the only ones, a person can have many friends, one can play with another friend when it doesn't go well, you know that no one can get along with anyone until the end, without conflict, without boredom.

If you feel that it is really difficult to get along with your friends as well as before, then you can keep your distance from your friends. You have the feeling of boredom with a person, but at the same time the other person must have the same emotion towards you, you stay away from him a little and he will naturally know what it means, and two people should keep a proper distance from each other. I've heard the saying "The relationship between people is like a hedgehog in the cold winter, you will feel cold when you are far away, and you will be stinged when you are close", this sentence is not bad at all, and it is necessary to keep an appropriate distance between people at will.

Not to mention with friends, you have grown so old and you must have had a lot of conflicts with your parents for so long, and you will be very tired of them, and sometimes you can't wait to go home all the time, because most people feel that they will be bored when they see us, so they will keep their distance. So, the relationship with your parents is the same, let alone with friends who are not related by blood

A friend of mine and I in college was like this, at the beginning, we had been eating and playing games together in class, but after a long time, I found that there were many problems with this person, and I couldn't get along at all, and sometimes I couldn't listen to what he said, and even felt disgusting......So then I slowly stayed away from him, and I didn't lack friends, and I was half a courtesan at school, so I didn't call him when I ate or went to class in the future, and he slowly kept his distance from me. And then we're not in a bad relationship now because we're not together a lot. I play with other people every day, even if I can't stay together all day, but it's also nice to change people who walk with me every day, different people will bring different feelings, so it won't be so easy to get bored.

In fact, friends who have been together for a long time are the kind of people who have a particularly good relationship together, because the two of you have been in a relationship for a long time, so you can understand and tolerate each other.

Like the kind of friend who gets along for a longer time, the better the relationship must be, and it is very suitable for his own friend, because the hobbies and three views of two people are the same, so they especially like to be with each other, and hope to make friends with each other.

But there is another possibility, that is, the more you get along with that person, the more you hate that person, then you are not suitable to be friends, because after two people have been together for a long time, you know what kind of person he is, and you know what kind of character he is.

You also find some shortcomings in his life, and you find that you can't tolerate some of his shortcomings, so you start to hate him more and more.

If that's the case, I think you can gradually start to distance yourself from her, because since you've been with him for so long and find more and more of his shortcomings, it means that the two of you are not really suitable to be friends together.

I can't specifically say who is right and who is wrong, it's just that the three views of two people are different, facing the same thing, there may be different ideas, if he does what he wants to do, you feel wrong, if he follows your ideas, he may be unhappy.

If that's the case, it's better to find a friend who wants to vote, and the two of them are happier together, there is no need to torture each other.

The best way is for you to gradually distance yourself from him, and don't suddenly ignore him at first, because he may really think of you as a friend and will be happy with you.

If you suddenly start to distance yourself from him, he will find it unacceptable, and the relationship between the two people will collapse, which is not good.

Because neither of you has done anything wrong, it's just not good for you to be friends.

I think in this case, I will choose to be alone, so that I can relieve my feelings, and it will not hurt my friendship, and I can usually exercise on my own.