Why does the baby recognize the birth and not let others hold it? How do they do it?

Introduction: We often find that many babies only let their parents hold, not let others hold, this is because the baby will recognize the birth, they will naturally resist strangers, then many people will be very curious, why the baby will recognize the birth of not let others hold how they do it, let's take a look.

Many babies can distinguish their parents and others by smell, because their parents have a unique smell, parents get along with their children day and night, children can naturally identify the smell of their parents, which is also a reason for children to recognize life, many parents have their own unique taste, every day holding the baby can naturally smell the smell of parents, if strangers come to hold them, they will be very resistant.

Many people think that young babies don't understand anything and can't tell their parents from other people, but this is actually a very wrong idea, even if they are small babies, they can tell their parents from other people. If other people want to hold their baby, the baby will definitely cry, but when parents go to hold the child or other relatives to hold the child, the child will not cry, and the child will judge by his appearance that this is his own relative.

Children also have feelings, they can judge their parents and others through their own feelings, so in normal times we will find that some children's parents are very well-behaved, but strangers will cry when they hug, this is the child's sixth sense at work, for such children, their chances of being abducted by strangers will be greatly reduced. Because this kind of children are very aggressive and smart, but parents should also be careful not to often give their children to others to hold, for those children who do not recognize the birth, they are also very dangerous, because they are very difficult to cry in normal times, strangers hold them and they will not cry, it is likely to be dangerous.

Because there are many babies who are very introverted and have very little guts, this will happen. And I think the reason why they do it is because their children's personalities are very cheerful and very good at communicating with people, so we must look at it rationally.

This is because babies can feel whether they are their relatives through appearance, smell, sound, and feeling, and they are insecure about strangers, so they will recognize life.

Because the baby is insecure, the baby does not like to be held by others, and the baby is not familiar with these people. Smell the smell.

Because he is insecure, he will be insecure when he leaves the people he is familiar with, so he does not let others hug him.

This is because the child's personality is more timid, the child is not familiar with others, and is more afraid, so he will naturally not accept others to hold him.

Because the baby's personality is very timid, there will be this situation.

Don't forcibly hold the baby, give him time to observe, give him time to understand, he is familiar with it, understand that it is a family member, and will naturally recognize. When you start to hug, you should also tentatively touch his hands and feet, and attract him with his favorite toys.

It is possible that the baby is still afraid of strangers, so he just doesn't like strangers to hold him! At this time, the mother must not force him to accept, if this is done for a long time, it will cause the child to grow up insecure, and it will also make the child have social difficulties!

At this time, parents should not reprimand their children, but should be more tolerant of their children, after all, this is a very normal performance, and parents should take care of their children gently. Let the child know that the outside world is not so dangerous and that even strangers can hold the child. Try to make your child feel the kindness of strangers, or you can use toys to attract your child's attention, so as to improve the habit of recognizing life.

The innocent and cute appearance of the little baby always makes people want to hug it, some little babies will smile and throw themselves into their arms when they see an adult stretching out their hands, but there are also some small babiesIt's embarrassing not to give face

Refusing to hold the baby seems to like only the mother, and when outsiders get close, they avoid it and even cry. It can't help but make parents doubt that the baby will grow upInterpersonal communicationThere will be no problems.

Small babies are not "recognized" at birth, but newborns are more "bold" and don't care much about who is holding them. This refusal of the baby's arms is a normal manifestation because he begins to recognize life after a certain age of months.

If the baby is a few months old, it may not be a good thing to meet unfamiliar people or "anyone holds them", and parents should understand the laws of the baby's cognitive development.

When the baby's eyesight is not very good, mainly rely on sound and smell to find the mother, and it is easier to be found by another person to hold him.

At this stage, the baby basically does not recognize life, and is usually not afraid to see strangers, and rarely has the problem of others wanting to hold but not giving face.

Babies have their own standards of beauty

Babies don't like to be held by people who look "ugly", of course, this ugliness is only the standard for judging babies. Maybe it's an old man with gray hair, or maybe it's an old manA "beauty" with dyed hair

What is normal in the eyes of adults may be a little "scary" in the eyes of small babies, who are scared and refuse each other's arms.

Babies don't like bad smells

Some babies have a situation where they accept the other person's arms at first, but just hug themI just want to break free, maybe there is a bad smell on the other party.

Little babies have sensitive noses, and they are familiar with the smell of milk on their mothersI hate the smell of perfume and the smell of tobacco and alcohol。If the smell on the other party's body is unpleasant, even elders such as grandpa and grandma will be rejected if they want to hold the baby.

There is no sense of security in the arms of others

After 6 months, babies are becoming more and more cognitive, and they can distinguish between gentle and friendly and strange and dangerous ones.

At this stage, babies "recognize life" out of their own protection, and they feel that they are by their parents' sideThe safest, no matter how unfamiliar people coax, they can't get the baby's arms.

As babies learn to walk and come into contact with more and more people, they are bolder, who were originally afraid of everything.

After a long period of contact with their parents, babies gradually understand that they are protected by their parents, so as long as they are sure that their parents are around, they will not react particularly violently to strangers.

Most babies will go through the stage of recognition, which proves that the baby has enoughObservationand be security-conscious.

Parents should not scold the baby for being timid in this situation, otherwise it will aggravate the child's reluctance to contact people. What's moreDon'tWhen the child has already expressed his refusal, alsoForcibly sending the child into the arms of the other party.

This kind of behavior will break the child's established defensive mentalityToo trusting strangers, which is not good for their own safety. A few months old baby "whoever holds it" is not necessarily a good thing, parents should allow the child to refuse.

【Today's topic】When did your baby start to recognize his birth?

Everyone has seen such a baby, when you go to hug him, he hides vigorously, does not let him hold, always listen to people, the baby will recognize people, only allow mom or dad to put it, do not hold others. There are also babies, who can hold it, as long as it is to hold and play, like this situation is not the baby is still young, do not recognize people. How many months does your baby start to recognize someone?

How many months does your baby start to recognize someone?

According to the research of American psychologists, babies can know their mothers at three months. However, according to the general belief in China, the baby can clearly distinguish the images of his relatives at four months, which means that the baby can know his mother at four months.

American psychologists in the 60s found that newborns are most interested in face pictures soon after birth, but recent research has confirmed that babies under 2 months of age can not distinguish between face pictures and fake face pictures, and they look at these two pictures for about the same time.

This is because such a young baby is not yet able to see the detailed features in the figure, such as the vertical edges in the face, such as eyes, eyebrows, nose, mouth, and other details.

How to know that the baby is starting to recognize the mother.

1. Gaze into your face.

When you feed and cuddle your baby, he will look at your face, which means that he has developed a basic identification with you, so he will stare at you.

2. Constantly looking for you.

When your baby is already recognising you, you will find that he is constantly searching for your face in the crowd and constantly staring at you, so that you will know that your baby knows that you are his primary caregiver. Your baby's gaze on you shows that he recognizes you.

3. Identify your breast milk.

It's a natural ability that your baby will recognize the taste of your breast milk. Basically, in the newborn stage, the baby relies on this to recognize you as a mother. If you're feeding formula, or someone else's breast milk, it can cause your baby to panic.

4. Recognize your voice.

According to research, babies have very sensitive ears and will recognize human voices. This means that your baby will recognise your voice and intonation. So when you speak, your baby will turn his head to look at you.

The baby began to recognize people at the age of three or four months, which is why the baby began to let Kib be held by others at this time, some babies are better, as long as they are in their own family, they can be held, and some babies only recognize their mothers, only let their mothers hold. In this case, parents should take their babies out for a walk, contact more people, and no longer recognize birth.

The baby began to recognize life at a very young age, others began to cry as soon as they hugged it, and the grandparents at home did not let them hug, even the father would cry when he hugged him, only recognized the mother alone, but held the baby for a long time, the mother's body will also be "unbearable", in the face of this situation, how should it be solved?

The reason why the child is born

1. Insecurity.

The scope of children's lives is small, generally only in their own homes, rarely goes out, and rarely comes into contact with outsiders, is very dependent, only in the mother's arms can there be a sense of security, and will be anxious when leaving the mother.

2. Environment. Many babies in big cities are basically in their own homes, living in high-rise buildings, no playmates of the same age, at home except for their parents can not contact outsiders, in the long run, children will form a habit, that only with parents is safe, so see strangers will feel insecure, and even afraid.

3. Improper education methods.

The child is still young, more naughty, often disobedient, not eating well, and even crying, etc., at this time many parents will use language to scare the baby, such as: "If you are crying, I will throw you in the trash can for the bad guys to pick up"; "If you don't obey the police, your uncle will arrest you" and so on, this method will make the child insecure and scared, thus forming a timid and introverted character.

What should parents do in the face of a recognized baby?

1. Take your baby out more often and see the big world outside.

Generally speaking, the baby begins to slowly enter the recognition period after 3-4 months, at this time the mother can prepare a light, convenient and comfortable stroller for the baby, take the baby out of the activity, let the baby contact the outside world, play with the baby of the same age, see more different environments, understand different sounds and faces.

2. Have more contact with strangers.

Many babies do not let the family hold, only recognize the mother alone, because usually the mother is taking care of the baby, so usually let the father or other family members take care of the baby, when others are taking care of the baby, the mother does not appear in the baby's sight, let the baby get used to staying with other family members, and so that the baby gets used to it, and then let the baby and neighbors, friends around the contact, so that the baby's inner vigilance disappears.

3. Give your baby a sense of security.

The baby is likely to be insecure, so the mother and family should give the baby a full sense of psychological security. Mom and family should keep a calm mind in daily life, when the baby cries, the mother should maintain enough patience, do not scold the baby loudly, when relatives and friends come to visit the baby at home, the mother should remind them to be gentle when approaching the baby, not too rude, and do not speak loudly.

When the baby recognizes the birth, the mother will be very tired, and the baby's personality will also be timid and afraid, so parents must pay attention to it and accompany the baby more.

The baby recognizes people because he has been in the environment he is familiar with for a long time, and is taken care of and gets along with the people he is familiar with, and if he wants to change, he needs to often take the child out to contact different people and different environments, so that he no longer faces the unfamiliar environment and people are afraid.

You can take him to the mall, because he often hasn't seen many people at home, so he will be particularly afraid of life, and he can also take him to the amusement park, so that he will see a lot of things, so that he will slowly become bold and unrecognizable.

Take him out to play more, and when he comes into contact with more people, he won't recognize his life.

Newborn babies, it is best not to let these kinds of people hug, parents must be careful!